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Kourtney Kardashian: Inspiring Women With Her Zen-like Childbirth?

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Two weeks ago I wrote about the way childbirth is generally portrayed, even mocked, in popular culture and how that often negatively colors women's beliefs about birth. Sunday, however, on the season finale of the E! network reality show Keeping Up With The Kardashians, surprisingly -- amazingly -- labor and birth were shown in a largely positive light. In the episode, which had a record 4.8 million viewers, Kourtney Kardashian, 30, calmly gave birth to her first child, Mason Dash Disick.

I have to admit I don't actually watch the Kardashians, but thanks to Jezebel, I was able to watch some clips from the episode. My friend Denise, who blogs at Eat Play Love, told me that she saw the whole episode and said, "I have to admit for the K-women coming off as such prima donnas, the episode/birth was shown in a great way. I was shocked."

Instead of the typical Hollywood water-breaking all over the floor in one big "sploosh!" followed by the frantic Oh-my-God-I'm-freaking-out-and-have-to-get-to-the-hospital-RIGHT-NOW, after Kourtney's water broke and was shown(!) slowly trickling out onto the floor, she was totally calm, did some laundry, said she needed to shave, took a shower and put on make-up all before going to the hospital. A reality TV show actually showing reality? Wow!

Then there was the birth scene at the hospital, which appeared very serene. Kourtney was surrounded by her family, who all looked on in awe as baby Mason was born. She appeared very calm, even zen-like. Once the baby was halfway out, the doctor asked Kourtney if she wanted to grab him and she did. She reached down between her legs and pulled her baby right out of her vagina and onto her chest. It was amazingly peaceful and really quite beautiful.

Of course, that had to be followed by some commentary from her sister Khloe saying, "That's not normal." But, uh, yeah, actually it is. That's what normal birth can look like.


Photo credit: The Unnecesarean

I can't find any information about whether Kourtney received an epidural or gave birth unmedicated, but she certainly looks very zen in the video. She said in this interview about labor, "It was surprisingly easy and just an incredible experience. I always thought your first is supposed to be really hard, but it was easy."

Regardless of whether or not she had an epidural, the fact that E! showed (millions!) what a normal, peaceful birth can look like is seriously huge, especially when you consider the demographic watching this show. According to this LA Times article, "Kardashian viewers tend to be single, college-educated women with no children, white-collar jobs and annual salaries of more than $60,000." Keeping Up With The Kardashians "is the highest-rated series on cable among women ages 18 to 34."

The Unnecesarean had this to say:

Kourtney Kardashian and E! showing a generation of young women someone reaching down and pulling their baby out of their vagina was one of the coolest things I’ve seen in a long time. Cedars Sinai in Los Angeles has gained a reputation as the celebrity C-section center, but there’s some mother-friendly stuff going on in the clips on Jezebel.

I didn’t watch the whole episode, but I smiled at the clip of her water breaking. When do you ever see that televised beyond the ridiculous images of actors having a gallon of water dumped between their legs, then instantly doubling over with contractions and being rushed down the hall to L&D on a gurney?

Momotics said Kourtney Kardashian renewed her "faith in birth."

I was SO impressed to see Kourtney so calm and cool while giving birth to her son, Mason, who was born in December. It seems like Hollywood has had a huge rash of scheduled Cesareans, inductions, and over all just horribly medicalized births, and this was just a huge refresh to the Hollywood natural birth stigma.

Carla Fran from Millicent and Carla Fran calls Kourtney "awesome."

I cannot believe, I repeat, I cannot believe that the Kardashians are paving the way for positive images of childbirth. Last night’s finale showed Kourtney Kardashian going into labor, and pretty much backing up what doulas, Rikki Lake, and your friendly neighborhood midwife have been saying all along.

This finale is tremendous because of the audience the show has. If young girls see pop icons like Kourtney Kardashian having this kind of birth experience, their expectation of the event in their own lives is

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Expat Mum 5 pts

Don't be afraid. Women wouldn't go back and do it again if it were truly unbearable. The responsibility is a bigger issue and you should definitely wait until you are ready. You can't put them back!

Expat Mum 5 pts

I felt the same after my first baby which was a nasty c-section delivery. However, the doctors assured me that they wouldn't let the same thing happen. They knew what the problems had been the first time around and promised me they would intervene if it looked like going the same way. They didn't need to thankfully, but it was reassuring to know that the second time around probably wasn't going to be as traumatic.

