An Old Dog, Uncle Jesse's Papouli, and Cremation: Ruining a Child's Life In One Brief Conversation

Have I ever told you that I cried when I first watched the graduation episode of Saved By the Bell? I think I may have. But did you know I also cried when Uncle Jesse's Papouli died on Full House?...more


There's a time like this when I am missing my laptop.  If I have it still, I would like to sit here, on the deck and tap away my melancholy.  I would watch each black letter march across the screen, forming words and thoughts.  No matter.  I will make do with my pen scribbling across the page....more

We Supass Death, Promise!

Aunt Lola had Altziemer's

The Family Vacation We Almost Canceled Was the One We Needed the Most

Last June, my dad's youngest brother hatched a grand plan. The three brothers and their families hadn't vacationed together in quite some time. My husband, two sons, parents, brother, and sister-in-law perfected the multi-generational vacation over the years, and as my uncle got to witness it in person for three days last year, he decided 2014 would be the perfect year to really put the multi in multi-generational. We booked two houses as soon as we could, and we began planning out the most epic of vacations. We all happily looked forward to June 21 when we would begin a week of pure relaxation and family togetherness. Then my beloved grandmother, my father and uncles' mother, passed away on Friday, June 6, 2014. ...more
I am so, so glad you had this vacation at just this time.more

Part 16, Cancer Sucks

Hey faithful readers! The contents of this post has been removed because of recently signing a contract with a publisher :) Thank you so much for the support everyone!!! Stay tuned for more details. <3-River Rei Hayden"The night is long that never finds the day." - Shakespeare...more

Maya Angelou: The Closed Door That Isn't.

When my favourite writers die, after the initial sadness has subsided, I begin to think of it in terms of gain, not loss.Yes, they have died; they have left the physical world. They are no more, and yet they aren't.I read a quote earlier, supposedly by William Hazlitt:Words are the only things that last forever; they are more durable than the eternal hills....more

Why losing your mom is so hard

Beautiful mommy smile Five years ago todayWe couldn’t make you stayNow a flower in God’s own garden...more

Until Death Do Us Part: A Social Media Exit Plan

A large chunk of our life has moved online. Our work, our finances, our friendships: they all have a space online, and you are the gatekeeper to those virtual rooms. People who are dying often think long and hard about making life easier for others after they're gone.  But the reality is that none of us know when we're going to go.  A simple thing we can do for the people we leave behind is give them the keys and directions to what we want done with our online life after we're gone. Don't bookmark this post and then put off the tasks indefinitely.  Set aside one hour today to make sure that you take these steps before you're gone. ...more
More than once, I have friends who have died and loved ones have not known what to do with ...more

A personal farewell to Shep Nuland, the man who taught us “How We Die”

Image by Sean McCabe in AARPPapers across the world this morning are announcing the death of 83-year-old surgeon Sherwin B. Nuland, perhaps most well-known for his National Book Award-winning “How We Die: Reflections on Life’s Final Chapter.”...more