I'm Unlucky: My Doctor's Lack of Compassion After Recurrent Miscarriages

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I understand that sometimes doctors have to detach themselves from the situations at hand in order to do their jobs without emotion clouding their decision making process. But -- oh, but -- sometimes that lack of compassionate bedside manner is just too much, too brutal. For a mom experiencing a miscarriage, especially one who is dealing with recurrent miscarriages, one would expect a tiny morsel of compassion and understanding from a doctor, right? That's not what Trish at Hey Lady! Whatcha Readin? experienced after her second miscarriage last year.

She shares the conversation:

So then I asked why I had a second miscarriage when I was told it was unlikely that this would happen again. This is what the doctor said:

“Well, you’re just unlucky.”

OH REALLY. Is that an official diagnosis?

Needless to say, I switched away from her as fast as I could. I’ve been meaning to write a note to the head of her department to ask that she show a little more compassion to the next woman who comes to her in the middle of a miscarriage.

Credit: ubidesperarenscio.

She goes on to say how 2012 was the year of the miscarriage and how she has hope for this year. Go encourage her with some compassion, would you?


Family/Moms & Events Section Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land.


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