My sister had almost the exact same experience as you and her second time was a breeze in comparison.

amygeekgrl 5 pts

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From the page:

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Amy
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amygeekgrl 5 pts

I agree with MomofTwo below who said you don't know what it will be like until you go through it. Every woman is different and every birth is different. I had two very different births with my kids. My first was in a hospital and was quite medicalized. The second was at home with a midwife and although my son was a surprise footling breech birth (he came out feet first), and I had no drugs at all, that birth was so much better for me than the first. It was less painful, it was less stressful, it was really just amazing and extremely empowering.

Birth can be a positive experience and doesn't have to be the worst thing in the world experience like is often portrayed on TV and in movies.

I found it was very helpful while I was pregnant to seek out positive birth stories. There are several websites that have them. One is positive birth stories ( http://www.pregnancybirthandbabies.com/POSITIVE_bi... ).

Another thing that was helpful to me was to take Hypnobirthing classes and stay away from the fear-mongering type of childbirth books (What to Expect...).

Gotta run. More later. :)

Amy
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MomOfTwo 5 pts

I now have 2 children, 3.5 yrs. & 4 mo. I went into my first labor with a birth plan of my ideal birth which included a natural birth. But to be honest, I thought for sure I was going to ask for pain meds. For me it was quick and not as painful as they show on tv. Most things in my birth plan were honored, but the doc didn't seem to be too open to changing positions to facilitate a more comfortable birth and they did not break my water until I started pushing and I did have to have an episiotomy.

With my second child, I had pretty much the same birth plan, but this time I knew I had a high pain tolerance. Turns out though, that this baby was 1.5 pounds larger and had a head that was 1 inch bigger. I still did it all natural and this time had a doc that would try different birthing positions and boy, did we try them all. This child would not turn in the birth canal, so it took a little longer. I only ended up pushing & contracting 9 minutes longer than with my first, but since my water was broke a half hour before I started pushing, it was a little more painful.

To give you an idea of my pain tolerance, I was updating my FB status (hospital had wifi) until I was at 9 cm and they broke my water. The nurse was shocked that I could do that. She said their was a desk full of nurses out there that wanted to come in & meet me. She said they didn't get many natural births there and to have one be natural & calm & updating their Facebook status was amazing.

My sisters both had very different labors & births as well. One labored for 36 hours and had so many drugs & back labor that she was delirious by the end. The other sister went in & said I want drugs now (even though she wasn't in much pain) and to her the laboring was a breeze and didn't feel a thing until the drugs wore off the last 10 minutes of pushing. So, you really have no idea what your birth experience will be like until you go through it.

Although, I will tell you, I HATED being pregnant. I was so sick for so much of my pregnancy with both kids.

Seraphina 5 pts

I am 25 years old and so afraid to have a baby. The idea of pregnancy scares me, childbirth scares me and getting fat after child birth scares me. Seeing this child birth is interesting and shows that it's not always difficult, but the people in my family typically have painful stories of crying. I'm still afraid, but it does help to see someone who had a good experience. Childbirth  has not been portrayed well for me and part of it I feel is due to the promotion of abstinance for my generation. They wanted us to be afraid of having babies as teens, but now we're supposed to forget the negative portrayal and start having babies when we're 25. Where I had pressure to avoid sex and stay childless all of a sudden I am feeling encouragement to have a child, but still feel fearful of the pain and responsibility of the child. I hope I get over it soon enough to have one before I'm 30. 

LindsayDianne 5 pts

I'm so happy there are a great number of women who can have a calm and relaxing, joyous birthing experience.

My thrity nine hour labour probably COULD not have been calm. There's this kind of idea in the calm, natural, vaginal birth community that if you chill out and try real hard everything can go off without a hitch. That might be true for some... but I did my best, I was in the best hospital, I was in control, I only had one nurse per 12 hours..... and I went through three... It was still horrific despite all the effort and calm music, showers, massages, nipple playing and the works.

My daughter was eventually ripped from my body using forceps, we're both fine.. Neither traumatized.... and we tried our damndest for everything to BE calm.

It wasn't CALM.

It was what it was and it's over now.

Maybe that's just me!

kazari 5 pts

and yes, I did hypnobirthing!

Well sort of.  I did a course called Calmbirth (google it!) and I can't recommend it enough.

to celiapants - ouch!  that sounds terrible!  I was pretty much back to normal after 4 weeks, and I never had that level of pain afterwards.  your baby must have come out in a hurry!

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mlaquino 5 pts

Obviously there's now a trend towards natural birthing.  I think it's a great option, but it is very painful, and usually not very quiet and calm.  As a physician, I have seen a lot of births, and although natural births are wonderful and rewarding, people shouldn't feel that they need to be silent and zenlike.  It's painful in a way that's difficult to understand until you go through it.  It's usually a difficult process for the mother, and to an extent, for everyone in the room. 

