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Last month the San Francisco Chronicle reported that six-year-old Zachary Christie had been suspended for 45 days for bringing a camping utensil that contained a knife to school. Because he was excited about Boy Scouts.

It seems the school board did come to its senses and reduce his sentence, but the knee-jerk application of a zero-tolerance policy enacted to protect students in the wake of school violence for basically packing a spork is troubling. Where do you draw the line?



Garrett Lukas of Woods Monkey takes issue with the school for not seeing the difference between a camping utensil and a dangerous weapon. He writes:

We have become a nation of hem-hawers too afraid to speak our minds, too lazy to take responsibility, and too dependent on others to make sure that our basic needs are met.  If you want my honest opinion, I think we have too many safety nets in our society.

I think the problem is that society is so litigious administrators are terrified to let anything slip. For every kid they let slide through with a camping utensil they risk exposing children to a kid with a shank. Or do they?

Maybe this six-year-old is a model student and Boy Scout who would never use a camping fork as a weapon. Maybe he's a punk who has every intention of getting back at some kid who picked on him over kickball last week. School administrators may not know the kids individually well enough to tell. But going straight to suspension seems severe for a first-time offender. We let adult criminals off easier than that.

BS Report offers this suggestion:

How about handling it this way:  “Zachary, it’s against school rules for you to bring that camping tool to school.  You can pick it up from me at the end of the day but you must not ever bring it to school again.  Do you understand?”

On the other hand, what if little Zachary had brought the camping utensil to school to cause harm? People can and do turn almost anything into a weapon, and school is the one place we as a society insist our kids be kept safe. They have to be there. They're defenseless. It's the administrators' and teachers' jobs to be on the look-out for any suspicious activity these days, when their jobs used to be just teaching.

I'm not a fan of any teacher having to do double-duty as a prison guard. I can't understand how we got to a place in history when kids couldn't carry pocket knives for fear of using them on each other. The boys in my class growing up used to carry six-inch hunting knives, but they never used them on anyone. I myself carried a Swiss army knife on my keyring until it got taken away in an airport in the late '90s. It never occurred to me it was a weapon -- I used it to open packages. I think the problem is not so much with kids having knives -- it's kids thinking at all about using knives as weapons instead of tools.

What's different? Is it violence on television? Is it violent video games? Is it music? No. I don't think so. I think it's lack of judgment on the part of the kids and their parents. We shouldn't have to babysit everyone so. Every kid should have the common sense to know you don't take a gun to school and blow up people who piss you off. Every parent should know if their kid has violent tendencies and seek help if they see warning signs. I've known violent kids with rock-star parents. It's not their fault their kid is hard-wired with less compassion than the average bear, but I think it is their fault if they pretend everything is fine and let that child go on to hurt someone else after displaying violent tendancies in their presence. Figuring out if a kid is violent isn't the job of teachers and administrators. They're going to react unilaterally, because they don't want to be the one who let a disaster sneak in on their watch. Every parent needs to keep an eye on their kids and watch for antisocial behavior before the kid walks into school with a M-80.

Even if kids aren't predisposed to violence, they can learn it. Kids are affected by the media, but nothing affects them more than what their parents deem acceptable. Violence isn't acceptable behavior, not when it's directed toward other people, adults

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bradleyteach 5 pts

A 6 year old can't be responsible for this.  I'm sure he didn't know that it was against the rules to bring this.  Parents need to be held accountable - I'm sure that there are parents who don't know not to send a plastic knife in their kids' lunchbox and put it in there, for example.  I think in this case, the parents needed to know that this sort of thing wasn't allowed, and to be aware of what their six year old is bringing to school.  More awareness for parents, and for parents and kids together, can help these situations to be avoided.

AmberS 5 pts

I think that zero tolerance policies don't make any sense, because they don't allow people to use judgment. Saying that a particular action always warrants the same response doesn't allow for the complex reality of life. Every situation is different, and while there are times when suspension might be warranted, this doesn't sound like one of them.

I also don't really believe that the world is a worse place than it used to be. My mother talks about violence that happened on her school yard over 50 years ago. The difference is the way that we react to the violence. I think it's positive that we're more proactive and aware. But I think it's not a good thing that it leads to exagerrated fears in the face of actions that mean no harm.

