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Dear Dancing With the Stars: We're Over

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Dear Dancing With The Stars,

I didn't want it to end. I loved spending my Monday and Tuesday evenings with you. I set my DVR just in case of an emergency where I had to be away, because I never wanted to miss an episode. I was one of your true, loyal fans. I voted every week. I encouraged my friends to do so too. I tweeted and posted on Facebook my anticipation for another season. I blogged about you, my guilty pleasure. I was not a casual admirer. I even went so far as to drive to New Jersey to the Prudential Center and see the show when it went on tour! I've missed you so, all summer long. But now it's over. Done. I know we can't go on.

It is so very hard to write this. But we're through. You're just not the same show you used to be. You've changed. I thought you were different than all those other reality shows. But it turns out I was wrong.

I could see it coming. For a long time I questioned your definition of the word "Star." For me, it means someone who has become famous because they earned it. They are an accomplished artist in film or song, a professional athlete, a master of their craft. For you, it has been someone who you hope will garner great free publicity and thus draw good ratings.

First there was Melissa Rycroft. She was dumped on The Bachelor, so you decided she was a star. The next season there was Jake Pavelka and horror of horrors, Kate Gosselin! OK. So I've been in the TV business. I know you did it for ratings because those translate into money and that is what you are all about. But really, she was so bad it was physically painful to watch. I thought you would have learned your lesson. But I was wrong, wrong, wrong.

44916, LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA - Tuesday September 14, 2010. Mike The Situation Sorrentino of MTV reality series Jersey Shore leaves a dance rehearsal for the upcoming season of Dancing with the Stars. Photograph: Nate Jones  PacificCoastNews.com

Now you have pushed me over the edge. I kept hearing the rumors, but I didn't want to believe they were true. You couldn't possibly be casting Bristol Palin and The Situation as Stars! But again, I was wrong, wrong, wrong.

Our definitions of Star are just too different! Bristol Palin, one day the daughter of the woman who did not complete her term as Governor of Alaska, and a teenage unwed mother, the next a Star? And The Situation. I can't even begin to go there. I didn't even know he had a real name until I saw your list this morning.

Yes -- Michael Bolton, Margaret Cho, Florence Henderson and all the rest are Stars. But Bristol Palin and The Situation? These are not Stars! These are masqueraders! Perhaps you should consider changing the name of the show to Dancing with the Masqueraders. After all, you too DWTS, are not who you professed to be! Alas! Such deception is just too much for me.

And so I have to leave. I have to end our ten season relationship. I thought you were different, but I was wrong. I thought about trying to continue, to put this aside, hope they are both out in the first few weeks and pretend this deception was OK. But I can't. I'm a woman of principle. Your choices perpetuate the message our media-obsessed culture continues to put out there. You don't have to work to earn celebrity status. Just do something -- anything -- that will garner media attention, the more outlandish and controversial the better, and you too will be considered a star.

I will miss you, DWTS, but I'm sure my absence will go unnoticed. You see, I have never been asked to participate in a Nielsen survey. So while my vote for the best dancer might have counted, my viewership does not help you to get that high price you quote for a spot in the live show. Which we know, in the end, is what this is all about.

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OneWomansEye 5 pts

Joanne Tombrakos is a writer, personal coach and corporate expatriate  who blogs her observations on life and work after Corporate America at http://onewomanseye.blogspot.com. Stay tuned for details on the release of her first novel!

SocalMom 5 pts

...but "has-beens and people famous for being famous" isn't catchy enough for a show title.

jwilliams057 5 pts

Might I suggest Chuck as an alternative. It is clever and funny with just a little bit of action. We love it.

OneWomansEye 5 pts

My definition of a star is someone who has earned it based on their accomplishments in their field, be it music, art, film, TV, or sports.

The 'situation' is a member of a reality show. In today's world many call that it a star. I don't.

I don't harbor any unkindness towards Bristol. But I don't consider teenage pregnancy an accomplishment that warrants a 'star' title.
With that I have concerns that granting her that title in some way glamourizes teenage pregnancy and sends a confusing message to other teenagers.

Joanne Tombrakos is a writer, personal coach and corporate expatriate  who blogs her observations on life and work after Corporate America at http://onewomanseye.blogspot.com. Stay tuned for details on the release of her first novel!

OneWomansEye 5 pts

Thanks Catherine!

Joanne Tombrakos is a writer, personal coach and corporate expatriate  who blogs her observations on life and work after Corporate America at http://onewomanseye.blogspot.com. Stay tuned for details on the release of her first novel!

IsleDance 5 pts

Bsed on what we see in the industry, a star is someone the ((public and/or media)) cast their attention upon.

Bristol Palin is a teenager. Whom adults cast their attention (and cruelty) upon. Shame on the adults.

Bristol, as a teenager, is trying to make a healthy situation out of a mistake that she admits she made...while being a spokesperson that encourages other teens to not take her path.

Bristol is also the first to admit that she is very lucky to have the support she has.

And she's trying to stick to her values (and grow up), under all this (international) stress.

Can you hold kindness toward a teenager? Like this?

Or is it more acceptable to hate someone because they belong to a political party that you don't agree with? Isn't that called bigotry?

How many athletes and artists have done far worse? Yet they'd be acceptable to be on DWTS? Because...they excelled at...their daily grind?

One Friday night, I loaded up my life and headed out... ( http://isledance.blogspot.com )

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

I'm with you...I won't be watching. I told my daughter that if that "situation" was the first to go out I would probably tune in for the rest of the show. But then she reminded me of the popularity-contest style of voting, and I realized there is no chance he will be out early (unless he throws in the towel on his own).

Sadly, I'm sure for every middle-aged woman (like myself) that they are losing, they will be gaining 10-20 "Jersey Shore" groupies (along with the demographic most likely to text in their votes).

Anyway, great post.

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan
Also at Catherine-Morgan.com ( http://catherine-morgan.com/ )

OneWomansEye 5 pts

Tempted? No.
Will it be hard? All breakups are.
Do I think that Bristol is probably a lovely girl? I'm sure.
Lucky? Extraordinarily!
Your average teenage unwed mother does not get to glamourize a difficult situation.

But a star? Absolutely not!
At least by my definition of star.

Joanne Tombrakos is a writer, personal coach and corporate expatriate  who blogs her observations on life and work after Corporate America at http://onewomanseye.blogspot.com. Stay tuned for details on the release of her first novel!

lindaloo 5 pts

I never watched DWTS but Kate Gosselin would definitely have been the breaking point for me. The definition of "Star" went away with Reality TV. Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse...Bristol Palin??? Really????? I'm so glad I am no longer employed by the media industry! Great blog Joanne!

TestingForKindergarten 5 pts

Joanne, this was hysterical! On the one hand, I agree. These people are not stars, but on the other hand, I'm tempted to watch them make fools of themselves. It's like watching a train wreck. You don't want to look but you can't look away. And who knows, we might get to know Bristol better and come to really love how hard she tries. The Situation - I'm not so sure.

Nancy Moon @ Moon Public Relations 5 pts

Thank you, Joanne, I've been a fan since the beginning too, your Dear John letter made me laugh so hard! Each season I learn to love some of the C-level celebs. I root them on. I tweet to them and about them. I vote vote vote. I even got my husband to watch a bit. But this season might be it for me too. Jennifer Grey might be amazing to watch. Aren't you sort of tempted to watch on Monday night? Thanks for the laugh, your writing was so clever.