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Oh I wish! Actually, the title of this entry was inspired by some advice a coworker gave me. We were talking about relationships, guys, you know, the whole dating topic, and I was hopeful during that talk because I came to find out that she had met her fiancé online after a string of bad dates right before. So, I thought to myself, it really can be done! I can meet someone online, in person, whatever, if can happen! I mean of course I know it can, but with a string of guys that turned out to be 'time wasters,' I naturally have my doubts. Then she gave me some pretty [seemingly] good advice. She told me that the next time I go out on a date, tell that guy that I'm dating 5 other guys, and she said tell your date right upfront, so he'll know that he's not your only option. I totally thought this a brilliant idea, it would make it so that if he really wanted me, he'd have to put in quite a chase to 'scoop me up' before one of my other potential suitors did and it would show that I'm not hoping that he turns out to be 'the one.' It would let him know, up front, that this was just one date out of my many. I thought that regardless of if it were true or not (and it certainly isn't right now) saying I was dating a literal hand full of men was harmless. Then I thought, should I say that? I mean the question usually always comes up, "So, how many guys are you talking to right now?" Should I at that point, look at him and confidently state, "Oh, I'm seeing about 5," continue eating, then ask him the same? I'm assuming it would make me feel kind of, powerful in a sense, even though I would know that it’s so not true (at least for the time being its not!) I'm also assuming that it would make him step up his game in order to 'win me over' and beat out all the 'others.' I've been debating this advice with myself since I received it. Ladies, please give me your opinions. Do you feel this is a good idea or is it just another game to play in the world of dating? -L.L.
