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Let's Do a Little Homework and Make the World a Prettier Place

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Oh J.C. Penney, stop trying to be Forever 21.

This morning, I awoke to the tweeted news that a sweatshirt featuring the slogan “I’m Too Pretty to do Homework” was being marketed at the J.C. Penney website for girls aged seven to twelve -- or the people who shop online for them, if you want to get picky.

Too Pretty To Do Homework

There was a circulating Change.org petition asking J.C. Penney to remove the shirt and what the heck, I signed it. The petition asked me to state my reason for signing, so I wrote, “I am signing this petition to bring down the patriarchy, baby.”

Even with my tongue-in-cheek contribution, the petition -- or Twitter itself -- or both -- worked and the company removed the shirt from their site.

Feminists cried victory.

Critics of feminists said -- predictably -- that feminists have no sense of humor. (Anecdotally, all the ones I saw were men.)

Dare I say, the patriarchy is still in fine shape? Dare I say, J.C. Penney, while being a bit embarrassed probably saw more hits to its website than average this morning? Dare I say, no matter how fun some of these are, tee shirts actually don’t matter?

This is only the latest, tiniest symptom of a problem that is ubiquitous world-wide. Forever 21 got in similar trouble for its recent magnet claiming, “I’m too Pretty to do Math.” And surely I’m not the only one who remembers Math-Is-Hard Barbie, mentioned in the introduction to this study about how it is culture, not girls’ inherent ability that makes them lag behind boys and men in math performance world-wide.

So okay, if it’s culture, I suppose tee shirts do sort of matter. But the market that drives the manufacture of those tee shirts matters infinitely more. I have a feeling that moms who take to Change.org to demand tee justice are far outnumbered by others who either don’t have time to worry about it, don’t really care or actually think a shirt like this is cute. After all, problematic slogans on girls’ clothing abound. Look around next time you’re shopping. Complaining about the tee-shirt doesn’t do much to change the cultural attitude the shirt represents. It’s just looked upon as lacking in humor by people who don’t get why it’s a problem in the first place.

And yet, if we can get the shirt removed merely hours after noticing it and contacting J.C. Penney in sufficient numbers, surely we can do something truly productive. We can take that energy and put it into the socio-political sphere.

We can bombard Congress in the same way, about our concerns about education for both boys and girls in this country. We can organize to protest cutbacks to our schools when our state budgets are in trouble. We can insist on bringing music back into the public schools, given its known value to educational goals. We can put a bit of our own kids’ back-to-school budget towards helping a girl across the world get a high school education. In fact, we could even pressure companies like J.C. Penney, Forever 21, Macy’s, Target and others who are in the back-to-school clothing business to share their wealth with girls who can’t go to school without a school uniform.

In these days of instant consumer feedback, the Internet can be a tool that moves us forward in our goals of equality, respect and civic engagement for our daughters. But it can also make us complacent or even smug about actions that amount to fighting red herrings in our limited time, with our thinly-spread energy.

So let’s go ahead and congratulate ourselves for getting our opinion respected -- or at least responded to -- by J.C. Penney. But let’s take that energy a bit further and see what we can accomplish beyond the elimination of one sweatshirt, from one website.

It might be a little harder than protesting a tee-shirt, but not that much harder. And if we can’t do a little homework for the sake of real change, who are we to complain?

 

Shannon writes about family at Peter's Cross Station and about writing at Muse of Fire.

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Retire In Style Blog.Com 5 pts

For a girl or a woman to admit their limitations is one thing but for them to use their sex as an excuse is unforgivable.

DanielleBarnsley 10 pts

I'm actually surprised that JC Penny took it down; they must have realized that the outcry from the public outweighed the hits they were getting on their site?

Either way, this t-shirt is just a small example of how far we still have to go. And how we are actually at risk of teaching young girls that pretty is everything, brains are nothing. Not to mention the end part, with the male, of course, the smarter counterpart, doing her homework. My eyes are twitchy. So many things are wrong with it.

Excellent post.

CrystalsCozyKitchen 5 pts

I think this shirt is wrong on two levels... first that being pretty means you have no brains and second there is the underlying that if you actually like school, you must be ugly. I'm glad it was removed!

Sylver Blaque 6 pts

When I see things like this, I always wonder how the women on the green-light committee approved them...??

