I'm fascinated by New Year's Resolutions but I don't make them. Do you?
I don't do New Year's resolutions. I can't remember a year when I made a resolution and I'm not sure why. It might be because I realized at a very young age that nobody seems to keep their resolutions. It might also be that I tend to be a non-conformist. It might also be that all of the most popular New Year's resolutions make are so depressing and I really try not to make lists that are going to depress me. Or maybe I'm just plain lazy or such a procrastinator that I know I'll never achieve a resolution, so why bother making one in the first place?
I'll tell you what I do make... I make lists. Lots and lots of lists. Here, I'll prove it to you.
1) On my desk, next to my laptop, you can tiny squares of paper pulled from a page a day calendar with half dozen lists I've made over the last week.
2) I make daily or semi-daily "To Do Lists" and post them on my private message boards and scratch each completed item off, religiously. (Sassymonkey can verify this... by the way, she does it too, sometimes.)
3) If you peek at my computer, and click the Evernote tab, you'll see dozens of lists I've made over the last year. Shopping lists, lists of ideas, lists of people I needed to talk to or email. Lists of all sorts.
4) Wander through my blog and you'll find a number of Meme type lists. I'm a sucker for a good Meme list.
Since I am such a list maker, you'd think wouldn't bat an eye at the idea of making a list of New Year's Resolutions. It seems like a no brainer for me to sit down this week and make a list of things I want to change or improve or achieve over the next year. But I won't. Unless of course the perfect resolution Meme appears. So far, I haven't found that Meme.
I've found the End of the Year Meme which is another reminder of why I don't do resolutions. That question "Have you accomplished your 2007 resolutions" thing is just depressing.
I've found the Year in (P)Review Meme which I like quite a bit better and might just have to try.
There are so many reading list memes that I can't begin to list them all, but this 2008 Author Challenge is really interesting to me. I'm also considering creating my own Young Adult Reading Challenge for 2008, but I haven't done more than just think about it.
And of course, there's the 101 things in 1001 days meme that I started a very long time ago. I've loved doing it but I've also been frustrated by it. (Zan has one too) The things I put on the list on day one quickly became impossible, due to extenuating life circumstances beyond my control. Still. It's been interesting and when it ends in less than a year, I think I'll do it again. It's a lot like a "New Year's Resolution" list - but different, somehow.
What about you? Will you be making resolutions this year? Do you have a really great resolution type meme to share? Drop your link to your post about resolutions or list memes into the Mr Linky below. Drop your updates in here as the year goes by, too. I'm fascinated by everyone's plans for the year and even more fascinated by how progress is made - or isn't made.
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I still find the 101 things scary
Even though I made the list. I think it's funny that one of the things I put on there as a lark I'm actually going next month (the Paris trip). Life is odd.
For the YA thing I think you should read all the Printz winners and honor books. (There is a Printz award challenge going in 2008 - I have the link somewhere...)
And yes everyone, Denise does make lots of lists. I officially verify that. And yes, I also sometimes make a to-do list. Usually for the weekends.
Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.
Printz Award Challenge it is...
I tracked down the Printz Award Challenge blog and it's too easy - so you're right, I'll have to read them all - and I've made that commitment. Along with a From the Stacks Challenge.
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
Lists are better than resolutions!
I've never really been a big New Years resolution-maker, either. I thought I'd posted something about it last year, but looking back at this time in 2006 I can't find a post about it! So it obviously wasn't that important. :)
But yes, my 101 Things list has definitely been a bigger motivation to me than any New Years resolution ever has. I think it has to do with accountability, and holding myself to making updates.
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For me, it isn't accountability
I always hold myself accountable, list or no list - resolution or no resolution.
Prince J said I don't make resolutions 'cause I am already perfect and resolutions are about improving yourself or your life. And, he might be right. I'm happy with who I am and with my life.
The 101 things list, isn't about improving myself or my life, it's about getting stuff done... more or less. The items on my list that are self improvement-like are the ones least likely to get done, lol.
