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I'm aware I could be more sensitive because of my secondary infertility background - it took many years, lots of tests, pain, tears, money and effort to have our son. I'll also admit I might be a bit more sensitive since even though my son resembles and acts like me, he's white. So I don't like it when we go out and people ask, 'who's child is that?' and someone else jokingly pipes up, 'mine.'Because often, the other person is white, and therefore other people believe them. I am very proud of my son. He was a real labour of love.  Read more >

I had thought once I had a kid, all those pesky questions would stop. You know, the old, "so when are you going to have one?" or "isn't it about time you started trying?"Having suffered through secondary infertility and three miscarriages for many years, I found these sorts of questions invasive, nosy, triggering and depressive. But I used the opportunity to educate, to tell people I already had three "angel babies" and they hopefully learned never to comment on someone's lack of children ever again.   Read more >