eleanore wells

Media Personality, Singles Expert & Author of 'The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons for Living Happily Single and Childfree'.  I write and speak about the joys and realities of being a single, childfree woman-of-a-certain age in NYC.  In my other life, I run Golden Door Consulting, my marketing communications and consumer research company, walk my dog, eat at one of the thousands of fab restaurants NYC has to offer and regularly put my passport to good use.

My Blogs

A Word to the Wise. But Which Word?

There were four generations of us eating and laughing and reminiscing and debating and drinking and sharing stories…and it was just great.  One of the topics that came up --as often happens when there are lots of women and wine around-- was men.  It started out as a "can't do with 'em, can't do without 'em, can't kill 'em" kind of conversation.  It eventually evolved (or digressed) into "what should a young woman do?"  And that's when it got tricky.  Lots of women, lots of opinions. Marriage? At what age? Maybe never?  Then what?...more

Milestones for the Modern-Day Single Lady

Every popular woman’s  magazine has, at some point, run an article about things a woman should know by a certain age or lifestage. One of my favorites, by Pamela Redmond Safran, ran in Glamour Magazine.  It’s a smart and fun list of her take on life’s milestones for the 30-year-old woman....more

Yes, People, I Am Still Single

One of the things I like about getting older is that many of the things that used to bother me when I was younger, no longer do.  One of those things that no longer bothers me is being asked --often in an incredulous tone-- why I'm still single.  And its a good thing because it happened, again,  just the other day....more
Eleanore, your post had me laughing from the moment I read the title. I'm divorced and I may ...more

That Troublesome Single Lady

I should start a second blog called "No, Ma'am, I Actually Don't Want Your Husband" because, from time to time, I am accused of that very thing.  I hear similar complaints from other single women.  Last week I was reminded, yet again, how sometimes just being single is enough to make a woman suspect.  Continue reading… http://eleanorewells.com/that-troublesome-single-lady/  EleanoreWhttp://EleanoreWells.com ...more

I Love Kids, I Just Don't Need to Own One

"I love children. I just don't need to own one".  This is one of my favorite quotes from this week’s Time Magazine (August 12 issue)  excellent article by Lauren Sandler on the rise in women choosing not to have children.  The article cites a 2010 Pew Research report that showed that childlessness has risen across all racial and ethnic groups, adding up to about 1 in 5 American women who end their childbearing years maternity-free, compared with 1 in 10 in the 1970s. ...more
Hi Eleanore, I agree that people always believe that something is wrong if a woman decides not ...more

My Friends, Their Husbands

When I am boyfriendless, I tend to rely on other people’s husbands to do the things that my own husband would do, if he existed.  (Well, no, not everything. This is all very G-rated.)If I could’ve figured out a sane way to have a (faithful) husband on a part-time basis, I possibly would have married at some point in my life. Possibly.  But I now realize that I have figured out the part-time-husband thing.  He’s just not my husband. More correctly, they’re not my husband....more

Giving Spinsters A Bad Name

Last week I was on a crowded flight to New Orleans.  A woman boarded with her young son who was, I'm guessing, between 6 - 10 years old.  The airline was unable to give them seats together so Mom was seated in around row 5 and Son was seated in, say, row 9.The mother politely asked the woman seated next to her son if she would mind trading seats with her so mother and son could sit together.  The Mean Lady seated next to the woman's son said "No", and refused to move....more
I hear what you're saying.  But who knows, maybe the women had unloaded lots of stuff and didn't ...more

What Does It Mean To Be A "Leftover Woman"?

The Chinese have an expression for women like me. They're called "Leftover Women".   Leftover women are still single past, well, whatever age it is people think they should be married.  The assumption, of course, is that no man wants these women; they are the ones left after all the desirable women are taken. It seems not to have occurred to users of this phrase that some (many?) of these women are right where they want to be.  ...more

It's the Independence Day #SinglesBlogfest!

July 4 is also the day that I --and dozens of my fellow Singles Bloggers – write on the theme of Independence and what it means for single people. Happy Independence Day!  Continue reading: http://eleanorewells.com/happy-independence-day/  EleanoreWhttp://EleanoreWells.com ...more

Diane Keaton "Comes Around" To Being Single.

Diane Keaton has always been a spinster-I-admire . I like her work and her personality and she always seemed to be happy with her life. So I was a little surprised to read some of her thoughts about being "always single". ...more