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
I resolve
every day when I try to button my jeans that I'm going to lose weight, but by afternoon I'm eating something horribly fattening again. Imagine how long a resolution mean to last a whole year would stick to me!
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http://first50.wordpress.com/
Err Virginia
I've met you in person, you don't need to lose weight. Buy a different style or type of jeans instead. Susan can probably help you find a pair that's a better fit. :-)
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
I love New Year's Resolutions!
My year started oddly last year because I'd just been laid off (so I guess I resolved to get a job), but the year before I resolved to take a year off from Internet dating, which I did. Other resolutions include no alcohol for a year (made it to August, but dumped it when I was cheated on) and ordering nothing but water to drink in restaurants for a year (totally made it).
This year I have two resolutions, and I will blog about them on my blog on Dec. 31st.
I also do goal-setting, but I consider that separate from resolutions, which I design to be simple to conceive and yet challenging to complete. Also, goals can change and evolve throughout the year, while resolutions are absolutes.
Liz Rizzo
I blog at Everyday Goddess.
Absolute vs Changeable
Another reason why I am probably hesitant about resolutions. I don't like absolute. It doesn't give me the control or the freedom to drop what I'm doing and change directions. If I had an "absolute", I'd want nothing more than to do the opposite and when I did, I'd be tempted to be annoyed with myself. I don't need that type of stress in my life. And, there's nothing I'd need to change "absolutely" anyway. ;-)
I look forward to your post today... I don't think you've made it yet but I haven't read my feeds since this morning, so maybe you have. I'll go look.
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
A sexy resolution
I read in Glamour magazine a diary from a man who made a New Year's Resolution jointly with his wife. They resolved to have sex every single day. It was fascinating to read this article that chronicled (in PG-13-rated detail) how they went about fulfilling this resolution--especially the part about how they "hit a wall" and didn't think they could possibly go another day, but when they made it over the hump (no pun intended) how much better it got. That's one resolution I wouldn't mind trying! ;)
Just the Way It Is - A laugh, an epiphany, a like-minded soul
Sexy resolutions
LOL These sort of violate "Denise" rules but I see from my s/o's resolution list that she has resolved to have more sex - among other things. I'm tempted to have LESS sex just to show her who's boss. I'm a control freak, in case you didn't know that. ;-)
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
Year-end Conclusions
I've never been a big fan of New Year's resolutions - thinking, "why wait till New Year's to set personal goals for myself?"
So this year, yesterday to be exact, I decided to reverse the New Year's resolution thing and instead, resolved to wrap up loose ends and deal with a variety of issues before New Year's day. The biggest step I've taken thus far is to finally break off a two year relationship that I've been unhealthy bitching about on and off the entire time! Wahoo! I feel lighter already!
So here's to clean slates and a bright, New Year!
Helene
The Modern Woman's Divorce Guide
http://themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog
Nice Helene!
Agreed - here's to the clean slate.
Lisa Stone
BlogHer Co-founder
Surfette
A 2 year relationship?
Wow. How did you break it off? Was it easy once you started?
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
Cannot wait to read your list Liz
I love resolutions, D, you and I are going to have to disagree here! Just added mine to your meme. Thanks.
Lisa Stone
BlogHer Co-founder
Surfette
New Year's Resolutions are done!
And linked up! Love that widget. I really enjoy reading what everyone's resolving.
Liz Rizzo
I blog at Everyday Goddess.
I'm always right, Lisa...
You aren't allowed to disagree with me, you know that! First Twitter and now resolutions. Tsk tsk tsk.
Actually, I like your list. I couldn't make one like it but it's the kind of thing I like to read from other people. (And I'm always amused by C's twitters about "date night". Heh.)
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
I Resolve to...
1. Work smarter, not harder (also under this category: don't get distracted by email or stupid things on the internet while trying to work)
2. GET MORE SLEEP!
3. Read blogs - I say this because as I get more involved in blogging, I find myself with less and less time to actually READ blogs and it really bothers me.
:) Izzy
Izzy, I agree...
