Being childfree doesn't mean you owe an explanation or self-deprecation

Lilit Marcus' Mother's Day article in the Guardian, Just because I love my mother doesn't mean I have to become one myself, responds to the assumption some people have that women who don't want children must have had a psychologically or emotionally damaging upbringing. Unfortunately, she responds in a way that harms rather than helps....more

Advanced Conversational Spanish

"¿Qué piensa usted del evento en la página cuatro?"...more

The fruits

Time for Mommy to Hide

Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom and I absolutely love being a wife. But, sometimes… We as mothers need time to hide, breathe, or go for a run. When I get the chance (when my Husband get’s home)… I like to grab a glass of chardonnay, pick a nail polish color to do my nails, sit on the floor, light a fresh scented candle, and lock my self in the bathroom....more

Woman doesn't mean mother

I'm a 38-year old woman and I do not want to bear children. I've never wanted to. And before you write me off as an unworthy representative of my gender, consider this: my grandmother used to hit my mother when she was a kid, my mother used to hit me when I was a kid....more

Childfree Response to "Of Pleasure and Parenthood"

I call this "On pleasure and personhood -- the final word." Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it. She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it … she apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me. ...more
I'm late to the conversation, but I too feel uncomfortable defending my decision to not have ...more

17 truths about the childfree

Note: This blog post first appeared at the website, where I write about childfree topics under the name Sylvia D. Lucas....more
@Rita Arens True, Rita, that one only knows one's own experience. I don't deny (nor should ...more

So what if I don't want children?

Women choosing not to have children has become a hot topic lately.,  Time and Slate have weighed in on the issue. Are women selfish for not wanting children? Am I, at 28, a neglecting my womanly duties by not settling down, getting married and popping out babies like the rest of those I graduated high school with?...more
@JennaHatfield That wasn't meant to be a knock on birth moms. Kudos to you for doing what you ...more

You Look Good Holding that Baby…And Other Sh*t People Say When They Want You to Have a Baby

People really, really want you to have a baby. Your mother-in-law, your friends with kids, your bowling instructor. Let’s be honest, it’s basically open to anyone who finds out you don’t already have a baby....more

I probably am more carefree as a childfree person. Why do you think I didn’t want kids?

In another room on BlogHer, Schmutzie lists "17 Untruths Parents Believe about Non-Parents." Among them, that the childfree can be late to bed and late to rise, have better (and more frequent) sex, and have all kinds of free time for fun stuff.And over on the fantabulous website, Tricia W. writes,...more