I'm Breaking Up With "The Real Housewives of New Jersey"

Photo Credit:  BravoTV

Photo Credit: BravoTV


Caroline Manzo, original cast member and matriarch of “The Real Housewives of New Jersey” has packed her leopard print bags and bid farewell to the the show.  In addition to Caroline, original cast memberJacqueline Laurita is also leaving the show, and Kathy Wakile is being downgraded from cast member to “friend” of the show.

In a statement on her Instagram account after part 2 of this season’s reunion aired, Caroline said, “”There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy.”

I couldn’t agree with her more.

Which is why I am finished doing recaps for “The Real Housewives of New Jersey”.

Here’s the thing.  I’ve had a love / not-hate-but-actively-dislike relationship with RHONJ since last season’s reunion when I wrote THIS POST about the show needing an overhaul.  But yet, I came back for another season of the Teresa versus Melissa show with the hopes that they would move past the BS in the first two of three episodes of the season and then get to getting on with these fabulous women.  I wanted to see more of Kathy finding her footing in the business world, Jacqueline finding her voice as an advocate for families dealing with autism, and Melissa continuing to balance the wants of her career with the demands of her husband and family.  I was hopeful that Teresa and Joe would repair what seemed to be a fractured relationship last season, and I was really interested to see what new challenge Caroline was going to take on in this second season of her life.

I got none of it.

Instead, I was handed an entire season of the continued drama that is she-said, she-said between Teresa and Melissa, confrontations and lack of accountability, and the continuation of lies, manipulations, and worse than high school behavior from hangers-on that want camera time.

Let’s throw in lingering criminal charges for driver’s license fraud, new still-pending criminal charges stemming from a incident that Bravo chose to edit around (which made for a disjointed and inaccurate episode presented to the public late in the season), and a laundry list ofFfederal charges against the Giudice’s in to the mix.

While I have always tried to remain neutral and give everyone the benefit of the doubt (it is – after all – a television show), I have never hidden that I am friendly with members of several of the cast members families.  They have all treated me with kindness, respect, and friendship.  I judge people not for what 80-100 hours of film that’s edited in to an hour long reality show portrays, but for how they treat me when I interact with them.  I’ve had authentic conversations – not “fan bullish*t” – with these people; they are as humble, genuine, focused on their family, and appreciative of the things they have as anyone I’ve ever met.  For me, that’s all I need.

What I have been subjected to are the vicious, disgusting, foul-mouthed, and vile commentary on my social media channels by those that feel that they are defending “their team”.  Telling the “real truth”.  ”Setting the record straight”.  If any of these fame-hungry individuals spent even a third of the time giving back to their community as they spent causing trouble on social media, the world would be a better place.

My life is not enhanced by being an active participant in “The Real Housewives of New Jersey” any longer.  I’m not interested in finding a way to spin the continued drama and nonsense that I’m fed for 22-24 episodes a season.  I want to watch TV that makes me laugh.  That’s fun.  That’s something I can go back to considering a “guilty pleasure” as opposed to just feeling “guilty” because I’ve wasted my time watching it.

I’ll continue to support the women from the show that I care about, in all of their personal endeavors outside of the show.  But my days blogging about RHONJ are over.

Let’s bring on “The Real Housewives of New York” – now those ladies crack me up!


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