Parenting Lessons to Learn from the Lance Armstrong Doping Scandal
By The Parent Practice on November 19, 2012
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Find New Heroes
This past summer was one that will go down in history as probably the best ever for UK sport. Bradley Wiggins with Team Sky won the General Classification in the TdF, Mark Cavendish had his 23rd TdF stage win and that was all before the London 2012 Olympics & Paralympics where this country saw incredible athletes pushing themselves to overcome seemingly insurmountable challenges. We’ll never forget Jessica Ennis, or Mo Farah or the amazing Paralympians. It is so important to learn from our own limitations, as well as from those of others. In doing so, we can be honest, authentic parents who set an example of integrity and passion that will empower our children.
3. Make Amends and Move Forwards
One word that Lance Armstrong often used in his Twitter posts was ‘onward’ … continuous positive momentum. It’s a powerful notion that will serve him well after he takes responsibility for the mistakes he has made. Like Armstrong, we can all move forward once we take responsibility for our mistaken behaviour, put wrongs to right, and explore ways to make sure that the same thing won’t happen again. We like to call this The Mistakes Process (or the 4As). It goes like this:
Explore (without judgment) what happened and why it was a mistake. Use the mistake as an opportunity for everyone to learn. Acknowledge the courage required to fess up to having made a mistake.
2. Make AMENDS
This is all about putting wrongs to right. This can look many different ways ranging from a sincere apology; cleaning up an actual mess; fixing something that got broken; writing a letter; or doing something nice for someone else. Often, it is the simple act of fixing the mistake that provides the lesson so the same thing doesn’t happen again. And it is so much more effective than shouting!
This is where you want to take some time to explore what could have been done differently so that it will be less likely to happen again.
This is where ‘onwards’ comes into play. You have taken responsibility for the mistake, you have cleaned up your mess, and you have looked at how to make sure to get it (more) right next time. It is done. It is now in the past. It is time to acknowledge that a positive lesson has been learned. Onwards!
I imagine that Armstrong’s oldest son has always seen his Dad as a hero, and it must be very hard to hear that your Dad won because he cheated and to witness the fallout. The damage to Armstrong’s career is vast, but quite possibly, cleaning up this mess with his family and other loved ones will be an even greater challenge.
While cycling has had an inspirational summer, it is likely that the repercussions of the doping scandal will be felt for a while. But will the sport move forward? Of course! As Pat McQuaid said, “My message to cycling, to our riders, to our sponsors and to our fans today is: cycling has a future. … This is not the first time that cycling has reached a crossroads or that it has had to begin anew and to engage in the painful process of confronting its past. It will do so again with renewed vigour and purpose and its stakeholders and fans can be assured that it will find a new path forward.”
The message from the Lance Armstrong scandal is a clear and inspiring one for parents: acknowledge your children’s strengths and weaknesses and celebrate their effort and improvement; model honesty and act with integrity; take responsibility for (and truly learn from) your mistakes. By modeling your own ability to take responsibility and clean up your messes, you are sending a very powerful message to your children. And when you can teach your children to clean up their own messes (both literal and figurative), you are giving them a real gift.
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