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Justice for Caylee: Is That Why

So Many Are Pointing At Lisa

Irwin's Parents?

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The news over the weekend that cadaver dogs found a hit in the home of missing baby Lisa Irwin’s parents pushed me over the edge. I felt physically ill for a few moments as I allowed myself to go “there,” a specific place I had been avoiding throughout the duration of this heartbreaking case. I pulled myself together quickly, not wanting to stay “there” for too long. I shook my head and reminded myself of the very few facts we know for certain.

Lisa Irwin's Home -- © Fred Blocher/Kansas City Star/MCT/ZUMAPRESS.com

The facts are these:

And that’s it.

People can argue that we also know Lisa’s mom failed a lie detector test. Then again, I can tell you that if my child was missing, my anxiety level could throw off a machine. People can also argue that Lisa’s parents stopped working with detectives. Then again, would you want to work with people who are looking at the wrong people and not actively searching for your child?

I’m feeling a general unrest when it comes to this case. People are finger-pointing and judging. It leaves me feeling uncomfortable; I have been hesitant to cover the story at all, but I get it. So soon after Casey Anthony’s not guilty verdict, the public is still raw. We still have no answers in Caylee Anthony’s death. We know nothing but the “facts” in that case as well, but that didn’t lead to justice in any form. Now we’re watching the news and it feels too close for comfort. Remember, there was “the smell of death” in Casey Anthony’s car as well. We want someone to be held accountable for something, for anything. Even if that means pointing fingers at the wrong people for the wrong reasons.

At the same time, we also want to believe that parents -- moms or dads -- are not capable of harming their own children. We know that they are -- that they do -- but we don’t want it to be true. We want it to be the random stranger walking with an improperly dressed baby. We know that babies are kidnapped from their beds, however rare -- it happens. But the moment things start to smelly fishy, when things stop adding up, we don’t look to an outside criminal. We look to the parents and innocent until proven guilty is thrown out the window. “How could you?” “What kind of mother?” “What kind of father?” The questions are laced with the judgment of people who want to believe, an outsider or an insider, that their own children are safe from harm.

Right now, I am left hoping and praying -- as a mother, a parent, a human being -- that little Lisa Irwin is safe. I don’t want to think about the statistics facing a child who has been abducted by a stranger. I don’t want to point fingers at her mother or her father. I just want her to come home, to be safe.

Family Section Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land. She is a writer, editor and photographer.

Photo Credit: © Fred Blocher/Kansas City Star/MCT/ZUMAPRESS.com

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nellewrites 19 pts

Facts matter. I get queasy with all the judgements tossed about absent facts. People take a few clues and think they are Sherlock Holmes, when few people have any skill in sussing out actual occurrence from those few clues.

I can't say what happened in this case, I don't know. I can't say what happened with Jaycee, I don't know. Prevailing opinion is the jury got it wrong, but what is wrong is prevailing opinion. Don't know does not default to guilty, not in America. Each of us could create a plausible theory; we could pepper the thread with them, yet each would be speculation and nothing more.

I prefer to default to the legal not guilty absent fact. I prefer to not condemn someone unless it is conclusively demonstrated they are guilty. And beyond that, I believe in working to rehabilitate, another issue for another time.

As with you, I hope Lisa is safe, so too Jahessye Shockley. If they are not I hope those responsible are apprehended - and judged by fact, not speculation.

JewelsD 9 pts

It's such a hard subject, since, as parents, losing a child is our greatest fear. I jumped to Lisa's mom's defense about the lie detector test for the same reason you stated. But, I have to agree with BlondieChicago, Something about mom seems off. I, too, hope that isn't the case.

BlondieChicago 16 pts

I didn't think of Casey Anthony when I saw this case hit the news -- I thought of Susan Smith. She was the woman who claimed her boys were abducted by a black man when she really rolled the car into a pond. I got the same gut reaction when I watched Susan way back when and when I recently saw Lisa's mother on TV. Something in my gut felt funny. Off. Wrong. I'm hoping Lisa is OK, but I am fearing the worst. I don't care if parents work late or get drunk sometimes or don't check on their babies every 10 minutes. I do care when their behavior appears this... shady.

Laine Griffin 26 pts

Thanks for this article. I am sure it wasn't easy to write. Unfortunately no one will probably ever totally know what happened, even if the case is "solved."

Truth Detector 5 pts

"The facts are these:

Baby Lisa Irwin went missing on October 4, 2011.

Lisa’s mom, Deborah Bradley, was drinking that night.

A cadaver dog hit on a smell in the house.

And that’s it."

The cadaver dog supposedly 'hit' on a smell reported to be localized to the parents' bedroom.

We also know that Deborah Bradley's live-in boyfriend uncharacteristically worked overnight before/as/after Lisa went missing.

We also know that the couple reported missing cellphones, room lights activated by some other person(s), an open window, an unlocked door, a partially dislodged screen and more.

We also know that the couple has forbidden the questioning of the boyfriend's sons and has been less than fully cooperative with law enforcement, according to KCPD.

If you were the KCPD, wouldn't you want to clear the obvious principals in this case, or failing that continue to investigate them in order to locate a reported missing child?

Forever 17 114 pts

I see where your coming from, It is so hard to imagine anyone doing such a thing but we always want to believe the best in people. The Caylee Anthony case was such a huge injustice that it left plenty of people doubting the justice system, myself included. I too pray that baby Lisa is found safe and unharmed. Great post Jenna, as always :)

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mandyml
mandyml

blogher firemom I think it's because they are shady and not forthcoming.

lisasolod
lisasolod

blogher good take on the Irwin baby case.

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Nelle Douville
Nelle Douville

No clue, and glad I'm not an investigator tasked to the case. How does one cope with investigating the disappearance of a child? I'd love to see an interview with someone who has been through this ordeal. There were UI cases I handled that had me in tears. I cannot imagine having to deal with a child case.

Ruth Gaul Schliessmann
Ruth Gaul Schliessmann

Whoever is responsible should be punished in this heartbreaking case, but there is almost no information available yet. Sure, have opinions - anyone is entitled to opinions about anything but the fact that people *want* to judge so early is deeply disturbing to me.

Terri Patillo
Terri Patillo

Yes, I believe that Lisa's MOTHER is directly responsible for that child's disappearance and her fate (as yet unknown). Did she kill the child? Possibly. Regardless, she was intoxicated and allowed something to happen that reulted in the child's disappearance. I think it's obvious that the woman is a liar. She plays to the cameras. Casey Anthony? Don't get me started on her or those 12 morons who judged her trial.

Amy Carlo
Amy Carlo

I think it has a lot to do with it. I have heard many people refer to Casey Anthony with talking about his case. I don't know what to think. There is evidence to support either scenario. But I do agree that either way the mother was negligent.

Nikki Luongo
Nikki Luongo

it doesnt make sense, you get plastered and forget all about your kid? that doesn't scream responsiblity and if she had nothing to do with the kid's disappearance wouldn't she immediately cooperate with the police instead of dodging them