Imagine if ...

I often find that people with children, when they hear women who embrace their life without children (either by choice, or because we had no choice), find it necessary to comment that they couldn’t imagine life without little Jack and Jill (or whoever). Of course, they can’t (or won't) imagine their life as it is now without their children. To do so would be to imagine them gone, to feel their absence, their loss, and to imagine and feel the grief of this loss. Of course they can’t do that. And none of us are ever suggesting they should try....more
Thank you for this short but incisive piece. I am also childless... I would like to share a ...more

My Childfree Story

I feel childfree because my children are away at school

I like taking care of my children, specially because they like my foods. I feel like I am making a difference in this life. Now my children are living with their father and I had to put their needs first and allow them to stay with him and his new wife and her children. My son would have to wake up at 6am to travel to my house, when it would be his father's week because we have share custody. He moved so far away almost in the remote country side. I texed them often and call them as much as I can. We set facetime but have not yet use it....more

How to Make a Child-Free Woman Feel Awkward

In the past year and ESPECIALLY in the past few months, I’ve been surrounded by babies, particularly newborns. My best friend and brother both had their firstborns within days of each other, so naturally a lot of photoshoots followed....more
Bodynsoil exactly!  it's the best.more

What If I Never Have Kids?

Society keeps telling us that time is running out and that if we are ever going to pursue motherhood, we should get on it sooner rather than later. I understand the science that supports this belief but I still can’t help but feel like it’s a scare tactic....more
I always thought I would have kids. Then I hit my 30s and was still single and starting worrying ...more

6 Assumptions NOT to Make About the Child-Free

I would never presume to speak for all of the child-free men and women out there, so I will say, right here, this applies to H and me....more
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Being childfree doesn't mean you owe an explanation or self-deprecation

Lilit Marcus' Mother's Day article in the Guardian, Just because I love my mother doesn't mean I have to become one myself, responds to the assumption some people have that women who don't want children must have had a psychologically or emotionally damaging upbringing. Unfortunately, she responds in a way that harms rather than helps....more

Advanced Conversational Spanish

"¿Qué piensa usted del evento en la página cuatro?"...more

The fruits

Time for Mommy to Hide

Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom and I absolutely love being a wife. But, sometimes… We as mothers need time to hide, breathe, or go for a run. When I get the chance (when my Husband get’s home)… I like to grab a glass of chardonnay, pick a nail polish color to do my nails, sit on the floor, light a fresh scented candle, and lock my self in the bathroom....more