Grieving is like barfing: It hurts, but hopefully you'll feel better

Three years ago today I was crying. My chest cavity had been pried apart by the ugly hands of abuse, history, death, and pain and my insides pulverized. I could barely breathe for the sheer magnitude of the storm of my feelings: grief, relief, anger, pain, and, yes, even happiness that he was finally gone. ...more

Goodbye, sweet puppy

This morning, I walked into an email from my mother letting me know that they had to put my golden retriever, Sunny, to sleep last night. He was 12. He was a pretty, dark copper boy with lovely blond feathering, a ready smile and a love of getting the squeakers out of squeaky toys. ...more

What a beautiful tribute you have written to Sunny, and what a wonderful life you gave ...more

Children at funerals

What's the purpose of taking young children to funerals?  The Michael Jackson funeral (event?  celebration?) brings up all kinds of questions about what is and isn't appropriate, but my worry is that children at a funeral are exposed to indelible images that may later prove hard to deal with. ...more

The Marriage Trend

     Marriage isn’t a necessity in this generation. According to the U.S. Census Bureau married couples accounted for 84 percent of American households. We no longer live in the 30s. Today, married couples are the minority at 49.7 percent of households. Instead of marriage, people nowadays live together without marriage. This trend is not just with younger couples. ...more

Making sure your hard work pays off

     Hypothetical situation; you decide to prepare for your future and protect yourself and your family. You spend tons of time and especially money hiring the experts, thinking it through, and finally finish your will and estate plan. Now when you assume you are prepared something happens to you or a member of your family. Even though you thought you had prepared against emergency or loss, the critical life information can’t be located. ...more

10 things not to say to your infertile friend:

1. “Take a vacation.” If I was going to get pregnant from taking a vacation, I think I’d have quite a large family by now. I live in France, we have FIVE WEEKS of vacation a year. And let me tell you, we have had some quite pleasurable attempts at baby-making on many, many of said vacations. 2. “Relax, just stop thinking about it.” ...more
When my sister told me that she was pregnant after 3.5 months of marriage, she said "Well, DH is ...more

Jury Overruled! MySpace Mom Acquitted of All Charges

My MySpace profile lists my age as 90. I did this at some point in 2005 to avoid the amount of messages I was receiving from men using the site to find prospective dates. This is my choice, and one that worked very well for me, even if I was, in fact, in direct violation of MySpace's terms of service, which state that all users must submit “truthful and accurate” information about themselves. ...more

This is such an interesting topic to me....I was somewhat torn between each side.  I knew ...more

Mixed on Michael Jackson's Children Redux

Each day the media cloud over Michael Jackson's death mushrooms broader and wider with rumor, speculation, and tidbits of fact. Yesterday morning the big story was that Katherine Jackson, Michael Jackson's mother, has been awarded guardianship of all three of his children, Michael Joseph Jackson, Jr. aka Prince; Paris Michael Katherine; and Prince Michael Jackson II aka "Blanket." ...more

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The Wake Up Call

As it turns out, women are usually left with the responsibility of caring for aging parents. We not only have to worry about their health but also our parents’ finances. One of our main fears is that our parents’ assets will not be taken care of in the future. While organizing their finances, we realize that our own finances are not as managed as they need to be. ...more

Memories of Michael

I learned that Michael Jackson, the legendary international 80's pop icon, died of a heart attack amidst my son's birthday party. As the kids caught wind of the news they simply took a brief pause before proceeding to scarf down their pizza. They don't "know" Michael the way we "know" Michael. ...more