Siobhan Boyd-Nelson

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Choosing to Be a Motherless Child Still Hurts

"After a while, you kind of just get used to not speaking to your mom." I said those words, to my own surprise and without the least bit of sarcasm, two nights ago while at dinner with an old colleague. I had never described the radio silence between my mother and I in that way before. Perhaps, without realizing it, I have finally become resigned to being a motherless child. ...more
Thank you so much to each of you for your beautiful and uplifting words.more

Created

There are few things my wife and I disagree about.  Evolution* is one of them.  You see, I don't believe in it.  I'm a Creationist.*Evolution, as I'm using it here, refers to the existence of the universe, and more specifically, human beings, without the involvement of a deity.  Which deity and how involved... well, as Sweet Brown would say, "Ain't no body got time for that!"*...more
 @victorias_view thank you for thinking of usmore

Can I Be That Mom? Saying No to Chick-Fil-A and Boy Scouts

My children -- while they definitely won’t have the problem of having restricted cartoon viewing or lack of alcohol exposure may, despite my best efforts, still come out of childhood feeling slighted. It’s hard to explain to your eight-year-old why you won’t match her in wearing her Susan B. Komen regalia when she thinks it’s so cool. To your ten year old why you don’t want him to be a Scout. To either of them why chicken nuggets and waffle fries have to be passed over....more
It's not the imposition of beliefs, moral standards, or guidelines that's problematic.  It's not ...more

Why It's Good to Ignore Your Kids

Sometimes I ignore my kids. Perhaps ignore is a strong word. It has a negative, slimy feeling to it that doesn't quite express what I'm talking about. Maybe I should use a euphemism here. How does encouraging independent play sound? Good? Okay then I'll carry on....more
When my son was a toddler, I was his playmate.  So at 9, he still considers me a suitable ...more

Nie Asks: How Do You Get Kids to Bathe?

Here's a picture of Claire thinking about taking the plunge. How do you get your children to bathe? Do you have any special tricks to get them to embrace the clean? Tell me in the comments: I want to know! ...more
I stopped making my little one shower and let him revert to baths.  I prefer showers because I ...more

Teaching Kids About Safety: Sometimes It's the Stranger Who's in Danger

True: We may have been a smidge on the antisocial side when we stepped into the elevator that day. It had been a long afternoon. We didn’t say hello or ask how you were doing or pass out party favors and ask for song requests. We just settled our collective gaze on the floor. It didn’t occur to me that maybe you were waiting for me to say something. But I did pick up on your hostility when I sensed your head turn and aim right at our little three-person huddle. Not a quick gander, mind you. I don’t like being stared at. Moreover, it ain’t cool to stare at my offspring. So you were already giving me the heebies before you piped up with this: “HELLO to you, too. YEAH, I get it. Strangers are DANGER, right? Especially with ‘kids’ around.”...more
Belly laughs!  My 8yo would have proposed the same scenarios (invisible transportation is a ...more

A Crisis of Faith: Gender-Neutral Parenting in a Gender-Obsessed World

Driving down a rural road, tears welling in my eyes, my voice scaling octaves and my hands banging the steering wheel as the breakdown I never saw coming comes barreling toward me like a freight train.I was on my way to Kohl's.  To buy running shoes.Track shoes, to be exact, for my son.  The same son we drove hundreds of miles to Kansas for the national USATF meet last year.  Shoes that same son wasn't sure he wanted....more
 @Rita Arens Thank you for that perspective!  I did the sports AND the drama, speech, etc.  I've ...more

A Crisis of Faith: Gender-Neutral Parenting in a Gender-Obsessed World

Driving down a rural road, tears welling in my eyes, my voice scaling octaves and my hands banging the steering wheel as the breakdown I never saw coming comes barreling toward me like a freight train.I was on my way to Kohl's.  To buy running shoes.Track shoes, to be exact, for my son.  The same son we drove hundreds of miles to Kansas for the national USATF meet last year.  Shoes that same son wasn't sure he wanted....more
 @kristin.craiglai I really like your suggestion of an artist role model.  I had never thought ...more

A Crisis of Faith: Gender-Neutral Parenting in a Gender-Obsessed World

Driving down a rural road, tears welling in my eyes, my voice scaling octaves and my hands banging the steering wheel as the breakdown I never saw coming comes barreling toward me like a freight train.I was on my way to Kohl's.  To buy running shoes.Track shoes, to be exact, for my son.  The same son we drove hundreds of miles to Kansas for the national USATF meet last year.  Shoes that same son wasn't sure he wanted....more
 @nellewrites I agree with the educational approach and know that I need more education myself ...more

A Crisis of Faith: Gender-Neutral Parenting in a Gender-Obsessed World

Driving down a rural road, tears welling in my eyes, my voice scaling octaves and my hands banging the steering wheel as the breakdown I never saw coming comes barreling toward me like a freight train.I was on my way to Kohl's.  To buy running shoes.Track shoes, to be exact, for my son.  The same son we drove hundreds of miles to Kansas for the national USATF meet last year.  Shoes that same son wasn't sure he wanted....more
 @Zealflyer I've also found myself giving a sigh of relief when something that will be perceived ...more