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Listening To and Trusting Your Intuition

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Two of the heroes in saving Jaycee Dugard from captivity were University of California, Berkeley campus safety officer, Lisa Campbell, and police officer, Allison Jacobs. When describing what led the officers to detain and question alleged kidnapper, Philip Garrido, both spoke of listening to their intuition. Officer Jacobs told CNN's Anderson Cooper: "My police intuition was kicking in, but I would say it's more of a mother's intuition."

That is an example of intuition in action with spectacular results. But many times we ignore or are unwilling to trust our intuition. When trusting our gut or following a hunch can have such life-changing results it leads me to wonder, how do we learn how to get in touch with intuition, how do we learn to hear what it is whispering to us and how do we learn to trust what that voice is saying?

Getting in touch:
Asking yourself questions and recording the first answer that pops into your head is a great way to start. Sitting quietly you could ask yourself a series of questions or one big one. Then you can record your answers by speaking them into a tape recorder without stopping to censor yourself, you could write out your answers in stream of consciousness fashion without editing or you could draw your answers if you are more visual in nature.

Learning to listen:
Reminder yourself to listen. Perhaps put up a post it note with LISTEN! written on it or post several around your home or workspace. Write it in your calendar or make it your screen saver. And then when you hear your inner voice talking to you, work on remembering to stop and take note. Just mentally record when you hear that inner voice and what it is saying to you. If you can, try to match up what your voice was telling you, what you choose to do and the outcome.

Learning to trust:
As you increasingly pay attention to your inner voice and note how your actions and outcomes match up, you might increasingly find that your intuition is right more often than not and you can begin to learn to trust. It takes courage and moving past fear and resistance so working on building those muscles will help. One trick I like is repeating the empowering affirmation "I absolutely know what to do!"

Using your intuition can help you make decisions or choose which path to take. Practicing using your intuition and building your trust in it will help you use it to make good decisions and not either let it lead you astray or result in you blaming poor choices on intuition. Here is an example I read recently of how a blogger listened to her inner voice:

Just then I heard a voice in my head remind me: 'You'll never be a writer until you choose it.'

Whoa … what? You mean this was up to ME? I'd been thinking I'd be a writer when the phone rang and an agent was telling me about my big book deal. THAT"s when I'd be a real writer, right? After all, I'd already published a novel with Random House that was a dismal failure. So that was certainly no proof!

No, the voice patiently explained, you could be a writer right now … but ONLY if you see it, accept it, and choose it. So choose it I did. And went back to work with a spring in my step, only to learn a few hours later that I was being relieved of my job.

Not to worry, however, for the Universe always provides. Shortly thereafter, in no particular order, I got a call from an agent saying that none other than Shirley MacLaine was optioning the film rights on my failed novel. A magazine called that I'd been trying to sell my first personal essay to, accepting it. AND …. drum roll please … a book deal for How Much Joy Can You Stand? truly came out of nowhere, from a small press that I hadn't even known was looking at it. (A friend had submitted it.)

Suzanne Falter-Barns at Get Known Now Blog: Why Losing Your Job Can Be a Good Thing

Do you have any examples of times when you listened to your intuition and had good results? Please share in the comment. I love a good trusting your gut story!

Related Reading:

Gretchen at Girls Can't What?: Women's Intuition is a Super Power

The part that troubles me is that Garrido had a lot of contact with

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Maria Niles 5 pts

Indeed, the two police officers listened to, trusted and acted reasonably on their intuition, instincts, hunches - however you call it. So many neighbors and others said that they had a feeling that something wasn't right but shrugged it off. By learning how to tune in to our intuition we can learn the difference between legitimately sensing something is wrong and when we might be tempted to just be nosy and judgmental.

Thanks for your comment, Shannon!

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sebeaver 5 pts

I think that this is a great story. I am so conscience all the time of things going on around me. I think a lot of that has to do with my intuition. When I meet some one, or when I'm walking around by myself. I've learned to trust my instincts and trust my guts feeling. Like when walking by myself late at night, I can usually gauge whether I should be alert or if I can relax. I think it's my gut feelings that keep me out of bad situations. As in this story, I think its great that these women listening to their instincts and ending up saving someone because of it. I think if something feels wrong to you, chances are you right. But there is a line between paranoia and intuition. However, I feel like you can never be too safe, especially in a world like today. Props to those women.

-Shannon Beaver  

Maria Niles 5 pts

What a great example of learning how to trust your intuition. Thanks so much for sharing it with us!

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Maria Niles 5 pts

Thanks so much for your comment. That is a very interesting way of thinking about the difference between instinct and intuition.

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rianneschoutema 5 pts

In my opinion, our intution is when our subconscious is using our past experiences as a frame of reference to subconsciously judge a new external input, whereas instincts are wired in our brains. For example, trusting our gut would be a feeling and our fight-or-flight response would be the response due to acute stress.

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JanuaryOlio 5 pts

I sometimes know quite strongly if something's going to come to pass or if it is definitely not.   It's weird, but I get a solid sense of "yes, that's happening" or "no, not for you" from time to time.  These intuitions happen in the context of guys I'm dating ("yes, he'll call you again" or "no, you won't be hearing from him") and auditions I've had ("yes, you booked it", "nope, this gig isn't happening for you.")  My strongest story about this happened many years ago.  I auditioned for a professional touring gig and felt beyond a doubt that they would be calling to offer me the role.  I started planning out my future accordingly.  I was shocked they didn't call me!  That was July.  In October they called me; someone had dropped out of the tour and they wanted me to come join them ASAP.  My intuition was right on, just the timing was off.  I've tried to keep that in mind in the years since: it may look different than I expected, but my intuition is never wrong.

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Maria Niles 5 pts

Practice plus time leads to trust. Thanks for sharing your experience with us, Unplanned Cooking!

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UnplannedCooking 5 pts

As a third-time mom, I've learned to trust my instincts.  With my first, I trusted the parenting books.  I always felt like I was doing something wrong or could be doing it better.  I've since found that I'm usually right -- mother does know best.

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Maria Niles 5 pts

Those situations sound very much like your ego or conscious self getting out of the way so you can listen to your inner wisdom. I love those moments, don't you?

Thanks for your comment!

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mashadutoit 5 pts

I'm not sure if you would class this as intuition, but I've found I often have to "trick" myself to find out what I really think about something.

For example, I'll be busy with something, and a thought will come into my head. Because I'm not focussing on it, I will be more aware of the feeling that goes with the thought, than the subject of it, if that makes sense.

Sometimes, I will realise - "hold on, I just had a real pinch of resentment there.  What was I thinking about?"  And then I will often realise what I truely feel about something as opposed to what I'm "supposed" to feel.