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Internet to Girl Geeks: The Force is With You!

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When I told my kids that a seven year old in our neck of the woods was bullied for taking a Star Wars water bottle to school, they didn't get it. There was silence -- they were waiting for the punchline. Did the water bottle have the wrong Star Wars characters on it? Had she drawn some pink bows on Darth Vader? There had to be some other reason. It simply made no sense to them that she would be picked on simply because she's a girl who likes Star Wars.

It looks like the internets agree with my kids. All sorts of people are in geek-wear today to support Katie and geeky girls everywhere.

RPG Called Life shares a little about her history as a geek girl and points out some problems with toy marketing:

Really, who could blame any little girl for having more fun pretending to be a Jedi saving the galaxy than pretending to do the laundry? I recognize that there may on average be some innate differences in boys' and girls' interests, but they are not as great as out-of-date social norms imagine -- or force - -them to be.

Pink Ray Gun wrote a letter to Katie and to geek girls everywhere:

My biggest hope for you is that you use all the support you’ve gotten from fellow Star Wars fans and women and girls who are into stuff like that to help you remember that being yourself is the most important thing ever. The world is a better place because you’re in it. You. One-of-a-kind you, who likes the things she likes and wears the things she wears. If you change that stuff about yourself because you get older and like other things instead, that’s okay. But if you change that stuff about yourself, because you think other people will like you better, the world will be a worse place. Being true to who you are is the bravest and most powerful thing you can do to change the world!

Check out How to Grow Your Geek, who has a special edition, just for Katie. Cakewrecks supports geek girls and so does Grace.

From EPBOT, Geek Girls Activate!

Don't let the scruffy nerf herders get you down. You rock that water bottle with pride, and know that there are thousands of other fans out there (myself included) who would be proud to share a lunch table with you.

Shannon and her kids are showing the geeky Star Wars love and they had problems with teasing, too.

Here's Iz with the Darth Vader lunch box that was her pride and joy in 1st grade -- and which, like Katie, she stopped using in 2nd grade due to teasing. I talked to her this morning and she's still skittish about sporting Star Wars wear & lunch boxes because the other girls would tease her (stupid middle school social dynamics), though she says she wouldn't mind an Ewok shirt...

There are photo galleries "Star Wars is For Girls Too!" on Flickr and videos on YouTube.

#MayTheForceBeWithKatie and any girl who wants to get her geek on.

Was there a time when you were teased for liking things that only boys liked? Are you wearing your Come to the dark side... t-shirt today?

~Denise
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FashionPrinc3ss 5 pts

I always had my WONDER WOMAN T-shirts and still wear them til this day. I used to take my brother's superman tin lunchbox and pack extra snacks in it for school. My parents sent me to the community college for summer learning programs where I learned basic skills on the APPLE2 which was the latest and greatest at that time. Computers sure have improved! I work at DISH Network and just got GOOGLETV with my subscription. Now my 52" VIZIO access the internet so I can surf, post, and order lunch while watching cartoons on HUB. Learn more at dish.com search googletv.

Jewel_A 5 pts

I think it's ridiculous that any female would be put down or made fun of because she likes Star Wars, Star Trek, video games or anything else Tech related. I am a big geek and/or nerd and I'm proud of it.

We need more recognition. I went to Geek.com hoping to find a shirt or something proclaiming that I'm a Girl/Woman Geek but the closest thing I could find was a shirt that says "Geek Mom." Now, that can obviously have two meanings: I'm a mom and a geek OR I'm the mother of a geek. Both are true, but why not say "Girl Geek" or "Woman Geek" since that better classifies my situation?

To "Just_Margaret", guess who was the only girl in her first "Drafting and Design" class. I don't even remember any other women in my college Architectural Drafting class.

Denise 9 pts moderator

We really have come so far.

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kbojar 5 pts

I loved reading this! I know we still have a ways to go, but this is worlds apart from the rigid gender socialization of my childhood.