I just added WRITE as a category to my list of resolutions. I once had a brilliant fiction coach who told me, "If you're not reading, you're not writing." So right. I just re-bought my favorite book on writing by Stephen King, and a new one by Walter Mosley. Now I just have to find the time to READ them...
Lisa Stone
BlogHer Co-founder
Surfette
Get more sleep!
Now you sound like my over-extended middle schooler (and that's a compliment.)
They had a special "guidance counselor" session in the first quarter to help them manage the stress of middle school and they were supposed to create personal goals every week. She always wrote "get more sleep" - but she had no way to actually achieve that, because she's over-extended. It made me ill every time she told me her weekly goal.
How are you going to get more sleep??? Maybe you have a strategy that will work for our RJ?
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
Funny, I just started
Funny, I just started writing about my goals for the new year earlier today! I've never been much for resolutions before, but I'm making some goals this year.
http://www.aforementionedthoughts.com
Your comments are broken
I tried to comment on your blog but your comments are broken (lots of scary error messages when I tried to submit)... so here's my comment:
Good luck with your goals! How are you going to log your foods? Sparkpeople? Fitday? Some other food journaling program?
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
Book Reading Challenge(s)
My NYResolution last year was to read 50 books. I got to 48. And so, of course, this year's resolution will be the same. (There's actually a community on LiveJournal soley dedicated to this goal which is where I initially got the idea last year.) I haven't yet written about my failure (boo) from this year or the fact that I'm doing the same thing this year, hopefully with success! However, when I do, I'll come back and link the post. :) It will be written in the new blog as well, set to launch on the 1st.
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Jenna
Family Living; Hatfield Style - soon do be defunct; new blog launching on the 1st!
Birth/First Parent Blog
The Chronicles of Munchkin Land
Reading Challenges
I'll be posting about book challenges early in the New Year. There's a ton of them!
Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.
How interesting
I'm in two book discussion groups, which means 24 books a year just for that. Only 26 more to reach a goal of 50. I think this is such an interesting goal and idea. How detailed a record do you keep of what you read?
http://www.webteacher.ws/
http://first50.wordpress.com/
This Year? SUPER Detailed!
I had a list last year that I wasn't up-to-date with at any given time. This year I'm employing my GoodReads account to help keep me updated and on track. I created a "Read in 2008" list. Hopefully it will contain 50 wonderful books by the end of the year!
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Jenna
Stop, Drop and Blog - unveiling the new family site.
Birth/First Parent Blog
The Chronicles of Munchkin Land
That's a great idea, Jenna.
I love GoodReads...I'll probably steal your idea about that list. : ) I have a hard time finding people on there to friend but I'll try to connect with you (or hope you put a link on your blog) so I can check out what your book plans are.
Laurie
LaurieWrites
Reading challenges
I'll be counting up my books from 2007 shortly, I'm sure I got 50 but not sure how much over 50 I managed. There were some pretty slow reading weeks for me this year.
I've created two reading challenges for myself for 2008. I love reading challenges - even when I have to scramble to finish them (like I'm doing for the A to Z challenge I started at the middle of January last year!)
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
146 books in 2007
I just tallied my books for 2007 - 146. Not as slow as I thought. :-)
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
Wow! Denise...
I am just ever more amazed at how generally prolific you are. : )
Laurie
LaurieWrites
Ding dang! That's
Ding dang! That's AWESOME!
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Jenna
Stop, Drop and Blog - the new family blog!
Birth/First Parent Blog
The Chronicles of Munchkin Land
I actually made a NY resolution
two years ago, to lose weight and get into better shape. It was the first one that I ever made that I actually kept.
Eighty pounds, two years ago.
This year, I resolve to finish writing my book on this topic. And to get it published. Anyone who has done this, I'd SO appreciate advice!
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Keep posted with my life on my blogs:
www.momtothescreamingmasses.typepad.com - a story of one woman's insanity with her six kids
www.theelffdiet.com - how I lost 80 pounds with a New Year's Resolution
The Elf Diet is still
one of my fave sites. Carmen, I've never published a book, but the Walter Mosley book I bought (see my comment to Izzy above) is indeed called, "This is the year you write your novel" so...:) Best of luck on this - I want a signed copy!