Shannon LC Cate 10 pts

Or whether there ARE any women on that committee... Sylver Blaque

Sylver Blaque 6 pts

Shannon LC Cate Good point. I was outraged enough by this shirt to feature it in a Smackdown on my blog:

http://sylverblaque.wordpress.com/2011/09/03/too-p...

I would be interested to know if anyone has seen any girls wearing this shirt? I also agree with SuburbanCorrespondent that the shirt is only a symptom of a bigger problem which, if addressed, would not be able to produce such shirts as these. Thanks for this great article, Shannon. Articles like this are part of the solution to the bigger problem.

Elle@SeeMomWorkBlog.com 6 pts

I need a shirt that says '"Im too pretty for housework." Do you think that would get me out of doing it?

Shannon LC Cate 10 pts

I'm willing to bet if you googled that you could find it somewhere! Elle@SeeMomWorkBlog.com

My Pajama Days 6 pts

Bravo! It makes my stomach turn that there isn't as much outcry for the absurdly half-dressed teens on the Abercrombie posters, or the words JUICY across the butt of many sweat pant wearing teens. Companies make these ridiculous clothes, because apparently PARENTS let their kids buy it. If there wasn't a demand, there wouldn't be a product. Today I am wearing my most favorite t-shirt that I bought from Girls on the Run International. It says simply: POWERFUL. Aren't those the messages we really want our girls to be projecting?

cyarnell 6 pts

Well said. As a teacher I see that words whether on a t-shirt, pants, sweater, pocketbook, notepad, in a commercial or tv program or from the lis of a popular figure among children and teens do matter. Because it is not just one set of words but a culture that is inundated by these words from all forms. As as any good teacher knows repetition and habit =a learned behavior or response. And who is really responsible for these words. I dont think it is a chicken or egg thing but rather a group whose sole purpose is to make money whcih they do by promoting these kinds of words. Unfortunatley I see that many kids are not raised by their parents but rather thrown to the wind to grow with out cultivation allowing whatever influences they encounter to shape the way they are formed.

Rita Arens 11 pts

Great post, Shannon. I think tshirts unfortunately do matter, and we have to shoot down this stuff and refuse to buy them and pitch a fit when we see them, or our daughters and sons will think it's all right, and nothing will ever change.

FarewellStranger 6 pts

Well said. Whether meant as a joke or not, that t-shirt is appalling. Some little girl somewhere is going to see that and believe it. Or worse, she'll think she's not pretty enough there are too many of us who grew up feeling that way.

I don't, at all, consider myself a feminist. I'm a person, one who wants everyone to grow up feeling okay about who they are. And you're right - it's going to take more than killing one shirt or creating a new one with a positive message to do that.

Shannon LC Cate 10 pts

For what it's worth "feminist" as I use it means someone who believes woman are people. FarewellStranger

celticred63 5 pts

A tee shirt like that perpetuates the idea that pretty = ANYTHING of value, even power (if only over your younger brother) to young girls. I'm all for getting it off the shelves, but agree it's just the tip of the iceberg as far as offensive sayings on clothing marketed toward youngsters is concerned. But I fear removing those shirts doesn't keep young girls from believing their attractiveness makes them worthy in the teen world. My 12-year-old stepdaughter and her friends are already wearing makeup, "reading" the Style section of the NYTimes, wearing what we used to call hot-pants and skimpy tee shirts, etc. I think it's completely normal, but it's also sad to see these girls already buying into the trappings of social "success" through their looks. Thankfully they don't shop at Abercrombie anymore!

jpcross 5 pts

Well said and I couldn't agree more that we could use our collective voices to do something more substantial... something that will really cause change in the lives of our children.

It's a shirt.. I don't care and honestly I've seen a lot more offensive t-shirts for kids and I haven't heard of anyone trying to get those removed from shelves.

SuburbanCorrespondent 5 pts

It struck me as silly and funny. As you point out, fix the REAL problems and sweatshirts/T-shirts like that won't be an issue.