Karen Bojar blogs about retirement life, feminist activism,  grassroots politics and gardening at http://www.the-next-stage.com/

amberpagewrites 5 pts

Katie's story makes me happy there is an Internet. In some ways, we've come so far. In others not so much.

I am only heartbroken that not every kid who needs that support actually gets it.

Denise 9 pts moderator

May 2011 be a better year for kids.

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Denise 9 pts moderator

:-)

I am also glad Katie received this kind of support but I continue to worry about the kids who don't.

~Denise
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Denise 9 pts moderator

I want to see a photo of your Revell Corvette!

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froggyismyfriend2 5 pts

There have been so many cases of cyber (and non cyber) bullying among children and teens this year, resulting in an increase in suicides as well. I am so glad that Katie's mother posted this story and helped support her little girl. A life saved! And eyes opened! ♥

Just_Margaret 5 pts

I am inclined to believe that few of them would remember it, and fewer still would be aware that there was anything wrong with the way they acted in the first place. Shoot, it was almost 30 years ago.

But you know what my husband surprised me with totally out of the blue last Christmas? A Revell Corvette kit, and all the tools and supplies I needed to complete the model. And decades later, it turns out...I'm still pretty good at it!

~Margaret

Just Margaret ( http://maurhoffbarney.blogspot.com )

Nordette Adams 6 pts

When I saw the story online, I just didn't get it. My daughter said, "What are people telling kids about what it means to be a boy or a girl?" She was equally baffled.

It seems like some of our children have missed the messages about equality and social constructs about gender.

I'm glad Katie received so much support.

Nordette Adams ( http://www.bookotopia.com ) is a BlogHer CE ( http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile... ) & you can find her other stuff through Her 411 ( http://her411.com ).

Denise 9 pts moderator

I think it's natural (because of our socialization) for young kids to do some experimenting with ideas about what's for boys and what's for girls. It's fun to see the lightbulb go off when they realize that they know girls who like X and boys who like Y.

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JennaHatfield 10 pts

You know I love your post. :)

One of my friend's daughters is having a Star Wars roller skating (!) party next week. I think she's the coolest ever. My boys? ALSO think she's the coolest ever. Heh.

The boys have been trying to dub things as "for boys" or "for girls" lately. I'm trying to nip that in the bud.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

Denise 9 pts moderator

Where are those guys now... I wonder what they would say if they read your comment today. Do you think they'd recognize that what they did was wrong? Do you think they've told their own kids that they did this to you - and that it was wrong?

~Denise
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Denise 9 pts moderator

I wouldn't want to go up against them by picking on others. :-)

~Denise
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Just_Margaret 5 pts

In 1982, I was in 8th grade. I signed up for a newly offered elective, "Model Building" because I was into building those plastic model car and airplane kits...the ones you glue together, and paint with Testor's paints. The first day, I walked into the woodshop where it was held to a room full of 7th and 8th grade boys.

I don't remember any of those guys ever giving me any credit for actually being pretty good at it, either. They just picked on me the whole marking period. "This is model building, not modeling class," they would say. I pretended it didn't bother me, but I absolutely hated walking into that shop twice a week. I would have been much happier set up at my own kitchen table at home working on my '69 Mustang.

~Margaret

Just Margaret ( http://maurhoffbarney.blogspot.com )

Hey Jen 5 pts

I was a total tomboy growing up. Three male brothers and three male cousins? Yeah, I could climb a tree better than most of the boys I knew. No I never got teased as a child.

My girls stick up for the kids that get picked on. They are rather...vocal when they see something happening that they don't agree with.

Kids can be so nasty to one another. :/

Melissa Ford 5 pts

Not only was I not teased when I wore my Spiderman shirt to volunteer in the school library today, but the kids kept grouping around the table to see it -- check it out, a girl in a Spiderman shirt. And all the boys thought it was cool.

I wish I could bottle that moment and give it to all the kids out there to serve as a reminder that we can get over all of our preconceived notions and not tease. We do have it in us.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her book is Navigating the Land of If ( http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/ ).