Lisa Stone
BlogHer Co-founder
Surfette
Yay Carmen
I'm with Lisa. I'll want a signed copy!
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
Every day is the beginning of a new year
Nope, not a resolution person either. Rules and declarations are just waiting to be broken. (Especially by those of us who are hard wired iconoclasts.) That said, i do tend to sit and take note of where I am and ask myself what changes I would like to see, what things I would like to try. And I focus on them in a way that makes it more likely that i will make them happen......
Usually they are about feelings and actions - kindness, generosity, tolerance (or selective intolerance....)
But there are a few fun and concrete things. This is my year of rediscovering sexy. For me. So, after a lifetime of of loving Film Noir anti-heroines, I'm spending tomorrow with a make-up artist and a great photographer, who, together, will transform me into a super hot film noir pin up girl..... and I'll put her on my bathroom mirror and at every turn, i will look at her and say, "What Would She Do?"
A fun way to look at thing from another perspective that I know is inside of me... Getting to know another side of myself.
Today, as I was working out (towards the perennial resolution of finally losing that last 5 pounds, though i realize that i am as attached to the 5 pounds as much as i am to the resolution) i was listening to a great old Modest Mouse song and the refrain that seems especially timely today:
The universe is shaped exactly like the earth, if you go straight long enough you'll end up where you were.....
Whatever your reason, it's always a good time to deviate, however slightly, off the course you're on and see what you discover in yourself and the world around you.
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Alyssa Royse
JUST CAUSE
make some good news!
www.JustCauseIt.com
Super hot film noir pin up girl
I love that idea!!!
Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.
fun and very expository
thanks! it was fun. for reference, i am a total REI girl. i do REI and Burning Man, there's not much middle ground for me. so i don't lack adventure, BUT, i HATE having my picture taken. i look in the mirror and see this cute (albeit super natural, down to earth, girl next-door) woman, and I truly like what I see. then i see pictures and think, "wait, that's NOT ME!"
so i am always the one taking pictures, therby avoiding ever being IN them.
so, silly as it sounds, spending 3 hours under the hot lights of a professional photographer being photographed as a super-hot pin-up girl was kinda hard. but REALLY fun. i definitely accessed parts of me that i had not found before, and got very very comfortable.
but more than that, when i saw the first picture (i've only seen one) i was so happy with the memory of the moment, the experience, that THAT's what i saw in the picture. that lesson, in and of itself, was worth it. photographs are a way to capture memories, they are not sales brochures. they don't have to look perfect, they have to be honest. and yes, he honestly found that smokey pin-up girl in me. and it felt really good.
so yeah, a resolution came out of the experience - i need to be pictured in my own life. regardless of what it looks like, i was there and should be remembered as part of it. ....
and spend more time being smoking hot. (i'd include a picture, but i can't figure out how to add them in......)
___________
Alyssa Royse
JUST CAUSE
make some good news!
www.JustCauseIt.com
iconoclast who deviates
That's me all over. :-)
I love old Modest Mouse, but not new Modest Mouse.
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
My one and only resolution.
The same resolution I've made for the past two years, to read "Of Human Bondage".
I think this year I'll actually make it.
cooper
oooh, that's a FAVORITE book of mine!
Honestly, one of the best books ever. It's a slow start, bondage indeed, but every metaphor needed to understand the human condition is in there! I'd also recommend Invisible Man, by Ralph Ellison. Same, but totally different...... Both are ESSENTIAL reading material !
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Alyssa Royse
JUST CAUSE
make some good news!
www.JustCauseIt.com
Of Human Bondage
LOL Try it on audio, Cooper. It might help.
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
New Year's resolutions
I'm not one either for New Year's Resolutions. Can't remember a year when I kept any of them. Too grim, too serious! I like the idea of list making, though, and I loved Lisa's meme for heart, family, spirit, money, creativity, etc. Helped me emphasize the important areas in my life and clarify my intentions for the coming year. (Intentions sounds so much more doable!)
