When the Marrieds Are Unfaithful


These shenanigans persist because people who don’t really want to get married but end up bowing to societal pressure end up acting out their real heart’s desires eventually, no matter what the consequences, and no matter who it hurts. Sometimes, they will attempt to use trickery to get what they want.

This is a problem. It’s a quality of life issue. I call it that because I believe most of the animosity in our culture leveled at unmarried people has to do with the presumption that we are sexually immoral, unethical and down for whatever.

So, if that’s you, then OK. It’s not my place to judge people who don’t believe in Jesus or karma. But please don’t believe that me saying that I’m content with this season in my life during which I don’t have a partner is code for saying, “I’m available for shenanigans.”

Not the case, homie.

Also: you’re unhappy in your marriage? Get a divorce! If you’re not really all the way divorced yet, let folks know before they roll up thinking you’re available. Married, single or semi-partnered: Tell people where you stand. Don’t let Facebook tell you that “It’s complicated” is a satisfactory answer. It’s not.

What’s your stand on being a mistress or the person on the side? Do you get hit on by married men or women? Do you think it happens more to singles than those in relationships?

Writer, Journalist & Author of Single & Happy: The Party of Ones (Bronx Queen Press, 2013).



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