Jo Hilder

Blogger, author, cancer coach and cancer survivor from Newcastle, NSW Australia. Writing on cancer and survivorship, womens issues, the intersections between contemporary Christianity and culture, relationships and family life and our own personal journey through mental illness, alcohol addiction and rehabilitation. Published works include God, You Can Take My Mental Illness - Just Not The Part Where You Speak To Me (2012), Things Not To Say To Someone Who Has Cancer (2012, and Soul Letters for the Cancer Sojourner (2013.)

Get My Name Right, Please

If you are someone with the kind of name - either so complicated or too simple - that the world just can't fully grasp it, this is the post for you:...more
 @cdrdash It’s so easy to do, isn’t it? As I have to type people’s names into a computer at work ...more

Get My Name Right, Please

If you are someone with the kind of name - either so complicated or too simple - that the world just can't fully grasp it, this is the post for you:...more
 @alienbody Wow, I see what you mean! :)more

In Defense of the 'Unladylike' Christian Woman

A few months ago I wrote a couple of blogs about men, women, sex, marriage, masturbation, infidelity and Christianity. They were widely read, my blog stats were happy to report. I received some great feedback, too. And a half-joking guarantee I’d never be invited to speak in church in any of the southernmost states of the U.S.A. And that’s quite okay.And then, there was this - emailed directly to me, not left as a comment on the blog:Dear Jo,...more
@DonnaFreedman Hi Donna, in answer to your question, I read the email to him because I knew he'd ...more

In Defense of the 'Unladylike' Christian Woman

A few months ago I wrote a couple of blogs about men, women, sex, marriage, masturbation, infidelity and Christianity. They were widely read, my blog stats were happy to report. I received some great feedback, too. And a half-joking guarantee I’d never be invited to speak in church in any of the southernmost states of the U.S.A. And that’s quite okay.And then, there was this - emailed directly to me, not left as a comment on the blog:Dear Jo,...more
@inbliss01 Agreed. May you find a tribe with whom your faith can be safe :)more

In Defense of the 'Unladylike' Christian Woman

A few months ago I wrote a couple of blogs about men, women, sex, marriage, masturbation, infidelity and Christianity. They were widely read, my blog stats were happy to report. I received some great feedback, too. And a half-joking guarantee I’d never be invited to speak in church in any of the southernmost states of the U.S.A. And that’s quite okay.And then, there was this - emailed directly to me, not left as a comment on the blog:Dear Jo,...more
@headant Indeed! :)more

In Defense of the 'Unladylike' Christian Woman

A few months ago I wrote a couple of blogs about men, women, sex, marriage, masturbation, infidelity and Christianity. They were widely read, my blog stats were happy to report. I received some great feedback, too. And a half-joking guarantee I’d never be invited to speak in church in any of the southernmost states of the U.S.A. And that’s quite okay.And then, there was this - emailed directly to me, not left as a comment on the blog:Dear Jo,...more
@PamelaMason Thanks Pamela, it certainly wasn't easy, but I said nothing I look back on with ...more

In Defense of the 'Unladylike' Christian Woman

A few months ago I wrote a couple of blogs about men, women, sex, marriage, masturbation, infidelity and Christianity. They were widely read, my blog stats were happy to report. I received some great feedback, too. And a half-joking guarantee I’d never be invited to speak in church in any of the southernmost states of the U.S.A. And that’s quite okay.And then, there was this - emailed directly to me, not left as a comment on the blog:Dear Jo,...more
@DonnaFreedman Thanks Donna. Agreed. I plan to be very badly behaved for as long as it takes. :)more

10 Things Breastfeeding Advocates Need To Stop Saying

Editor's note: Today, BlogHer Publishing Network member Jamie Lynne Grumet of I Am Not The Babysitter bravely appeared on the cover ofTIME -- breastfeeding her three-year-old, under the headline "Are You MOM Enough?" The cover is generating quite a bit of controversy: It's shown up on Forbes under the title "Will TIME's Breastfeeding Cover Be Bad for Business? and on Politico as TIME Magazine's Provocative New Cover, to name a couple. Recently, Jamie wrote the below post for BlogHer -- a smart take by an attachment parenting and breastfeeding advocate challenging some of the behaviors she sees. Read her post, take a look at the TIME cover that's causing all the controversy, and let us know in the comments: What do you think? -- Julie One of the main reasons breastfeeding advocates are negatively judged by the mainstream media is their attack on formula feeding mothers as part of their defense. This really angers me, because I feel that some breastfeeding mothers are aiding in the attack and judgment of my family (a family that practices extended breastfeeding) through their malicious statements directed at formula feeding mothers. Photo Credit: Author. Here are 10 phrases all breastfeeding advocates should just stop saying:...more
@Jmorjig I'm glad you did! It took me a long time before I could laugh about it, but I do, I ...more

10 Things Breastfeeding Advocates Need To Stop Saying

Editor's note: Today, BlogHer Publishing Network member Jamie Lynne Grumet of I Am Not The Babysitter bravely appeared on the cover ofTIME -- breastfeeding her three-year-old, under the headline "Are You MOM Enough?" The cover is generating quite a bit of controversy: It's shown up on Forbes under the title "Will TIME's Breastfeeding Cover Be Bad for Business? and on Politico as TIME Magazine's Provocative New Cover, to name a couple. Recently, Jamie wrote the below post for BlogHer -- a smart take by an attachment parenting and breastfeeding advocate challenging some of the behaviors she sees. Read her post, take a look at the TIME cover that's causing all the controversy, and let us know in the comments: What do you think? -- Julie One of the main reasons breastfeeding advocates are negatively judged by the mainstream media is their attack on formula feeding mothers as part of their defense. This really angers me, because I feel that some breastfeeding mothers are aiding in the attack and judgment of my family (a family that practices extended breastfeeding) through their malicious statements directed at formula feeding mothers. Photo Credit: Author. Here are 10 phrases all breastfeeding advocates should just stop saying:...more
My nipples are basically fakers. They are like painted on nipples. When I shoved the inverted ...more

Just Say No: School Pictures Edition

This year, I didn't pre-purchase school pictures. You know the ones. The ones where the photographer says, "Say CHEESE!" and your kid gets a goofy fake grin showing both rows of teeth all the way back to where the wisdom teeth will come in? The ones you have to pay for BEFORE you buy? The cheapest package was $30 or $40. You can get them retaken, but it's a pain. And really -- for three kids' poorly taken pics that we don't even want to give to their own grandparents? I said no....more
Yay! Another mum like me! I’m sure there’s a support group somewhere for evil mothers like ...more