In loving memory

One of my favourite pastimes while visiting British Columbia during my summer holiday is taking morning strolls down the meandering gravel trail that stretches alongside the Fraser River situated about 10 minutes from our house in Richmond, a suburb of Vancouver, Canada. A walk along the pathway in the early morning isn't particularly elaborate; its beauty is much more unassuming and steeped in nostalgia....more

A small passing

“Failure is a greater teacher than success. Listen, learn, go on. That is what we are doing with this tale. We are listening to its ancient message. We are learning about deteriorative patterns so we can go on with the strength of one who can sense the traps and cages and baits before we are upon them or caught in them.” ~Clarissa Pinkola Estés...more
@Isabel_Anders Thank you so much Isabel!   more

I Never Thought I'd Pray for My Dad to Die...

Almost exactly two years ago, my Dad suffered his first in a series of 'stroke-like-events' that would continue to occur at almost regular intervals.We thought we were going to lose him.  He couldn't speak, he suddenly couldn't walk, and he couldn't make sense of anything around him.  We had no idea how to deal with this sort of thing, having never experienced it before, and really had no idea what to expect....more

Grief and the monster under the bed!

We're living in modern times. People are more open about their lives and choices than at any other time in history. People speak their minds and demand to be heard. We talk openly about most every topic including all those things that were hidden in our ancestor’s closets. Yet there is something about death and the grieving process that remains mysterious....more


There are few things my wife and I disagree about.  Evolution* is one of them.  You see, I don't believe in it.  I'm a Creationist.*Evolution, as I'm using it here, refers to the existence of the universe, and more specifically, human beings, without the involvement of a deity.  Which deity and how involved... well, as Sweet Brown would say, "Ain't no body got time for that!"*...more
 @victorias_view thank you for thinking of usmore

Surviving Loss and Thriving Again

None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional “til death do us part.” Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking the loss of that love. When you’re happy with someone, you often don’t think about your happiness or even fully realize it. You may take your contentment for granted....more

Listen Up Folks

Do not, I repeat do not put off taking care of your health and learn the warning signs of serious health issues such heart attacks and strokes today.We lost a friend and fellow racer yesterday who was only 39 from a massive heart attack. He left behind a wife and two young sons. He died one day after his wedding anniversary. His last Facebook post read, “Today fourteen years ago I married my sweetheart..........Love Ya Honey...........”...more
 @JennaHatfield Thank you. I admit, we do too. It's too bad it takes a reminder like this to get ...more

A Widow's Point of View, Part II

A few more things my friend wished to share.  Some of these I knew to do, others never crossed my mind.  I admire her strength and her willingness to share what she's learned during this difficult time.1.  If you have a safety deposit box, where is the key?2.  Take index cards and notate what goes to whom around the house.  Include a picture.3.  Make sure your living will is on file with both your doctor and your local hospital....more

I hate you, Cancer

Dear Cancer,You have ravaged my family.  You’ve stolen my grandparents, you’ve harassed my aunts, uncles, my father and  my friends – and you’re taking my Aunt. You’re like a thief, coming in and taking what you have no right to.  Taking away not just their health, but the qualities that made them who they were.  You have cast a shadow over our lives – we’ve learned to live in fear of you.  You silently creep in... continue reading at Delusional Mom...more

Looking Back 7 Years

Seven years ago today. Its a blur, a distant memory, yet it stands clearer in my mind than probably any other event if my life.It was a sunny Saturday morning. The day before Mother's Day. The long awaited day for this southern girl to finally get to plant her flowers since we made it out of the northern freeze period. I was 6 months pregnant with Evan. Life was good....more