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Chris Brown Can't Beat Me, or You.

Before I explain how sick to my stomach I felt when reading Tweet after Tweet by women saying, in various ways, we should all stop bitching about Chris Brown, they'd let him beat them all night long, let me make my fondness for rough sex abundantly clear.  Read more >

The Impact of Sexual Shame

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Why is sex always surrounded by shame? Shame is not guilt. Guilt is an internal notion about a specific action. Shame is an external force exerted by others. Shame tells you not that you've done something bad, but that you are something bad. That idea takes away your autonomous control over your sexuality. And anybody who wants to take your autonomous control over your sexuality does not have your best interest at heart.  Read more >

Tie Me Up & Worship Me

Whenever I speak - or write - about women's sexuality in the context of empowerment, some very well-meaning person (usually a woman) will want to chat, with that knowing wink-wink nod-nod that assumes we will agree, about BDSM play. Invariably, they want me to agree with them that images of women tied up, bound, gagged and slapped are demeaning to women. They are waiting for me to validate their pent up indignation that anyone could do that to a woman.  Read more >

Against Michele Bachmann and Her Marriage Vow Pledge

Michele Bachmann

Michele Bachmann and Rick Santorum became the first presidential candidates to sign "The Marriage Vow" written by a conservative Christian group. Even though the group has revised the vow to remove language that suggested black families were better off during slavery, the aim of the group is to protect monogamous Christian marriage as the only acceptable relationship, abolish the porn industry, deny the existence of homosexuality and generally regulate the personal lives of US Citizens.  Read more >

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Alyssa Royse
Member Since
August 2007
About Me: 

I am a woman, an ex-wife, a mother,  and an entrepreneur.  My new company, Not So Secret is a new way for women to engage with their own sexuality. With advice, blogs, shopping, art (and even movies,) we help women discover their sexuality and engage with it in a way that is healthy, happy and fulfilling. 

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Seattle

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