Personally, I had an epidural, which is also a great option.  Once it was in place, everything seemed much more clear to me, and the birth was exactly like Kourtney's.  It was  calm yet exciting.  It's not very PC to talk about epidurals, but women should keep this open as an option; pain control is not a bad thing for people who choose it.  For me, it kind of "opened up" the birth experience so I could (and my husband could) really enjoy every minute of the experience.  Accepting pain control does not mean you are any less of a woman.  And a controlled, quiet, fun birth is really possible, especially when you're not screaming in pain!

There's different ways to have a baby.  There are more options than just "natural childbirth," or c-sections!

Morra Aarons Mele 5 pts

Thanks Amy for pointing this out- when I was planning for my first birth I searched in vain for stories of celebrities who had NCB, and all I could find was Ricki Lake!

I wonder if KK did hypnobirthing? I did and it was zen and lovely. Although I think I did scream at several points...oh well.

Morra Aarons-Mele
www.womenandwork.org

amygeekgrl 5 pts

I wish I knew if she did Hypnobirthing or some other childbirth prep classes. I took HB before my 1st and it helped me a lot with both of my children's births, though I was definitely not as zen as KK. ;P

Amy
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celiapants 5 pts

I had an almost 5hr, no-drugs, natural birth, 11 months ago, and I was the only one of 21 people that I know that all had babies within the year that took over 6 weeks to heal.  Vaginal birth might be the best way...but, I really can't judge the people who might choose to have a c-section.  I was unable to sit without a donut pillow for over 6 weeks, I had to take 4 sitz baths every day for 6 weeks to cope, it took me almost half an hour to go to the bathroom (for about 2 weeks) because that is only how fast I could walk there, I couldn't even climb into bed for 3 or 4 weeks, I had to sort of ease myself in.  The thought of having to go through another delivery again scares me - but it would be 'doable' - the idea of having to go through over 6 weeks of recovery from something that is supposed to be so natural and so much better scares me even more. 

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amygeekgrl 5 pts

You make a good point. It seems that whenever a c-section is shown on TV, they neglect to talk about how difficult the recovery may be. 
Amy
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amygeekgrl 5 pts

I'm sorry. That sounds awful. :( I think it's good that people know what the risks are. My friend wrote an excellent post a while back called The Reality of C-Sections - http://amamasblog.com/2008/01/31/the-reality-of-c-... - hoping to educate people. She's had both a c-section and a VBAC.
Amy
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Hey Jen 5 pts

but my wound opened up several days after getting out of the hospital (you could actually see down to the layer of fat) and then two weeks after I had my c-section I was back in the hospital for a whole week from an abscess that had developed. I don't recommend c-sections as electives at all. 

I honestly don't know how often that happens, because no one I know has had that happen to them, but it was awful, I was so sick. 

Expat Mum 5 pts

I'm all for showing calm, natural childbirths if it persuades people not to elect to have a c-section. I would rather they showed someone trying to get out of bed after having had a c-section to really put people off. Having had both types of delivery, I cannot imagine actually electing to have surgery. Yes, vaginal labor and delivery can hurt like hell, but when it's over, it's over. A c-section is major surgery, usually takes weeks to recover from and is not to be chosen lightly.

MommyLovesStilettos 5 pts

I watched the show and I actually got sucked in awhile back. What can I say, I love a little trash tv! However, I never ever had much respect for any of the Kardashian girls until I watched the show on Sunday. I was so shocked and impressed by the entire show. I'm really surprised that the E! network filmed it and didn't chop it up and make fun of it. They tend to take real life situations and put a spin on them. In this case, they didn't. And I thought it was great!

Hey Jen 5 pts

who only has home births. She has had five children, all at home and unassisted. Of course she has a very serious fear of doctors and hospitals so that is a huge reason why she does it at home. Her last child was born last year and weighed over 12 pounds. She only took tylenol to dull the pain. 

Before she gave birth I saw a show on the health channel or discovery or something about unassisted birthing in the UK, it was very interesting to see, most of the women shown were very calm, one even had a water birth and I'm not sure she even made a peep. They were all very quiet and calm. 

Me on the other hand, I had to have an emergency c-section with my first. My second I nearly did because it started progressing as the first one did, but thankfully I didn't need one and had her naturally, but because I had been in hard labor for over 24 hours I chose to have an epidural. My midwife tried to hold off on it for as long as possible, but when I feel like I am being torn apart,,,I want some damned relief! 

I may have had some rough labor and delivery, but I know its not always like that. I didn't do any screaming and acting like I was being murdered. Though I will say that I did cry a little bit, but hey I hurt and was very sick. :( My mother was there to help me through breathing. She helped me more than I imagine she even knows.