Laura Markham

I'm trained as a clinical psychologist--but I'm also a mom with two teenagers, so I know how hard parenting is. You can find me online at Aha!, on Facebook, or on Twitter (@DrLauraMarkham). My book, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling & Start Connecting, is available on Amazon or wherever books are sold

Does Peaceful Parenting Mean Letting Kids Do Whatever They Want?

"Isn't there a time and a place for a parent to just plain 'be in charge'?...more

10 Tips for Peaceful Teaching

"I'm a teacher of 4-5 year olds. I made the decision that I...more

5 Strategies That Prevent Most Misbehavior

"Okay, you've convinced me not to punish. But my two year old still bites, has tantrums, throws his food and scribbles on the furniture...." - Rebecca Unfortunately, a two year old's frontal cortex is still developing the ability to control his emotions and behavior. That means they throw food, break things, have meltdowns, bite when they're mad, and scribble on the furniture ....more

10 Alternatives to "Consequences" When Your Child Isn't Cooperating

"Throw the word "consequence" entirely out of your vocabulary and replace it with the term "problem-solving." -- Becky Eanes "My 3 year old was sitting on the couch after bath wearing her towel and said NO about 5 times when asked to get into her pj's. I was busy with the baby and I heard my husband say "OK fine -- no books then!"...more

10 Ways To Guide Children Without Punishment

"The reason a child will act unkindly or cause damage is always innocent. Sometimes she is playful and free spirited, and other times, when aggressive or angry she is unhappy or confused. The more disturbing the behaviour, the more the child is in pain and in need of your love and understanding ....more

Listen to Dr. Dan Siegel Talk About the Brain & Teens

Years ago, I read a book that Dr. Dan Siegel wrote with Mary Hartzell, which is called Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. I became an instant fan, and still constantly recommend this book ....more

New Years Rituals for Families

“We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives, not looking for flaws, but for potential.”...more

You Don't Have To Make Up for Not Being a Perfect Parent

"In fact we often don’t feel the wonder and beauty because we're too busy trying to live up to the ideal in our head....The cost of perfection is that it stresses us out to the point where we no longer enjoy the moment we're living in." - Pastor Jon Most of us aspire to give our kids a fairy-tale holiday....more

Guaranteed Favorite Toy

"You will always be your child's favorite toy."...more