Each year, the women in my family gather in Manhattan for a Girls’ Christmas Day. My grandmother, mother, aunts, cousins, and I get tickets to a holiday show and then catch up over dinner. This tradition has become one of my favorite days of the year; it bundles together the two things I love most – Christmas and family.But this year, we were missing one....more


She was alive last Christmas.Her lips stained purple Hands cradled a glass. “Hey Sista!” she greeted Me. We embraced.She laughed. She was full. She had love. She had life. Yet untouched by cancer, She feared nothing then. Just another in a string of holidays, Like unbroken bulbs.Not the last.  --The Witty Biddy

Quiet Treasures

Who was this mysterious man who was known to us as Joseph, Joe, or Joey, or Bro, or Uncle Joe, or Hon?From the time he was a little baby, I figured out how to "read" Joe.  I learned what each subtle body movement meant.  His facial expressions were actually quite loud.  Sometimes his eyes alone would tell a whole story.His teachers would say to me,"Joseph is a good student, but he is so quiet."...more

Life, Interrupted

Maybe it was seeing Angelina Jolie profiled on "60 Minutes" last night. Though the life of the glamorous movie star has nothing to do with this blog post, the title of her 1999 movie ("Girl, Interrupted") popped into my mind this evening as I sat down to write. Writing generally comes easily to me but this is one of those instances where it feels right to slow down just a bit. After all, there's nothing like sobering news to bring you back down to Earth after a long holiday weekend in the company of people you love....more

NaBloPoMo 26 - Hoka Hey

 Hoka Hey - It is a good time to die....more

Author Anne McCaffrey Dead at 85

Prolific and famed sci-fi/fantasy author Anne McCaffrey, best known for the Dragonriders of Pern series, died Monday. She was 85. ...more
Oh, I so loved her work when I discovered it in my 20s, a very long time ago. Air and Fire, the ...more

Pop: Until We Meet Again

 My dad, 86, passed away from us yesterday. He leaves his wife Nancy of 63 years, 5 children, their spouses, seven grandkids, two great-grands.He was a loving husband, a good father, a diligent worker, a sometimes difficult man, extremely modest about his achievements, a great cook, WW II combat vet (Iwo Jima/occupied Japan), quick with the one-liners and loved to laugh....more
@DesiValentine4 Thank you so, sweet Desi and Karen Lynn.more

Respecting death

When I was in my twenties, I used to like to hang out in cemeteries. Especially old,very old cemeteries. I'd take walks through them, or sit on a stone bench and eat lunch. Sometimes I'd write in my journal. Or, I'd just sit....more

Dear Co-sleeping Moms:

By now I'm sure we've all seen the Milwaukee ads that indicate that co-sleeping = death. They are very upsetting. Two of them show babies sleeping with knives, the other show the family bed headed by a tombstone. They have us all talking.I know you think the ads are directed at you. I bet you think that Mayor Barrett is vehemently against co-sleeping and is judging you. I bet you think the whole world is judging you now, don't you? And maybe they are. But the ads, they are not directed at you. However, this blog post is....more


His laugh, low and husky, always makes me smile.  Not a man to rush, he enjoys the moments of his life, no matter how big or small.  'Things have a way of working themselves out," he always tells me.  For a littl...more
Thank you all for your comments. It's hard to believe that something that has lived in my ...more