I don't parent like my friends. My friends don't parent like me. In a million and one different ways, we differ. Of course, we do some of the same things and, most often, those things matter the most. Things like loving our children with all of our beings, like making decisions with the best of intentions. You know, the stuff that really matters. Over the years, we've learned from our differences -- and learned to let some things just fall by the wayside. That's why I love the No More Mommy Wars Photo Project....more
There is no right or wrong way to be sad. We all know this. I also know that there are some kinds of sad that are not talked about as openly as others. Working on my grief for this miscarriage has been both short and long. It vanished for several months, but as the due date for Tartan approaches I am overwhelmed with deep sadness.
Diamond earrings, necklaces, charm bracelets, birthstone rings, all seem to be typical push present gifts. Sure, I would take any/all of the above, but there are a few more things that top my list and none of them require a visit to the jeweler.
Okay, so I thought I'd just write a little note to set the record straight for people who are possibly unsure: Pregnancy is actually NOT an invitation to tell me I'm huge.
While we're on the subject, telling someone they're huge is never okay, unless you are a small child with no grasp of tact or an inner monologue, mentally challenged, or a total a-hole. I have been pregnant three times and each time it's the same story....more
When I tried to imagine what it would be like to be married, all I could think about was having -- at the very least -- my own room. My best friend thought I was crazy, telling me some of the best and most intimate conversations happened in bed between couples. Dr. Phil even agrees separate bedrooms are a bad idea, so then why do one in four U.S. couples have separate bedrooms? What do you think -- are separate bedrooms helpful or more likely to hurt a relationship?
"Here's what I want you focused on: Sexy adult swimwear (totally okay) being made into miniature versions for children as young as four (totally not okay)."
These words appeared in a post by my friend Melissa Wardy written in response to a story about Gwyneth Paltrow endorsing designer Melissa Odabash's bikinis for little girls. As Melissa (Wardy) emphasizes in the piece, there is nothing wrong with age-appropriate two-piece bathing suits for girls, but shrinking a suit designed for an adult female body and placing it on a little girl is wrong....more
Self-proclaimed “relationship experts” almost always get a side-eye from me. When they’re not writing books educating women on how to successfully attract men, they’re on Twitter and other social media making patriarchal blanket statements about behaviors that will or won’t land you your perfect mate. It’s safe to say that I take the “relationship expert” title with a grain of salt, but recently I’ve realized: I’m becoming one of them – but with a twist.
"How many kids do you have?" It's a normal question to ask another mom. However, for some -- many more than you realize at first thought -- it's a loaded question. Not only does it bring up memories that may weigh heavy on a mom's heart, but it also calls into question who is asking and why and what are the boundaries of sharing and how much does everyone need to know and on and on. Kat at No Holding Back wrote about it recently, having lost one of her twin daughters to Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS)....more
It wasn't until my friends started having children that I was around babies. As a self proclaimed DINK (double income no kid) woman in her late twenties, babies and motherhood were entirely foreign to me. This doesn't mean I was uncaring. I feel I did a pretty good job at participating in my friends' new stage in life; listening to how they were doing, fawning over baby pictures, and filling them in on my how I too was tired, what with trying to fit a yoga class in before drinks with the girls and all.