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Lessons in Living: Life Coaching

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If you've ever learned a sport with the help of a coach, you know how how valuable their guidance can be.  And even if you've never played sports but have just asked a friend to help you out by talking through a question or problem, you are aware of how helpful outside perspective can be.

Many of us could sometimes use help and guidance on how to move forward and take action.  Enter life coaches.  Life coaching is a growing business for providing direction for moving forward both personally and professionally.  Life coaching is different from therapy and is unregulated so if considering hiring a life coach it is important to figure out what you need and what type of credentials and experience to look for.

A New York Times piece by Eve Tahmincioglu on life coaching as an emerging job trend notes that:

[M]any life coaches were formerly in the mental health field. One of these is Joshua M. Estrin of Fort Lauderdale, Fla., who made the transition from psychotherapist to life coach in 2003. He charges $50 to $75 for a coaching session. He noted that life coaching tends to be more focused on the present and on the future compared with some other forms of therapy.

“I help guide clients and give them the tools they need,” he said. “Coaching is about finding your inner expert to reach your goals. My job is to give my clients a tool belt.”

On her blog, DivineCaroline, Caroline Wilbert interviews Deborah Bailey who has gone from CPA, CFO and CEO to life coach.  Bailey notes:

[T]here is a school called Coaches Training Institute. What I like about this program is they are not just teaching you to coach—although obviously that is a big part of the curriculum—but they are also encouraging you to look inside yourself and see what drives you and what motivates you and why you want to do this coaching and get clear about what your boundaries are with clients so you are not projecting yourself onto them.

Sandra Tate, in a piece about "whole life coaching" points out that although many of the techniques used have been around for thousands of years in different cultures and may seem like a form of therapy,

A lot of people look at whole life coaching as some sort of therapy. While it is very helpful in every area of your life, it is not therapy. Life coaches do not process emotional history, or diagnose or treat mental conditions.

Susie at What Was I Thinking? wonders about qualifications and training:

Then there are those life coaches with no particular training of any kind in human behavior (or whatever one might need to know about in order to advise on matters of life, love, career, etc.), but who fancy themselves as having their shit together and capable of sharing that shit with others. These people can get a certificate saying they are a “Life Coach” from various groups who offer seminars and certificates, suitable for framing. In my state, and most I’ve researched, there are no laws regulating the marketing of oneself as a “life coach.”...

So what about this life-coaching stuff? What should the qualifications be? Does age matter?

Lana Walker-Helmuth at Get Happy, Be Happy, Stay Happy says "Life coaching versus therapy: know the difference" and shares an article which considers four broad distinctions.

Now that you have some ideas for what to look for in a life coach if you are seeking one, let's look at some advice from life coaches.

At Girlfriendology you can listen to a podcast with life coach Debbie Lundber who says "Choose to Inspire your Girlfriends" and gives "advice for supporting other women, for starting a girlfriend's group and for making a difference in women's lives."

At Ladies Who Launch, Certified Professional Life Coach, Joelle Prochera, says "Dream Along With Me" and offers advice for "goal setting for a year beyond your wildest dreams!"

At Fox Business, Nancy Colasurdo, who is a practicing life coach, discusses how you can use astrology to venture out of the box.  Our own BlogHer contributor, KT the Astrologer, offers a "cosmic weather report" to help "organize and prioritize your day."

Blogger imagineyourreality is learning to be a life coach and is finding that coaching can transform you as much as your clients:

It was a good weekend, with so much learned and experienced. As always I come away feeling profoundly changed, even if I don’t consciously realize the full extent of those changes.

And,

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KathyC 5 pts

I love the points you made about life coaching.  There was a time when I needed a life coach but didn't realize it because no one talked about them.  Since that time, I've enjoyed a 2 year relationship with an awesome life coach (Vickie Champion - www.VickieChampion.com ( http://www.vickiechampion.com/ )) who has helped me become serious about my goals and she even helped me develop my intuition.  The intuition that helped that woman know that her life coach was not “the one”, is sometimes the very thing that people lack.  Everyone has intuition but there are people who have lost touch with theirs and they are not able use that inner guidance.  Those people would be more likely to be moved or swayed in ways that are not productive to their own needs or values.  Though my life coach, I've learned that your intuition is the driving force behind your success (or lack of it).

Maria Niles 6 pts

Your site is fun and inspirational. I'm sure "girlfriends" are gaining much value from the information and insight you provide.

Girlfriendology 5 pts

Maria - Where would we be if we didn't learn from each other? Girlfriends are the best source of info and obviously you've been a 'girlfriend' to lots of women by offering insight, information and advice.

Thanks for including Girlfriendology (www.girlfriendology.com ( http://www.girlfriendology.com/ )) and our podcasts (www.girlfriendology.libsyn.com ( http://www.girlfriendology.libsyn.com/ )) in your story on Life Coaches!

You Rock! Thanks, Debba / Girlfriendology 

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Maria Niles 6 pts

Thanks for your comment, Megan.

And what an important point. You have to work with someone you are comfortable with and whom you trust. I'm glad your friend trusted her intuition and got out of the situation quickly.

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Maria Niles 6 pts

Hi Bertie,

Thanks so much for your kind words :-)

I'm a big believer in listening to that little voice inside pushing you towards something. Keep investigating and if you can find a class to take or book to read or some action you can take towards this goal.

Good luck!

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Megan Smith 5 pts

As you mentioned it's important for people to know what to look for in a life coach and at the same time, know what to look out for.

A friend of mine chatted for awhile with someone online who called himself a life coach. They eventually met and developed a friendship until this guy started to become very possessive and almost Svengali-like.

My friend quickly realized this and dumped the guy immediately, but it just goes to show, like anyone you hire, keep an eye out for any behavior that doesn't feel right.

Megan
BlogHer Contributing Editor, TV/YouTube

Personal Blog: Megan's Minute ( http://www.megansminute.com )

babaliscious22 5 pts

thanks so much for this post. I've actually considered becoming a life coach- but I always turn back to - but don't i need more qualification, and life experience, etc.... I've been looking into it more and more to see what I need to do- to help me be the best that I can be and to hopefully pass that knowledge and motivation on. Sometimes- coaching is all about being a cheerleader too- people know how to get there, they just want someone standing behind them rooting them on, knowing someone cares they are doing this or that, etc....

thanks again for this great and informative post:) I'm excited to check out every site you referenced, because you can never have enough knowledge:)

http://rangersrus5.blogspot.com/
http://happinessfromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/
http://lifehaveityourway.blogspot.com/

Bertie