Kathykate Mayer

Advocate for a small CT town that used to be famous for a flagpole. Now writing Today in Newtown to show we aren't so very different from your town, and together we can create change. LTYM 2012 NYC. Nose-ring potty-mouth mom of 2 at home, two in college. Broke.

Lessons Learned from Newtown, Connecticut

Editor's Note: Police confirmed reports of a shooting at Arapahoe High School in Colorado today, a year after the Newtown tragedy. The suspect, a student, is reported to have died of apparently self-inflicted gunshot wounds after injuring two people. BlogHer is monitoring the reports and will update as the story develops. -- Julie If tragedy strikes your town, like it did mine, this may or may not happen to you. Hopefully, you will never know....more

What Back-to-School in Newtown, Connecticut Feels Like

Yesterday was the first day of school, and I so remember last year, when I teased my teenagers and mockingly made a video of them heading off to that first milestone day. The most wonderful day of the year for so many working parents! This year is different. ...more
My heart ached the day I heard about the shooting at Newtown. I remember walking on my treadmill ...more

Newtown: Where Everybody Knows Your Name

I'm having a hard time getting back to life: attending multiple wakes and funerals for dead 7 year olds and dead moms tend to do that. Harsh words, but it's a harsh world we're left with here in Newtown.I'm left speechless. And ambitionless. And aimless. And well, just tired.I sleep a lot these days – soundly, like when I was pregnant and just need to shut my eyes for 10 minutes then zonk out into a deadman's sleep .... oops. Probably shouldn't say that. There's lots of things I can't say anymore, and even more I can't hear....more

Deep, Dark, Dirty Secrets

This title alone is going to get me so many smut comments and skeevy followers, who will no doubt be as disappointed as the bible thumpers who also read me in hopes of first, inspiration, then afterwards with such gusto and full on assault, of saving another lost soul, mine.You lose.This post will be about the intricate, dirty whispered secrets of a marriage. My marriage. What happens to keep the love alive in the bedroom, the bathroom, every nook and cranny of my life....more