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Let's Not Give Millennials a Swift Kick in the Pants (Yet): Consider the alternatives

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Several years ago I worked for a man who had built a strong business and reputation over his 45 years in the corporate world; he asked me to help him hire an assistant. It was a small company with fewer than 10 employees, so the job wasn't only limited to assistant work, but would include some office management and event coordination to boot.

Hundreds or resumes, dozens of phone calls, and eight face-to-face meetings later, I whittled the candidates down to two: a woman in her mid 30s who had worked consistently in office settings as an executive administrative assistant, and a woman in her early to mid 20s who had held numerous, unrelated positions, including running her own administrative assistance business out of her home and hairdressing.

I liked both candidates very much, but I was more inclined to hire the woman in her 20s. She had an enthusiasm about her that I thought would positively counter the slower, more contemplative style of my boss. Plus, my boss, what generational marketers would call a traditionalist, often had computer issues, and the woman in her 20s confessed that she enjoyed troubleshooting. The older candidate had more job experience, but would she be willing to pick up the slack doing all of the random little jobs that came up? My boss had asked his last assistant for everything from copyediting services to coffee runs. I assumed the older candidate would consider herself past the early, "will do anything" phase of her career.

My boss met with both candidates and had an immediate reaction to the younger one; she had a "non-traditional" resume and was a bit too chummy--she had joked lightheartedly about keeping her potential boss in-line. Plus, she had a small stud in her left nostril--that seemed to be the worst infraction of them all. The other candidate was pleasant and capable, but I didn't get any sense of her personality. Perhaps the younger candidate would help lighten up the often serious tone of the office. So despite my boss's reservations, I hired her. She lasted three weeks. She said to me before leaving that she just wasn't resonating with her boss. He didn't give her any positive feedback, and she needed to be in a better environment. I remember admiring how quickly she made the decision, without months of misery or questioning.     

This story came to mind while I read Ron Alsop's latest book, The Trophy Kids Grow Up: How the Millennial Generation is Shaking Up the Workplace. Alsop, a writer for The Wall St. Journal, has become a defacto expert on Millennials, having kids in this generation and strong exposure to their effect on the marketplace through his reporting work on business schools and corporate reputation. Though the cultural chasm between Millennials (those born between 1980 and 2001) and older generations is becoming increasingly clear in the marketplace, Alsop makes the distinctions clearer, delving behind the now-stereotypical view of the "entitled" generation and approaching it with an invested, strategic perspective. Even if you think the Millenials need to grow up and endure a few career hard knocks before getting that coveted promotion, realize that in a few years this group will be by far the largest cohort in the workforce, and one that has to be understood, even catered to, if businesses are to survive.

The book is packed with examples of organizations making dramatic changes to accommodate Millennials, from professors providing studens with IM access and multimedia learning experiences to major corporations offering Parent Days where their children work. Helicopter parenting, a term I've only just been turned on to, was coined to describe the doting, "hovering" childrearing style of Millenials' parents--Baby Boomers who want their kids to be competitive and safe in an information-overloaded, post 9/11 society. "Involved" parents are endemic to the Millennial experience. Many in this generation don't cower in embarrassment like I did once when my mother tracked me down in a high-school history class to give me my forgotten lunch. They expect their education and careers to be family affairs, and they expect to be in constant contact with their parents, who become friends, vocal advisors, and in the most extreme instances, reasons why their kids didn't get hired.

Alsop is an objective (if not overly tolerant) writer, who provides story after story of Fortune 500 company managers who had to negotiate with parents over a child's salary, of parents who challenged professors about grades and attended their children's job interviews.

