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A lot of the time I feel like I am stuck in this incestuous little lesbian community.
I've heard of other lesbian communities feeling this way, but the extent this one reaches is unreal. I truly feel like everyone knows everyone, everyone knows each other's business, and everyone is telling someone something about someone else that may or may not (usually the case) be entirely true.
We've got small town syndrome over here, and it drives me nuts!
Why we (and yes, I say we because, unfortunately, I am guilty too) behave this way is what I want to know. Life down here is already hard enough with the flack we get for being gay from many people that live here. Many of us feel the need to hide our sexuality from our employers, our families, and even some of our friends. (Luckily for me, I have to hide it from none of these groups.) With the stress that causes - and given the fact that it's a stress we all understand and have experienced at one time or another when living here - why do we make life harder?
The lies. The drama. The backstabbing. The hate. The passive agressive behavior. It's all being thrown around to hurt each other. Sure, we lesbians can't get along all the time and there are even a few we just hate - often because they are dating our ex, but is it really necessary to make each other's lives (and our own) miserable?
Cheesy, but I ask anyway: WHERE'S THE LOVE?
Shouldn't there be a sense of camaraderie, especially given that the community is so small that everyone feels related to everyone else?
Does anyone have ideas on how to combat this problem?
