Ali Binazir

Hi there! I'm the author of the #1 rated dating advice book on Amazon, The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible (4.9/5.0 stars). My writings are aimed at smart folks like you who are looking to improve their lives -- especially their loves lives -- and become the best possible version of themselves in the process. I draw upon Western science, Eastern wisdom and good ol' horse sense — may you find it all eminently useful.  You can find the rest of my articles at The Tao of Dating blog.

My philosophy is simple: Don’t just listen to me. Instead, test out for yourself the ideas I present to you.  The last words of the Buddha were “Be ye lights unto thine selves”, which roughly means question authority.  Go out there and figure stuff out!  If the ideas work for you, use ‘em. If not, move on and use something else. I’m committed to helping you live a more joyous, fulfilled life and become the best possible version of you.  Would be fabulous if you’d like to come along for the ride.  And if not, no hard feelings.

I hold an A.B. magna cum laude from Harvard College, M.D. from the University of California San Diego School of Medicine, M.Phil. from Cambridge University.  I’m also a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner.  I’ve consulted for Fortune 500 companies as an Associate at McKinsey & Company and have a hypnotherapy practice in Los Angeles, California.  I've also been contributing to the Huffington Post since 2009.

I love to hear from my readers, so if you have a question, put ‘Question’ in the subject line, keep it under 200 words and send it to drali(at)

Six Dangers of Online Dating

Let it be known: I am not a big fan of online dating. Yes, at least one of my best friends found her fabulous fiancé online. And if you live in a small town, or fit a specific demographic (e.g., woman over 45, ultra-busy businessperson, sugar daddy, sneaking around your spouse), online dating may expand opportunities for you. But for the rest of us, we're much better off meeting real live humans eye-to-eye the way nature intended. ...more
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