Send In The Clowns

I have always been an optimistic person.  A bit goofy perhaps, with a wry sense of humor.  It's how I look at the world.  Having boys is often like one big, long practical joke, but I have always chosen to perceive their antics in a humorous light.  When friends stress out or worry about something, I question, "Can you do anything to change the outcome?  If not, direct your energy somewhere else."  So, I am seen as light-hearted; naive even.  I like to laugh at the world, not drown in sorrow....more

Death, Loss And Their Potential To Awaken Life

As I sat in a local breakfast spot with two of my best girlfriends this morning I received a phone call that a young woman my family knows passed away in a drowning accident yesterday evening. She was a local middle school teacher who left behind her husband and two young children, both under the age of four....more
@elaineR.N. Elaine and Melanie! How good to see you here, when I return this morning. I had to ...more

Watching Your Mother Die

You push your metal chair way back in the cramped hospital room. You’re still only two feet from her bed, but you need space to breathe—even though she barely can.You watch her 59-year-old mouth gape like a dying carp’s and thank god and the morphine that she’s unconscious. You ignore the fact that you’ve been sweating the cancer-ward smell—latex, alcohol, flat Sprite—out of your skin for weeks.You also ignore the truth: that time and tumors can’t fill the chasm between you and the woman lying there. You feel the old hurt mix with the new hurt so savagely your bones ache....more
If I hadn't known better, I might have thought I wrote this...  So many similarities to my own ...more

You are going to die (and other stress relievers)

I can't be the only one, when watching morning shows or scrolling through Twitter or Facebook, who's thinking pleasefortheloveofgodjustshutup, who empathizes with the character Michael Douglas plays in the movie Falling Down....more

A Friend Indeed

 Some real life stories are stranger than fiction. Sometimes you should never question why some things happen in your life because you can never get an answer to that.I grew up in a middle class family in Ramnad in South India. I had a good friend and we were inseparable, almost joined at the hips. Everyone said that we were more like brothers than friends.Then my friend met this girl.You will call me a MCP if I say, “And there started the trouble.”...more


A year ago, a family I grew up with lost their mom suddenly. They were shocked and grief stricken, as the kids all gathered around their father to try and make sense of all that has happened....more

The Concept of Family: When your Family SUCKS

My brother died last year around this time, May something or other. I wasn't even sure he was really dead. I got a muffled cell phone call from my mom around 5 am mumbling frantically that Tim may have died and then click.  It seemed likely he was dead considering the times he probably should have died.  Once he was so drunk he wrecked his motorcycle and his bottle of vodka rolled out of his back pack. No one saw it happen so he gathered up his back pack, his vodka and went on his way. I got up,  took a shower, came to work and met up with my friend in the parking lot....more
I found your blog because I was Googling ideas for making my will because I have no family that ...more


As I age, I am losing the older generation of family members at an ever increasing pace.  Growing up, I was taught that this generation had it all together, almost to the point of infallibility.  I was taught to respect my elders, to not question, and to obey without a second thought....more

12 Tips for Talking to Children About Death

American children have likely been asking some pretty tough questions lately - between the horrifying headlines and daily family life, there is most certainly the very real concept of death. Depending on the age of your child, you might have some questions yourself: How much do I say? How much do I share? Dr....more
lifespondering Agreed. -Momomore

You think I'm sweet, but really I'm a serial murderer

We don't pick our victims haphazardly.  Much research and observation goes into choosing the next casualty.  How does the subject move around?  Are they skittish, scared, and excitable, or confident, relaxed, and comfortable in a group?  What do they like to eat?  And what is their price? ...more
giggle. My BFF killed a lot of fish in her day. She did managed to keep one alive through most ...more