Blondie

I write about the Stupid Things that happen on or near me. I'm a life/personal blogger and the sister of BlogHer's Rita Arens. I live in Iowa and love reading all of your stories. I'm single, childfree, and Still Learning.

Pet Care Over the Holidays

Nothing can prepare you for the first time you drop off your babies. They look at you with huge, sad eyes, no doubt thinking you are leaving them forever. The guilt sinks in, you stoically walk away (trying to pretend nothing is wrong), and then bawl your eyes out in the parking lot. You stop to wonder: Will they ever forgive me? Will they think I've abandoned them? Will they be safe? Yes, it's that time of year when you need to board the pets, and you are a hot mess....more
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Spending the Night When Your Partner Has Kids

How do you spend the night when your partner has a child and the child is home? Spending the night with your partner is much easier when the child is young, but once they reach a certain age, their little imaginations (or perhaps tempers) will run wild regarding mommy or daddy's new partner. Here are some little nuggets of advice for when you find yourself in this situation. ...more
Unless the kids are away for a weekend or a little while, don't ever spend a night when the kids ...more

Do You Need Renter's Insurance? Yes, You Do

The house I was living in burned down in 1999, two months before I graduated from college. Suddenly, my world stopped. And it didn't start up again for a very long time. When I made it to my cousin's apartment later that night, she offered me clothes, a place to sleep, and the thing that jolted me into my new reality -- a clean pair of underwear. It was this most intimate of items that brought me firmly into my present. I have nothing left. What am I going to do now? ...more
@tierneybrown I didn't know you sold renters' insurance.more

Kissing Frogs and Updating 'The List'

In one of the greatest movies the 90s gave us, Singles, Bridget Fonda speaks to her ex-boyfriend/bestie about her "List." Like many women, she'd made a list of what her dream guy would be like. Over the years, she shortened it to just one thing -- what she wanted a guy to say when she sneezed....more
It's funny how time changes our list.  In the past my list included a man's good looks as being ...more

Single? Then You Know The Pity Face

I first noticed it at my 10-year high school reunion in 2005. When asked if I was married or have children, I said no. I'm single. And then it happened: The Pity Face. It's a look of genuine concern. Like something is horribly wrong with you. Like you've just admitted you have a terminal disease and have roughly one month to live. I had no idea how to respond....more
Such a great post!more

Advice for Dating People With Children (When You Are Childfree)

She was in a relationship with a man who had a 10-year-old son, and while she was in love with both the man and the kid, she was totally lost. It turns out there is very little literature on how to date someone who has children. She was on her own. This is her advice on dating a single parent while childfree. ...more
I should add he raised his daughter .. The mother isn't in her life.. I really don't ask much to ...more

An Unconventional Proposal

She was tired of the waiting game. She wanted to take control of her life so she proposed to the man she wanted to spend her life with. He said no. Looking back on it years later, she's glad. As a result, she has been able to get to know herself better, to move to new places, to change her career and to live a full life. ...more
 @MrsDragon MrsDragon, the author was simply sharing her experience, meaning that SHE wasn't a ...more

[Updated] Amanda Knox - Not Guilty

Updated 10/3/11 - Amanda Knox has been found not guilty! Who is Amanda Knox? If you don't know the answer, you aren't alone. But this blogger feels you should read up before you travel to a foreign country and end up convicted of murder. ...more
The evidence against Amanda Knox and Raffaele Sollecito is overwhelming. They gave completely ...more

Girl Code: Dating a Friend's Ex

The Girl Code is that unspoken rule that keeps the peace by keeping us away from our girlfriends' men. While the rules about crossing the line with a friend's current boyfriend or husband seem clear, opinion varies when it comes to exes. Are ex-boyfriends fair game, or does the Code still apply? ...more
This literally just happened to me last night. My best friend called me and ask me what my ...more

Suicide Kits Stir Euthanasia Debate

One of the best things about living in Oregon was knowing that if I needed to die - if I had some terrible, life-crushing, terminal disease - I could do it legally. Oregon is beautiful, green and luscious and all, but really, physician-assisted suicide was one of the best things about the state. It was a comfort to know that I could die with dignity, if need be. And I know of at least one 91-year old lady who agrees....more

Yes, it is not *easy* to qualify for the assisted-suicide experience. Thank you for pointing ...more