Holly

I love life, and I have a strange addiction to stress. And Googling random grammar facts and emailing them to my friends.

I also love my Blackberry, my journal that goes everywhere with me, my hyperactive German Shepherd, McDonalds coffee with two creams, maybe (sometimes) sitting shirtless in the sun on the back deck, and embracing the simple moments of life, because, let's face it - some of them aren't so simple.

I'm a newspaper editor, which allows me to live my current life mission to the fullest every day. I'm also married to it right now and subsequently romantically single. It's a lifestyle I've chosen for myself, though one day I do hope to be a wife and mother.

The Magical Post-Breakup Makeover

After a breakup, particularly one you did not initiate, your self confidence can take a bit of a beating. During this time my friends and I frequently turned to the magical healing powers of a post-breakup makeover. We would change our hair or buy a new outfit and they became our new armour against the hurt....more
I'll go get my hair cut, or spend time shopping, which I don't usually do.more

How Soon Is Too Soon For Couples Therapy?

Since I had not read Bared to You, the first book in Sylvia Day's Crossfire series, I was surprised to find that Eva and Gideon were in couple's counseling. Based on what I had read to that point in Reflected in You, their relationship still seemed young and new. By Eva's own admission, they hadn't been together that long:...more
Given the emotional and mental dynamics of both Eva and Gideon, they needed it! I would consider ...more

How Do You Recharge?

Sometimes, we all need a little time to recharge. We each have our own way of doing that. Sometimes we do it alone. Other times we call upon our friends and loved ones to help us recharge our batteries. In Sylvia Day's Reflected in You, Eva recharges with her best friend, Cary. ...more
I am a classic introvert; I need my time alone to recharge and refuel. I do this in multiple ...more

What Does Independence Mean To You?

At some point, we all strive for a little independence in our lives. We want to make our own decisions -- call the shots. We want to control our own destiny. Eva, the main character in Sylvia Day's Reflected in You, craved independence from an early age, in large part due to the fact that in many ways her mother was dependent on the men in her life. ...more
Wow, this is a great question and has inspired some internal thought. Initially, I want to say ...more

Using Texts To Strengthen Your Relationship

I firmly believe that technology had changed how we do relationships. When we are apart from our loved ones we don't just have to rely on phone calls and letters. We have emails, social media, and yes, even text messages at our disposal as a means to communicate. Sometimes it's easier to put our thoughts out via text than it is in person, as Sophie Morgan discovered in Diary of a Submissive:...more
With loved ones, yes! It's an extra way to say, "hey, I'm thinking about you...love you." In ...more

Using the Internet to Find Your Community

The process of finding your community has changed a lot since the internet came into being. It used to be that we'd have to head out in our actual physical community and attempt to find the people with the same interests as us. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. If it didn't work, you could feel very isolated. When the internet came along, we could find and connect with people that shared those interests from all around the world....more
I don't think "changing my life" is an adequate description, but it's given me the ability to ...more

Where Do You Find Confidence?

Confidence takes many forms. We can have confidence in our abilities. We can have confidence in our personal relationships. Most of all, we can have confidence in ourselves. In Diary of a Submissive, Sophie Morgan shares her story about how she found the confidence to not only take what life threw at her, but also to seek the things she really wanted in life. ...more
I'm extremely confident in my work as a journalist, but in my personal life, I waver. I am ...more

Where Do You Find Confidence?

Confidence takes many forms. We can have confidence in our abilities. We can have confidence in our personal relationships. Most of all, we can have confidence in ourselves. In Diary of a Submissive, Sophie Morgan shares her story about how she found the confidence to not only take what life threw at her, but also to seek the things she really wanted in life. ...more
I find my confidence buried deep inside my heart just waiting to be let loose. I'm so blessed to ...more

What Would You Do If You Couldn't Fail?

Brene Brown's Daring Greatly made me think a lot about failure. When we make ourselves vulnerable we open ourselves to a lot of things, some good and some positive. One of the things that we make possible when we do this is something many people, myself included, fear -- failure. When we make ourselves vulnerable we risk failure and that is a heady, wonderful, terrifying thing. ...more
For me, the answer to the question is the same: I would start a news nonprofit, which has been ...more

Brené Brown Dares Us to Dare Greatly

In Brené Brown's new book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead, she asks us to take the common view that vulnerability is a weakness and throw it in the trash. She asks us to consider instead that vulnerability is necessary. When we show up and allow ourselves to be seen and heard, we are being vulnerable. We are daring greatly. ...more
This book will haunt me in the way that every life changing experience does. Nearly every day ...more