Charlotte DiBartolomeo

Eight years ago, in my 42nd year, I crawled out of one life and created another. The journey included getting divorced, moving to another part of the country with two teenage sons, going back to school for a master's degree, moving once more, and finding love and marriage again with a man whose feet are planted firmly on the ground while his arms remain stretched up to the sky.

I believe in transformations. Even the messy ones. I believe in them so much, I earned a Master's in Conflict Transformation from the School for International Training, Graduate Institute. I've studied post conflict reconstruction in Bosnia and Croatia. I also served as an NGO delegate at the United Nations. I hold a certificate in mediation and have trained management and employees in leadership, conflict de-escalation, communication, and negotiation skills.

I'm an adjunct at Arcadia University in the International Peace and Conflict Resolution Department, teaching at the graduate level. I developed a certificate program in peace education for both the international trainer and the U.S. based teacher. It's a gift to be able to teach peace to people who I know will continue the work across the world and here in the states.

My husband, Carmen and I, and my two grown sons, Zach and Sam have found a way to work together. In 2008, we began Red Kite Project, a training and graphic design firm. My son, Zach is my partner in training for communication, leadership and conflict de-escalation skills. My son, Sam is apprenticing with his step father in book design.  Our evolving relationship in work, love and play is both a source of strength and a challenge. But more important it's a testament to the truth about second chances. They do exist. We're living proof.

 

Lessons on Loss, Living, and Moving Forward

My father died last April at the age of 87. Even though he was tired, body worn out and ready to go, for me it was too soon. Not only was he my dad, he was my guide; a living, breathing moral compass who taught with compassion, led without judgment of my personhood, and encouraged my dreams. During the last week of his life I had the luxury of caring for him, and saying everything there was to say in order to get closure and mark his passing with an unhurried and loving goodbye....more

Dealing with Loss and Grief During this Thanksgiving Holiday? Be kind to yourself

One of the more difficult things to deal with in this life is when the culture you live in is celebrating a holiday at a time when your own life is in crisis, or you’re experiencing loss. That loss can be death of a loved one, a divorce, an illness, an addiction, loss of a job, loss of a home, or even loss of a dream. Our disappointments and grief seem to be highlighted by the grand expectations holidays are sure to bring. How does one cope in the midst of this collective celebration of manufactured joy?...more

Some Conflicts Don’t Deserve the Direct Approach

In U.S. culture we place a high value on speaking directly when resolving conflicts. Compared to many other cultures across the globe we’re a “put all your cards on the table and let’s talk about this” kind of people. In a setting where each party is concerned about the other person’s needs, this conflict style is ideal. But let’s face it, in the business world that’s often not the case....more

Holiday Conflict Survival Guide

My son and business partner wrote this blog.  I loved it so much I wanted to share it on here....more

Happiness is a warm puppy.

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Intercultural Competence Makes Good Business Sense

It’s a sociological fact; the world is shrinking. Thanks to the relative ease of travel our opportunities for an intercultural experience are growing exponentially. In the business world, this is certainly the case....more

Empower Your Body!

A huge piece of personal empowerment is about having self awareness.  In that spirit, I want to share with you my business partner and co-facilitator Zach Stone's most recent blog on body language. ...more

Earthquakes, Tuna Sandwiches, and Immigrants

I’m an East Coast woman. I like the vibe. I like the steel and the sweat of the Northeast. To be specific, I’m a Philly girl. Not just because I was born here, rather because it speaks to my mixed heritage. My father is a Brooklyn boy and my mother, straight out of the coal regions of upstate Pennsylvania. You put those two together and you get Philadelphia. Tough talking, in your face, working class, small town, down town, up and coming, big city, Philly.  On every street corner there’s a panic button begging to be pushed. And about every twenty-five minutes somebody obliges....more

When public schools don't teach our kids the whole truth it hurts their success rate.

As we move through another campaign year for the U.S. presidency, there’s bound to be a lot of talk about our ailing public education system. The question “should we set aside more money for education or defund it?” will certainly bubble up. While I know it’s important that our education lobbyists’ struggle for a larger piece of the general budget, money is not the only thing we should be discussing.  ...more