Requiem for a Goat

I know I haven't written in a while, and I honestly thought I would be writing about the new puppy in our life. Instead I find myself writing about another death on the farm.Boots was born on May 15th of this year. She died on Sunday the 16th, just a day past turning 4 months old. And, today we buried her.I've been feeling like a bit of failure. When we had the massacre weekend, I promised Boots that I would take care of her. We took her to the breeder and then brought her back after 3 weeks. And, as I wrote back then, she was never quite the same. I called it goat PTSD....more
I'm very sorry for your loss.more

The Day's after My Father's Passing

I would give anything to have 10 more minutes with my father. Every day is a day farther away from him and closer to a lifetime without him. It is unbearable agony.  He was the most wonderful man.My father is the first person close to me that has passed away. Nothing could have prepared me for this. I didn’t know it was possible for my heart to hurt this much. The pain gets worse rather than better....more
@MEMtoLAX It does not get any easier when after dad, mom, mother-in-law and then father-in-law pass.more

Rest in Peace, Patrick O'Rourke

My friend Dan is one of those friends-for-life-no-matter-what type of friend.He's followed Frankly, My Dear from Day One. It was his encouragement that led me to start New Inklings Press. He was the first to buy The Unemployment Cookbook.We talk smack about sports, politics, and humor. All.The.Time. He's just a great guy with a great attitude and a great family.Dan and I have known each other since grade school. He still lives close to where we grew up in Michigan....more

Slaying the dragon

I think of death more than most people.  It’s only natural when you come face-to-face with it so often....more


I was having dinner with my girlfriend the other night when the topic of death came up. We are both unfortunate members of girls-who’ve-lost-their-fathers-too-young club; and as well-meaning as many people are, it is nice to speak with someone who understands what I’m going through....more

My Emotional Baggage

I hate the spotlight.  I hate receiving gifts, awards, praise.  I like my role to be a nurturer, a giver.  I hate asking for help.  I like to try to accomplish everything myself, partially due to my need to be in control of situations and partially because I hate burdening people.  Hating the spotlight and not wanting to burden people have kept me silently dealing with a problem that until today, no one knew I had.  Not my family.  Not The Big Guy....more

Grandpa's In The Ground Now

81 days.Around the time I posted "Giving Up Grandpa" I let my close friends and family in on an estimate: I figured that within 3 months of moving out of our house that my Dad would be either in the hospital, in a nursing home, or in the ground.It took 84 days to get him in the ground when his care was no longer in my control.  81 days for him to take his last struggling breath and 3 more to bury him.  I've never wanted less to say "I told you so".The past couple w...more

Children's Book on Death

Please check out Gayle Fuhr's children's book called Grandma Ruby and Me. It tells the story of Taylor, age 7, who loses her grandma. Beautiful illustrations and a lovely story which opens up death to children. Even though it is written and illustrated with an African American family it is great for all ehtnicities as death knows no color. You can order from the author directly or her publisher or Amazon. Gayle Fuhr on facebook. Message her....more

How Do We Talk About the Wisconsin Sikh Temple Shooting?

Two weeks ago, a gunman entered a movie theater in Colorado and killed twelve people. In the days following the shootings in Aurora, there were discussions. We spoke of inadequate gun laws. Or we argued that this had nothing to do with guns....more
Thank you for this very thought provoking post.  And it's so true - the media and our education ...more


"Time keeps on slippin', slippin', slippin' into the future." Or does it?...more