Friending The Dead

Throughout human history we have kept the dead alive in our hearts and minds through memorials, paintings, photographs, statues, biographies, plays, films, shrines and all manner of tribute and memory. However these types of remembrance are ultimately retrospective. What if there were a way you could continue to be a member of your communities even after you've shuffled off this mortal coil? ...more

What a conundrum about your friend and whether or not to make his partner aware of the project ...more

When The Season Just Doesn't Seem All That Merry And Bright

About a month ago, I wrote about coping with grief during the holidays. It was around Thanksgiving, and I was more or less in the mind of preparing for coping with grief at Christmas. Christmas was going to be the doozy for me, I knew. Christmas was going to be when dealing with the loss of my dad was going to hit me square in the chest and knock me to the floor. I wanted to be ready. I readied myself to be ready.I wasn't ready....more

I lost my dad in July. The holidays have been so hard. But your post really is true. It's ...more

Encountering Crisis Online: What to Do When Someone Threatens Suicide

90-day-Jane started her blog with a very clear mission and message. She planned to kill herself. Her blog would chronicle the 90 days leading up to her suicide. Her "About Me" introduction read:I am going to kill myself in 90 days. What else should I say? This blog is not a cry for help or even to get attention. It's simply a public record of my last 90 days of existence. I'm not depressed and nothing extremely horrible lead me to this decision. But does it really have to?...My generation has had no great depression, no great war and our biggest obstacle is beating Halo 3. So, if I feel like saying 'game over', why can't I?...more

I am glad this post is helpful to you. Sadly, I believe that we will encounter crisis ...more

Tweeting and the death of a child  ...more

Pumpkin Spice Latte & Frugalista Chic

Ahh... the holidays are upon us... Images of sugar plums dancing in our heads while dreaming if Santa Claus will be providing us with treats (or a big fat lump of coal) under our Christmas trees. Who am I kidding?! That is what I want.. those images on the books I read to my son at bedtime. ...more

I love the holiday drinks. I splurge on Starbucks too. That is actually one of my favorite ...more

How do you give yourself to science?

A recent query on HARO was asking for sources who were considering donating their bodies to science. My husband and I have always been organ donors, and we both want to give all or most of our body parts to science. Reuse, recycle, nothing new, right? But have you ever thought about how you go about actually arranging it?...more

the life of a fisherman's son. 1928-2009.

I consider myself to be a pretty thankful person. I try to mentally list all the haves in my life before I go to bed at night. It’s my own kind of prayer. My family is always right there at the top of the list, and I never forget to mention my grandparents. This was my first Thanksgiving away from home. Since I just moved to Atlanta, I made the choice to stay in the area for Thanksgiving and go to Virginia for Christmas. Until this year, I’d spent every Thanksgiving at my grandparent’s house in Virginia Beach....more

My grandfather was the son of a fisherman, a fisherman and the father of fishermen (and ...more

A Good Death

The father of a friend of mine died recently.  Here’s how it happened:   She was driving home from a board meeting thinking about the finishing touches that she needed to put on a grant.  Her cell phone rang.  It was her brother telling her that her father wasn’t feeling well.  He’d been a bit under the weather.  She rushed to his home.  He was talkative and joking.  A couple of hours later, he had a heart-attack and died surrounded by his children and other family members.  ...more

When Grief Is Served Alongside The Gravy: Coping With Loss During The Holidays

Late this summer, my father died. I'm still grieving the loss. I will be grieving the loss for the rest of my life. But the rest of life is a very long time, and there are many days to get through, and so I work very hard on coping and I think that I'm doing pretty well. But some days are harder than others. Some days are much harder than others. Holidays are the hardest....more

Inevitably, another year gone by means somebody missing from one table or another.  This ...more

Brothers and sisters

A close friend of mine lost her sister last week. It was unexpected, as death always really is, even when it’s visibly encroaching. It most definitely was sudden.I didn’t really know the deceased, except that she was too young—the same age as my little sister, in fact.My friend and I have gotten the chance to hold each other and cry. Her loss is not my loss, but it dredges up the heartache of losing my brother three years ago....more