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Letting Your Kids Choose Everything for a Day

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I've thought about how many choices my husband and I make for our kids, day in and day out. We let them pick lunch foods, but dinner is our domain. Where we go. What we do. Who is in and out of our life on any given day. It's probably really freaking annoying!

When I read this post by Sarah at These Powers of Mine, I had a light-bulb moment. The concept of a "Chooseday" -- a day in which your child gets to choose any/everything you do all day -- seems like a fun way to learn about your kiddo. I think we might try it sometime soon. Read on to see how theirs went. Have you ever tried it?

Chooseday:

Allegra's sockI realized after the storm passed that this was a week of very few choices for my girl. We were more scheduled than normal, more cooped up because of the heat, and we happened to play host to friends on three separate occasions, which meant that we were home more but also less free to make messes and wallow in them like we usually do.

So on Thursday night when I put her to bed, I told Allegra that the next day would be Allegra Choose Day (or Chooseday, as we later dubbed it). She was in charge. We would do what she wanted (within reason, I told myself, but didn’t say this to her). As I kissed her goodnight she told me “Target. I want to go to Target tomorrow.”

And a Chooseday we had. It kind of terrified me, not knowing what we’d be doing, which is revealing and also not surprising.

Read on to see what they did all day... some of it is surprising!

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Polgara 5 pts

Blogging at http://atpolsplace.blogspot.com/

Mr B is autistic - he doesn't have friends, so I have given up doing parties for birthdays. He was 10 last week - so he got an In Charge Card to use for a day instead. He just loved the whole idea and I will definitely use the concept again.

http://atpolsplace.blogspot.com/2011/07/ben-in-cha...

powersofmine 5 pts

Have a wonderful Eddie Day - love it! :)

powersofmine 5 pts

The comments here and over on the blog itself are really making me think about how to do this with older kids and siblings (my 13-mo-old was just along for the ride :)). Like so many parenthood decisions this one was just a happy accident and didn't involve a lot of planning, but I LOVE the input from others who do this as a regular family event! So curious how it will work with the bigger kids and siblings, too!

JennaHatfield 10 pts

I am interested in how to do this... with more than one child. I can predict some issues of making one child choose everything and the other child actually do it, even if the other child's chooseday is the very next day.

Got to work on some logistics here.

Family Section Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and photographer.

jamiewilson 5 pts

Letting kids take decision makes them confident.

HeatherS 5 pts

We're actually having our second annual Eddie Day (our name for Chooseday) tomorrow! We were just planning out the schedule at dinner tonight (he likes to plan ahead). So far the five-year old has us going to see Cars 2, riding bikes at the park, having pancakes with strawberries for breakfast, and going out for ice cream after dinner.

Last year's Eddie Day was really a wonderful bonding time for the whole family. We talked about the memories all year. I can't wait until our youngest is ready to plan her own day and we see what she comes up with. :)

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powersofmine 5 pts

Thanks for the spotlight, Jenna! It was a VERY illuminating exercise - would love to hear from others who have tried it too! :)