Little Miss Negative: Five Ideas On How To Banish Her Behaviour For Good

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21st Century have enough to handle without other women bringing us down. There is no place for Little Miss Negatives in our world. Its time to banish this behaviour for good.

 

The girl at work, a friend of a friend or even a relative - someone who, whatever you do, just has to find something to criticize. I'm working with a fairly extensive sample size, having been on the receiving end many times, so how come its mostly (or always) girls dishing it out? We are 'meant' to be nurturing, caring, communal, maternal blah blah blah. This however, runs contrary to the classic Little Miss Negative who can squash the life out of any idea, project or plan.

On one hand this is an individual issue - woman-to-woman. On the other hand, behaviours like negativity, bullying and the so called 'Queen Bee' syndrome are holding us back. With so many factors affecting our lives, even Sheryl Sandberg makes the case in her book that its a really hard to imagine that we could make a major difference to the world if we have no solidarity, unity and trust.

'There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women"
Former Secretary of State Madeline Albright

 

Here are my top ideas to counter a Little Miss Negative:

1. The 'oh' approach - She says 'negative...negative...negative' and I say 'oh'. She might be bursting every single bubble I've ever blown but I'm not going to let her know that.

 

2. Forward Thinking - Distinguish between constructive criticism and negativity. A Little Miss Negative might have identified a real objective flaw but by communicating it inappropriately it is irrelevant.

 

3. Call the Cheerleaders - Recruit for yourself a few great friends who are positive healthy people who will cheer you on and counter the attack. If they are good at constructive criticism then that's a major plus because you can kill two birds with one stone...

 

4. Get Real - When you have handled the emotional bubble 'popping' take the negative comment to someone good at constructive criticism and ask them for their opinion. If that Little Miss Negative has identified a real flaw then having someone communicate it effectively can help you.

 

5. Practice Makes Perfect - Make sure that you never become someone else's Little Miss Negative. Practice the art of praising someone without sounding sycophantic and if you do feel you need to say something negative then think about how you can best communicate it constructively.

 

21st Century have enough to handle without other women bringing us down. There is no place for Little Miss Negatives in our world. Its time to banish this behaviour for good.

Do you have more ideas on how to deal with a Little Miss Negative... let me know below in the comments section or send them to editor@reclaimingpink.com and we will publish them anonymously at your request.

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