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Man Kills Daughter-in-Law: A “Little Racism” Can Cost You Your Life

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Last week, Chiman Rai, 68, was convicted and sentenced to life in prison for arranging the murder of his daughter-in-law. The man, originally from India, felt that his son’s marriage to the African-American woman, who was 22 and had only been married for a month to Rai’s son, was a dishonor to his family:

Rai viewed the young woman as unacceptable because she was black, prosecutors have said.  Sparkle Rai was murdered April 26, 2000 in her Union City apartment and the case went unsolved until a break two years ago indicated that her relationship with Rajeeve "Ricky" Rai, now 27, was the motive. Defense lawyer Don Samuel argued that while Rai may have hired a hit man, he didn't order such a brutal killing. And while there was evidence that Rai, a native of India, believed his son's marriage would cast a stigma on his family in caste-conscious Indian society, Samuel said Rai wasn't a racist and had strong support in the African-American community in Jackson, Miss., where he had run a grocery and other businesses.

On a bit of a side note, Canada has, unfortunately has had some recent experience with honor killings. In December, Aqsa Parvez, a Toronto-area teenager of Muslim descent was allegedly killed by her father and brother because she would not wear a Hajib. More recently, in February of this year a contract killing, allegedly orchestrated by the spurned ex-girlfriend of Brampton (in the GTA) resident Jasvir Singh Dhaliwal who married another woman in India, choosing an arranged marriage over a four-year relationship. Reports say that his ex-girlfriends brother flew to Punjab, arranged to the shooting death of Dhaliwal and his cousin and then returned to Canada. There have been other recent cases in British Columbia where Canadians who decide to marry someone outside of their ‘caste’ (a very, very brief definition refers to social classes defined by hereditary groups) are murdered by family members as a way to circumvent shame and embarrassment for the family.

The case has also made headlines not specifically because of the horrific nature of the case,( the crime went unanswered for eight years) but also because of current social and racial climate, especially in the US. The Democratic Presidential nominee is a biracial man that has obviously caused some issues and questions about race in America and notions of racism have been centered on black / white relations. This case shows something that has not been widely revealed in the public eye: the dynamics of racism between two entho-cultural groups, especially because Rai, a former professor, had previously taught at predominately-black Alcorn State University employed African-Americans in his business, and was generally well-liked in the black community where he lived. But apparently, the people closest to him knew that despite his outward actions, he has some issues with blacks, most notably his son who had told his wife that his parents were dead:

Chiman Rai's ex-cell mate also testified that while sharing a cell, Mr. Rai would often call black people the scum of the earth. He stated Mr. Rai once told him, if he had a lot of money, he would kill all black people. After his wife's murder, Ricky Rai admitted to the police that his father was, "a little racist". Currently, Ricky Rai has since remarried to an Indian woman.

Rajeeve "Ricky" Rai testified yesterday. He was married to Sparkle Rai, who was brutally stabbed to death while holding their infant daughter who was "unharmed" physically. He hid the child and marriage from his Indian parents. He was asked why he hasn't seen his daughter, Analla, on whom he once doted, since shortly after the murder. He gave custody of her to Lowry (ATL reporter and step-mom) and her husband, the child's grandfather. His parents have never seen the girl.

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karmamorano 5 pts

Actually, honor killings ARE NOT COMMONPLACE IN INDIA. Sure it happens, but it is quite rare. That's like saying there are rapes and murders occurring in the US all the time (Actually the honor killing thing is probably much more rare in India than murders/rapes in the US).

And, yes some Indians do believe in marrying within the community and do, but never resort to ridiculous extreme measures such as this. I know many Indians who have married non-Indians - and all of their parents have approved.

lainad 5 pts

Thank you! Yes, there are other angles to this story that should be investigated which i didn't cover in this post (it would have been about 5,000 words!) Hat tip to Maria Niles!

snigdhasen 5 pts

Lainad, I'm glad you raised this issue. I was planning to write this from the India angle next week. 

First, this is criminal, unpardonable. We all have prejudices of one kind or the other, but that's no excuse. A murder is a murder is a murder in any part of the world. 

As a woman, I am saddened and angered more by the son's attitude than the father's. He comes across as spineless and that's depressing beyond words. 

Yes, Indians tend to stick to their communities when it comes to marriage. Yes honor killings do happen in some parts of India. But it's a huge country with a billion people. Shit happens. This is as much a crime in India as it is here. No excuses.

However, I do wonder if the father's attitude would have been much different if the woman was white.  Hmmm...More on this and India's color bias next week.