Three years ago today I was crying.
My chest cavity had been
pried apart by the ugly hands of abuse, history, death, and pain and my
insides pulverized. I could barely breathe for the sheer magnitude of
the storm of my feelings: grief, relief, anger, pain, and, yes, even
happiness that he was finally gone.
This morning, I walked into an email from my mother letting me know
that they had to put my golden retriever, Sunny, to sleep last night.
He was 12. He was a pretty, dark copper boy with lovely
blond feathering, a ready smile and a love of getting the squeakers out
of squeaky toys.
What's the purpose of taking young children to funerals? The Michael Jackson funeral (event? celebration?) brings up all kinds of questions about what is and isn't appropriate, but my worry is that children at a funeral are exposed to indelible images that may later prove hard to deal with.
Marriage isn’t a necessity in this generation. According to the U.S. Census Bureau married couples accounted for 84 percent of American households. We no longer live in the 30s. Today, married couples are the minority at 49.7 percent of households. Instead of marriage, people nowadays live together without marriage. This trend is not just with younger couples.
Hypothetical situation; you decide to prepare for your future and protect yourself and your family. You spend tons of time and especially money hiring the experts, thinking it through, and finally finish your will and estate plan. Now when you assume you are prepared something happens to you or a member of your family. Even though you thought you had prepared against emergency or loss, the critical life information can’t be located.
1. “Take a vacation.”
If I was going to get pregnant from taking a vacation, I think I’d
have quite a large family by now. I live in France, we have FIVE WEEKS
of vacation a year. And let me tell you, we have had some quite
pleasurable attempts at baby-making on many, many of said vacations.
2. “Relax, just stop thinking about it.”
My MySpace profile lists my age as 90. I did this at some point in 2005 to avoid the amount of messages I was receiving from men using the site to find prospective dates. This is my choice, and one that worked very well for me, even if I was, in fact, in direct violation of MySpace's terms of service, which state that all users must submit “truthful and accurate” information about themselves.
Each day the media cloud over Michael Jackson's death mushrooms broader and wider with rumor, speculation, and tidbits of fact. Yesterday morning the big story was that Katherine Jackson, Michael Jackson's mother, has been awarded guardianship of all three of his children, Michael Joseph Jackson, Jr. aka Prince; Paris Michael Katherine; and Prince Michael Jackson II aka "Blanket."
As it turns out, women are usually left with the responsibility of caring for aging parents. We not only have to worry about their health but also our parents’ finances. One of our main fears is that our parents’ assets will not be taken care of in the future. While organizing their finances, we realize that our own finances are not as managed as they need to be.
I learned that Michael Jackson, the legendary international 80's pop icon, died of a heart attack amidst my son's birthday party. As the kids caught wind of the news they simply took a brief pause before proceeding to scarf down their pizza. They don't "know" Michael the way we "know" Michael.