TheKirCorner 5 pts

I loved this article, articulate and right to the point.
I heard about the shirt and even as a feminist it didn't bother me at all. It's tongue in cheek, it's silly...I would rather it be on a shirt for teenage girls or available in college bookstores. I am going to be on a jersey shore boardwalk tomorrow and I can gurantee that I will see all kinds of controversial and frankly offensive sayings on shirts....I understand that this kind of shirt being distrubted by a co like JCPenney is the issue "they should know better" etc..but as parents it's our job to buy that shirt or not..and if we do buy it...we take the time to explain the irony of it, the fact that it's a novelty...not a statement of fact. I have a doll I proudly display that says "Housework makes you ugly!" Am I making fun of my natural abilities to clean my bathroom with it? NO!!!!! Maybe I just don't like doing housework, maybe I just needed a giggle . Ilm not making less of the shirt or the saying, the implication, BUT I would think as a parent it's my job to be very clear with my daughter , niece, and other little girls I know that it in no way is an excuse or statement of fact, that they are bright enough to see the irony.

trendoffice 5 pts

This seems to be one of the negative international trends in marketing - in spring Sofia was covered with large billboards showing a retro-style beauty saying "I am too beautiful to work! Thank you, d-ctor Entchev" - as an advertisment of a plastic sergery service! Here below is a link to an image - I hope you can open it.

http://weasell.files.wordpress.com/2011/06/01f1a05...

anneisanne 6 pts

There was another shirt on there that said "Future Trophy Wife." I was way more offended by that. But seriously, the anti-intellectualism in this country is appalling, and even more so when it's lambasted across a tween's developing chest. The question is, why did it get so far as to be sold in a JC Penny's. BECAUSE there are fools who would buy it. And it's soooo hard to fix stupid.

Gamingangel 5 pts

I agree that people need to do more. In a time where girls are not going into tech careers, or actually faking that they aren't smart to be cool, we need to be doing more than just taking down this shirt. I volunteer with DigiGirlz, but there are other organizations. And moms? It can even start with you and your daughter.

My response: http://www.gamingangels.com/2011/08/no-need-to-lea...

theTsaritsa 5 pts

Great post. The slogan on the t-shirt is very troubling, and though I'm a little surprised that t-shirts like that are still being made in this day and age I shouldn't be. Remember not too long ago when Abercrombie & Fitch was pushing push-up bra bikinis to girls under 12? Ugh...

I'd love to see petitions go out about helping to fund public education. I think Penney's could probably afford to cough up a few dollars for that.

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Christina Moctezuma
Christina Moctezuma

If she liked the shirt, meh. I've raised all my daughters to be WAY more opinionated and self aware than to allow a saying on a shirt to dictate their actions or thoughts. Just sayin'... Oh, an btw...those psycho bunny shirts are hilarious!

Yolinda Carroll
Yolinda Carroll

It was suppose to be a fun shirt, but they blow it way up.

Nikki Oblamski
Nikki Oblamski

Considering I used to wear shirts with with plays on words such as "won fun lei" and "chow Mai Pu tang" I am going to have to say this ranks mildly in my books

Cathy Morse Herard
Cathy Morse Herard

Wouldn't buy it, but certainly don't think it needs this much attention, either.

Mandy Andrew Sellers
Mandy Andrew Sellers

Ummmm, no. It's like pulling teeth to do homework around here. Every worksheet that gets finished is like a victory for all human kind. Some days I would like to shout it from the rooftops that she did her homework. I'd never down play all the hard work she puts into it. We encourage our girls to work hard - whether they're pretty or not, makes no difference.

Allison Costello Peiritsch
Allison Costello Peiritsch

So homework is for the ugly? Although I only have a son, I would never buy this shirt. It only feeds self-image problems. The middle/high school years are awkward and difficult enough to navigate, why in the world would I want my child to wear something that only contributes to that?

Michelle Buchanan
Michelle Buchanan

I JUST saw this shirt in a Burlington Coat Factory store ad. Smh

Susan Kuznitsky
Susan Kuznitsky

No way. I do not have a daughter but I have 2 sons (now teenagers) and we always avoided 'rude' or 'stupid' sayings on t-shirts. The only good thing I can say aobut those shirts is that it was a good way to talk about issues like that. Today as teenagers I am happy to say they get it and pick their t-shirts accordingly.

Tricia Gardner
Tricia Gardner

NO not in a million years..... I don't buy any kind of shirt that makes my daughter seem or sound dumb. Just like those psyco bunny ones...

LaShan Arceneaux
LaShan Arceneaux

no. she is an honor student and proud of it. the notion that girls should be pretty and stupid is so wrong. and there are boys that are smart and some are stupid. this shirt assumes that all boys are smart. ughhhh. all kids need to learn at home that no one sex is smarter than the other.