It’s not easy being a woman, a teenager or even a pre-teen for that matter. Let’s face it, we are faced every day with “beauty” on TV, in magazines and all over the internet. Did you know that one in every three girls in this country has some sort of eating disorder or body image issue? That’s a LOT! Forget the fact that all of those magazines are airbrushed a million times over. We never think about that. We take a beautified beating on a daily basis, so why is it that so many women continue to put other women down?
We live in a society where eating disorders have become a popular accessory and women are constantly trying to get rid of their God given, natural curves. Did you know that Marilyn Monroe was a size 16 when she died? Yes, that’s right and she is still considered one of the sexiest women in history. Perhaps it wasn’t even her curves that people loved. Perhaps it was the fact that she loved and embraced herself just the way she was. Others will believe about you what you believe about yourself.
Negative self talk is so common that we don’t even realize we are doing it. I challenge you to stand in any women’s locker room at your local gym and make a check mark on a piece of paper every time you hear a woman say something negative about her body. Also, take notice to how we as women, respond to each other. For example, women #1. “Oh my God my legs are so flabby.” Women #2. “At least your stomach isn’t huge like mine.”
If you think about the people in your life that you love would you ever ask them to judge themselves as harshly as you judge yourself? If someone ever spoke to your friend the way we speak to ourselves, you would want to knock them out! So, why is it OK to treat ourselves that way?
We have enough pressure every day. The last thing we need to do is put more pressure on ourselves or others. We are women. We are mothers, daughters, sisters and friends so for God’s sake ladies… we need to build each other up… not beat each other down!
Instead of looking at someone’s body and making a general assumption about them, why not strike up a conversation instead?. You might be surprised at what you learn about that person. You’ll also find that the key ingredient to being beautiful is kindness.