Living Authentically, Online & in Real Life
by Lissa10279

I had an epiphany yesterday: when I began blogging this past July, I was ready to dip my toes in the pool ... but I was still afraid to go for a lengthy swim.

I was nervous about how I'd be perceived by friends and family as I shared my deepest thoughts and fears with the blogosphere. I wanted to remain semi-anonymous; just "a 20-something struggling with disordered eating issues."

I didn't expect to see 400-800 page views a day (and sometimes way, way more!). I was honestly writing for myself, and hoped there would be <em>maybe</em> a handful of readers that would find me online.

And find me, you have!

So while I identified myself as "Melissa" (which is, indeed, my name) and branded my blog by purchasing the domain name (which I'll need to renew each year), I chose not to add my blog's URL to my Facebook or Twitter pages. In fact, I didn't even register my blog with Technorati -- the biggest blog search engine!

Well ... all of that changed yesterday.

In an e-mail exchange with Steph at Back in Skinny Jeans yesterday, she said something that totally hit home: "When you live authentically, the universe conspires with you."

Wow. Talk about profound words. Though I took the first step blogging about my disordered eating issues and my journeys with therapy and blogotherapy ... I still <em>hadn't</em> been living 100% authentically.

I was still hiding in a way -- like when I'd e-mail my blog's URL to friends vs. putting it out there on my Facebook wall when asked.

And so last night, I added my blog's URL to my Twitter and Facebook pages, and registered my blog with Technorati.

If I am really and truly all about "coming clean" and being myself, wholly me ... I needed to own up to myself. This meant allowing my identity to be known -- and not hiding behind the shroud any longer.

I've been blogging since July, five nights a week, without fail ... it's time. You -- my loyal readers -- have found me, which is awesome. And you keep coming back.

Other readers  know me in real life and have followed my blog (thank you!), returning day after day.

But until yesterday, I hadn't really put myself out there. I simply wasn't ready for the big plunge, the true unveiling.

It's so mind-boggling to my that in just five short months, I've guest blogged or been mentioned on three big sites -- and many more of you have linked my blog to your blogrolls (thank you!).

I've made a ton of progress along the way, and I love knowing I'm helping some of you tackle similar issues. Together, we're building a community and changing perceptions -- two tenets of good public relations.

It's like my work and personal life are melding together, and I couldn't be prouder. I can be an advocate for women who understand these issues, and learn from all of you, as well. It's win-win for all of us!

So here's the scoop. If you're on Twitter, you can follow me -- my user name is Lissa10279. And as for Facebook -- you can find me by my real name, Melissa Henriquez. I'd love to add you all to my networks.

The grand finale for my pledge to live authentically yesterday? I found out that a group of fit bloggers are going to be meeting up in Chicago next weekend, and I'm planning to join up for the meet-and-greet.

I'm ready to get out there and meet these fantastic, strong, brilliant women who are making a difference in this world. I want to be my most authentic self, online and in real life.

There's no time like the present. And I'm ready to swim.

Thanks for being by my "side." I appreciate your comments more than you know. Keep reading and let me know if there's a topic you'd like to see tackled next!

How about you? How do you live authentically?

Comments

 

Maureen cookingmylife.blogspo

Maureen

cookingmylife.blogspot.com 

 

The universe is giving you a look at the members of your own tribe...one's who resonate with you. Being authentic for me is doing the best I can to make the outside match the inside.  See you in the pool!

 

Thanks so much!

Thanks so much!

 

Yes, Lissa, the universe

Yes, Lissa, the universe does conspire with you.

It's funny how I attended a Workshop of Hope in my country, the Philippines, that had precisely authenticity as its topic, and I happened just a moment ago to glance at the bottom of the BlogHerAds skyscraper and the post title that jumped out was yours. Yup, even just the use of the word authentic does draw people in.

Five years ago, I hid my identity in my main web site, GoBaguio!, hoping to create a portal for my hometown, and very few people cared for it. Two years ago, I decided to reveal who I was, lay everything I knew and loved about the place out in the open, for folks to accept or reject what I had to say -- and behold -- folks started loving it

It's always better to BE who we really are.

Pity I can't make it to the Meet and Greet, simply too far away. Have fun!

 

Cheers,

Lisa Araneta (creativenative is a username that isn't usually taken, you see)

http://www.gobaguio.com

http://www.i-baguio.com

http://www.chuvatech.com

http://www.lasikasia.info

 

Blogging authentically is the draw

I would imagine that your writing is very authentic, or you wouldn't have so many people browsing your pages! Congratulations. It is powerful to write about pain and struggles and other women connect with that on a visceral level. It sounds like your recent decision to fully own your blog and who you are has been important.

I keep my blog anonymous, but that is the choice I made to honor my family's privacy. I have two four year olds. My blog reflects who I am as a mother, stories of parenting and also revealing who I am as a woman. i work hard at not censoring myself and occasionally veer to the risque! :)

I actually wrote about this recently: http://motherscribe.blogspot.com/2008/10/i-cannot-write-to-please-other-people.html

 Great topic! Thank you.

JCK from Motherscribe