Marrying for Money

Is there anything wrong with marrying for money? Few women I know will admit to it, but after meeting their mate, I can't help wondering if they think anyone is fooled. For example, does anyone think that Anna Nicole Smith, a model for Guess and Playboy magazine married 89-year-old oil tycoon J. Howard Marshall II for love?

At least the practice isn't the dirty little secret it used to be. If you google 'marrying for money', dozens of pages of articles and websites encourage you to do just that. Daphne Merkin, writer and journalist, is honest about  her refusal to marry for money. She writes "If the man is rich enough, one overlooks everything. He can be bald, hairy, have a stomach that hangs like an apron and be really under-endowed."

I have met many women who won't admit that they married for money, but freely confess that they stay married because of the money. A woman in one of my seminars said “Am I happily married? That's beside the point. I know what I’ve got – and at least he has money.”

Many of the other women agreed with her. One woman said  "Don't you feel like you sold your soul just for the money?” Hey, souls are sold for lots of other things as well.

Is there a difference between going into marriage for the money and staying married for the money? Is it wrong to believe that money makes someone more interesting? If marriage buys you a lifestyle you want, are you selling your soul by opting for security and stability over romantic love and passion?

The statistics on love and passion aren't that impressive. Presumably passion evaporates within the first two years of marriage. There's no guarantee that love will last, but having money is a good diversion. How would you advise your daughter?

Here's an invite to check out my other blogs about love, marriage and money at http://www.financialintimacy.com

 

 

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