Loretta
http://artjournaler.typepad.com/pomegranatesandpaper/
My partner does intentions, too
They still feel like resolutions to me. I prefer "to do lists". ;-)
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
The Un-resolution
The problem with resolutions that they open a Pandora's Box of "shoulds."
* I should have lost weight.
* I shouldn't have eaten the last piece of pie.
* I should have been more humble.
* I should have been more bold.
* I should have blogged today.
* I shouldn't have blogged because I felt lousy.
> I should be good to myself.
>> I will be good to myself.
>>> I am good to myself.
>>>>Today I'll do what feels right.
E-Communications & Community
"Tomorrow isn't promised." .. Evelyn Blakey
Shoulds!
Right on. I don't like those "shoulds". I will do something, or I won't. If it's a "should", bah. It just doesn't work for me.
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
practical and dreams
My list of resolutions usually contains both practical things to do, and dreams of what I'd like to do.
Last year I resolved to write more often. So I started my blog and I write every day. I resolved to lose weight, just 5 pounds. Missed that one--by 5 pounds. I resolved to create a better home work space, and that one I accomplished. I resolved to exercise more. I didn't do it until this month--now I'm walking every day. Does that count?
For the coming year I will take on that 5 pound challenge again, and I hope to lose more than that. I know how to do it, I just need to DO it. I will begin sending my stories and poems out to publishers and contests--I don't do that too often, and my writing doesn't do much good just sitting on my hard drive. I will spend more time in my garden, and build another small greenhouse like I used to have. I will cook more. I will plan my time better; I will have some weekends that I will not schedule storytelling events so I can spend time with my family.
The dream resolution? I want to quit my job. I have a good-paying job, but I want to devote more time to writing, storytelling, and family. I will be realistic, though--I will do three things that move me closer to my goal.
Granny Sue
Stories from the Mountains and Beyond
www.grannysu.blogspot.com
susannaholstein@yahoo.com
Write (right) for you
I love the resolution to write more - i resolve that every day. One thing that was useful for me was to allow myself to write for no reason at all. So i let myself write long letters to friends, fiction that i'll never show everyone, work blogs on Just Cause and even the TinkerTank site. (which i originally wrote just for my daughter, and no one else.) my goal was just to write. but what i found was that by writing ANYTHING at all, even for what seemed like no reason at all, it loosened up all of my various mental and physical blockages and i am just plain happier and more productive.
so yes, yes, yes..... write more. no matter who sees it, know that you are writing because it is right for you.
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Alyssa Royse
JUST CAUSE
make some good news!
www.JustCauseIt.com
Three things...
I like the idea of doing three things that move you closer to your goal. It feels more like a to do list that way.
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
A movie worth watching...
I just viewed a movie that sums up resolutions beautifully.
Enjoy
E-Communications & Community
"Tomorrow isn't promised." .. Evelyn Blakey
The "dash"
And there you go, I'm not spending my "dash" making lists of things I should do or shouldn't do. I'm just going to do them... or not do them.
:-)
~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings
My Happy New Year Resolutions
Here are my top 10 resolutions for 2008 ...not in order of importance:
1. As a newly appointed member on the board of directors for UnitedSpinal.org in 2008 , devote enough time each month to make this new commitment really count as a positive impact in the lives of spinal cord injured or persons with spinal diseases.
2. Spend one weekend a month babysitting one or more grandkids ( 6 now!).
3. Keep loving AskPatty but love me even more in 2008
4. Make some romance happen in my life....good for the soul.
5. Less business more vacation travel in 2008 ....more vacation period!
6. Spend more time with family members especially my ill and aging parents
7. Walk dogs more often
8. Throw out all size 10 clothes...this is never gonna happen!
9. Plan time with my close girl friends monthly to just relax and hang out
10. Forgive all ills , resentments or hurts in 2007...leave them at the stroke of midnight New Years Eve and carry only love and joy into 2008.
Jody DeVere
President
www.askpatty.com
www.carblabber.com