~ Amber

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mamalang 5 pts

I've sent my daughter's to school with a kiwi spoon...it has a serated edge on one side to cut the skin.  Now I think twice about that.  Luckily, our school and the administrators have common sense, but what their hands are tied?  This situation scares me, as there was the inital cry for justice here, but once things were "cleared up", the whole thing seems to be swept under the rug.  I will be asking our legislators to pass that bill this year.

But yes, anything can become a weapon, including fists and words.  My daughter goes to one of the top schools in the state, and was still attacked her freshman year by another girl.  I appreciated the level of progressive discipline the school provided...suspension until the parents came to school for a meeting, and when she was reinstated, the girl could not be located in any class with my daughter, so had to have her schedule changed.  She also managed to do this the first day of mid-terms, so her grades were demolished, as she couldn't take them.  I'm hopeful that this was a momentary lack of judgement, and that she learned something from the situation, and I'm happy that my daughter has never had to deal with her again. 

 mamalang

Bethany Strickland 5 pts

Let's add another issue to this problem. Political correctness. I have lived long enough to know that there are individuals and groups out there who want to run everyone's lives because they think many people are too dumb to understand the problem. Does anyone think a six year old means anyone any harm? Let the principal and the teachers run the school. These do gooders do much more harm than good. casino en ligne ( http://188.165.39.87 )

annieand 5 pts

I am a foster parent, who ended up having to commit a child to a psych hospital because of zero tolerance, which after much investigating wasn't.  She was a deaf 14 year old girl, she ended up stabbing a boy with violin bow.  Yes, I know, deaf and in orchestra, it made for some interesting times.  But this boy had been picking on her for weeks.  Mocking her speech, grabbing her, poking her.  The orchestra teacher was in her first year teaching and was not used to dealing with any special needs.  This was the only class this girl was mainstreamed in and the teacher did not immediately deal with any of the kids problems, and let her get by with even more because she was deaf.  So when the boy grabbed this girl, she hit him, teacher did nothing.  When the boy taunted her, she screamed, teacher did nothing.  This went on for two weeks on a daily basis we would find out, finally after weeks of being tortured the girl stabbed the boy with her bow.  She broke the skin and was immediately expelled, police were called, I was given the choice of sending her to juvi or a hospital that she had been to before, we chose hospital.  had I known all the facts before they hauled her off, they would not have.  I admittedly was a little freaked that she had stabbed someone, but after talking to her and getting her side of the story translated I was upset that the teacher had allowed this to happen. 

The other zero tolerance story I have, also involves another special needs child.  He was living with another family, and had a broken leg upon intake.  He was given pain medicine and cleared to return to school.  His foster parent was not allowed on campus in the middle of the day and told the child he had to go immediately to the nurses office and give her the meds.  The foster parent even told the front office that the kids had narcotics on him and needed to go to the nurses office before going to class.  Well, the front office did not write on the hall pass, "nurses office" it just said "return to class' so the boy thought he had to return to class first then ask for a pass to the nurses office.  Which he did, only to have his narcotics "seized" and was sent to the principal's office for drug possession and had to be put through the court system because the school had zero tolerance.  Eventually he got to tell his story in court and cleared of any charges, but the school wouldn't readmit him because he was a drug courier. 

He is a foster child and not allowed to be homeschooled, and the district won't take him in any school, so this foster parent has to drive 30+ miles twice a day to another district that would take him.  This foster parent also has 6 special needs children that he has adopted and the whole incident has really affected their whole life. 

Both of these incidents could have been cleared up with a conversation.  But because teachers can't discipline or assess the situations on a case by case basis, good kids get punished, and the kids they are trying to stop from doing these situations are getting around it some other way. 

Elana Centor 5 pts

BS report has it right. The fact is a pencil, a pen, blunt scissors and even a jump rope can be a weapon in the wrong hands. Suspending children is simply overkill. 

Years ago we were working on a promotion for kids and wanted to giveaway jump ropes. The client, who was from Europe, adamently opposed the idea.

When we asked her why, she did the universal symbol for chocking someone with a rope. Now, every time I see a jump rope......

elana Blogher Contributing Editor,Business&Careers FunnyBusiness ( http://funnybusiness.typepad.com/funnybusiness )

Lisse 5 pts

BS Report's suggestion is exactly what schools should be doing. It's what was done 20 years ago and what could be expected to diffuse a lot of mistakes made by kids without making them feel like criminals.

What a way to turn a kid off of school!

- Lisse

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