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A Month of Movies --The Kids Are All Right: Not All Sunshine and Roses

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I've been spending the weekend catching up on the Oscar movies I haven't seen -- and with a whopping TEN Best Picture nominees, and a sixteen month old baby at home, that is proving to be a SERIOUS challenge this year. One of the movies on my list? The Kids Are All Right (praise be to screeners) which I've heard pretty much nothing but accolades for. Until I read this review from C.L. Minou over at Tiger Beatdown:


The Kids Are All Right

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...So while I’m glad that a lesbian domestic comedy was made by a lesbian woman, it remains a sad commentary that the only way to get the movie made involved not having any lesbians in it. And maybe a bit ironic.

Because the central message of The Kids Are All Right seems to be one of normalization, perhaps an artistic extension of Harvey Milk’s dictum that “if they know us, they don’t vote against us,” a docu-drama argument against Proposition 8′s absurd premise that gay love is drastically different than straight love. Actually, argues Cholodenko in the movie, it’s just the opposite: they’re both fucked up in largely the same ways. Joni accuses her mother of using her to prove that a lesbian family can raise a child just as well as a straight family, and maybe she has, but not the way Joni is thinking of it. Nic has just as tangled a relationship with her teenaged children as any straight parent does, and about the same issues: Control, autonomy, respect, and the horrid fear that both of you are turning into your mothers.

Read the rest of the review at Tiger Beatdown -- Minou raises some interesting points in her review, that I hadn't considered. But I don't think that takes away from the performances given by Annette Bening and Julianne Moore. Or, y'know...the performances I've HEARD they gave. Hopefully I'll be able to weigh in tomorrow.

Have you seen the movie? What did you think?

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fordeville 5 pts

Annette Bening and Julianne Moore were great -- but, in my book, Mark Ruffalo stole this movie. If you haven't seen it, I won't talk about the end, but it left some room for discussion about his character that is sure to cause some divided opinions.

irishjenni 5 pts

I think the movie was an accurate glimpse into the hard times that all relationships go through (gay, straight, married or otherwise). Raising a family, maintaining your career and bonding with a significant other is just plain tough. I'm a little mixed on the movie. I actually prefer Lisa Cholodenko's Laurel Canyon - which also deals with choices and relationships for a family living in Southern California.

It was great to see Mia Wasikowska in a movie (I loved her in "In Treatment).

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drudolph 5 pts

It's interesting--there's been great debate within the lesbian community about this film. Many took offense at the "lesbian sleeps with a man" part of the plot, which is admittedly a tired cliché of many films/shows involving lesbians. My own feeling (further detailed in my review at Mombian ( http://www.mombian.com/2010/07/08/the-kids-are-all... )) is that director Lisa Cholodenko turned this cliché on its head by having the lesbian who sleeps with a man go back to her female spouse--and by making the story be more about the universals of people's relationships rather than about gender.

I think it's also commendable that it's a show about lesbian moms that doesn't focus on them trying to get pregnant--another overused cliché--but instead looks at how they've done raising their kids. (The answer, of course, is that they have the same strengths and flaws as any other couple might, but the kids do indeed turn out all right.)

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