Alsop reports some anecdotes from Thunderbird School administrator

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ninepoems 5 pts

I was born in 79, so I'm right on the edge, but there is a huge difference between my view of the world and that of my sister who was born in 88. Our parents just raised us completely differently. Something happened in our society that shifted parenting. In the mid-to-late 80s I was free to roam around the neighborhood, go on bike adventures that stretched miles from home, come home from school one day and tell my mom I was spending the night at a friend's house on the weekend and they would never think twice. My sister did not share this experience. She was really protected as a child. I'm not even certain she knows how to ride a bike. Play dates were arranged and everything was scheduled. My parents took care of everything for her, while I pretty much took care of myself. I think it became really bad form to not hover over your children.

 I work at large public university. When I meet with the Admissions office, they now tell stories about how a lot of the latest applicants don't fill out their own application, but how their parents do. That's so crazy to me!

I employee students to assist me in my work. Every new student I hire was born later and later, and their attitude is different. Not bad, but just different. Certain things like using MySpace or Facebook at work is like a right to them. They feel really strongly about being connected technologically at all times. They grow impatient when the network is down or they can't complete a task due to some problem. They are hard and fast workers and haven't seemed to grasp the notion of "under promise and over deliver." It becomes more interesting each year.

 Anyway, I thought what you said about Gen X'ers being translators was spot on. That's exactly how I feel. Caught somewhere in between the generations. 

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TracieB 5 pts

I find this post really interesting.  I am a Millenial who was born in 1981, so I'm an "older" Millenial.  I know my parents have always been very hands on in my life.  Always.  My first job at 16 I got the job because my mom worked in the place.  I had no prior work experience, and they didn't hire anyone under 18.  I think I was the first employee who ever worked there who was under 18.  Anyway, sometimes I worked side by side with my mom, and all the coworkers kept a close eye on me as "supervision" when my mom wasn't there to keep tabs on me.  Really, it was sweet.  I was "mothered" not only by her, but by her friends that worked there also.  My dad was super involved when it came to when and who I dated, etc, at a young age, and in helping me research information about colleges. He also always made sure my cars were in working order.  They didn't spoil me in terms of money, because we weren't a rich family by any means, but my sister and I both were really looked after in several ways.

 I'm 27 now, and am married.  My mom still advises me concerning marriage, my future education plans, career, and relational issues.  My dad too is involved.  My husband was born in 1974 and is 34.  His dad is involved, and he is the same age as my parents, but there is a slightly different relationship generationally.  I think that is really interesting to see.  I think it is partly because my husband is a child of the seventies rather than the eighties.  I can see a difference.  My husband sometimes thinks my parents are too involved with me in terms of certain things, and he doesn't understand my sister living at their home right now since she has graduated college already (it's temporary).  But he does appreciate that they regard him also as a son (just as his side of the family regards me as a daughter), and my mom is just as likely to give him advice (if he wants it... she respects him if he doesn't, also) or tell him to put on a warm sweater when he goes out, as she is my sister Jennifer or myself.  

 I think in terms of work, my parents always encouraged me to find what was right for me.  It doesn't have to look like everyone else's path.   My mom especially said to pursue what really interested me, and to keep in mind that any company or organization I might work for is not concerned for employees; it is first and foremost concerned for the bottom line, so to find what is truly good for me rather than one that is money, money, money focused.  I work with teenagers today in a residential treatment center, serving their needs.  I'm not paid for a "product" I produce.  I want to become a teacher and am going to be going back to college for a master's soon.  This is five years after my graduation with a B.A. in English and almost a B.A. in History (two classes shy).  Things have definitely not taken a traditional path in my life, and I got married in the midst of all of this, two and a half years ago.  We haven't started a family yet, and that may be a few years down the road.  We haven't decided yet.  Nothing has been conventional.  I've held all sorts of jobs and in several areas.  It doesn't look like it would have had I been in any other generation.  And I have been responsible and smart concerning choices I've made.  I do want to become a teacher, to make a difference in children's lives.  It's not as much about the paycheck as it is about making a difference, in my mind.  Once I have kids with my husband, I may choose to be a stay at home mom, at least until they are all school age.  So my career may be on hold once I have kids anyway.  At any rate, I plan on being surrounded by kids, whether in a school environment or at home.  :)