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Well every marriage is different and different rules apply. Sometime webcam chats and text chats are just verbal playing. It's no different from listening to a song with a sexy voice and fantasizing or something like that. Sometimes it's much more and can even lead to something happening in real life. I have an ex who I met on-line.

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As a society, do you think we're seeing a rise in cheating facilitated by social networks? Do you think the line is getting finer between what actual constitutes cheating? (For example, what about steamy emails, chatting?)

How do you recommend couples establish a healthy dialogue about this topic.

-Maria

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Do you think that there is hope for a monogamous relationship after cheating?

Isn't cheating really something that starts by the boundaries that are defined by each individual couple? I have been in relationships that were wide open and I have been in relationships that were completely exclusive. So, isn't the line drawn within each different relationship in life?

What constitutes the "right thing" to do if you've committed the act of cheating and now you're unsure of whether or not to tell your significant other? What's the correct protocol to follow if you find yourself in a cheating situation?

On one hand, some might argue that the other person deserves to know and so the "right thing" to do is to come clean and confess to your guilty sins.

Others would see this as a bit cowardly in transferring the burden of guilt from the cheater and further continuing to hurt their partner. The "right thing" to do would be to keep the silence and bear one's conscience.

@ilovegarick

What are the statistics on "repeat offenders"? Do most people cheat on a spouse only once, or is a cheater always a cheater? In other words, if you are dating someone who is cheating on his wife, have any surveys been done to shed light on whether they are more likely to cheat on you next?

What constitutes cheating? Is it emotional or sexual involvement? Is there a difference? Why?

Cheating's not a deal breaker for me. I don't think it's good for a relationship to break a promise you've made, but it's not the be-all and end-all. I grew up around many people with loving, open relationships, I saw too many people suffering over one reason seek comfort in the arms of someone else, not because they didn't value their marriage or their spouse, but because they didn't know where else to find comfort from their hurts (not wise, but not worth a lifetime of punishment, either).

So my question is, when so many cultures in the world don't view this as the road-ending event we do here (and most have lower divorce rates and higher satisfaction assessments of marriage), why on earth do we?

Is monogamy realistic? Do we set ourselves for hurt and disappointment by expecting our lover/spouse/partner to meet unrealistic standards?