Lashing out at another person is like a fart. Sometimes you try to hold it back, but it comes flying out anyway!

It seems to me that all of this positive thinking and emulating our higher selves at all times is all well and good, but sometimes you just gotta scream. Occasionally it happens, someone gets in your face, the pressure is too much, and we just gotta let it out. Some people just seem to know how to push our buttons. Push. Poke. Prod. Push again. And that’s it for me! Push me once, shame on you. Push me twice… and I will blow up!

But, you know what? It doesn’t feel good. After an episode like this I feel really bad. Why didn’t I take the high road? I said things that I regret. I made the other person feel bad. I can’t sleep. I feel nervous, anxious and worried. This was not the right course of action. Now I need to apologize. Now I need to make amends.

It would have been much better if I had kept my cool. I would have ended the confrontation feeling good that I had the ability to diffuse it in a way that made both of us feel better.

I had an unfortunate incident like this last night. I did not handle it well. This morning as I started my car to go to work, the self-improvement tape that I had been listening to the day before kicked in and the following words came through the speakers: “In a situation such as this, you need to say to the other person ‘I understand that you are very upset. Let’s talk about this at another time when we have both calmed down.’” Great advice, but poor timing.

Oh well, there’s always next time!

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