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May your birthing space be prepared in sacredness by those who attend you,as the Grandmothers do.May you climb and surf the mounting peaks with a spirit of adventure,as the Wanderers do.May you surrender to the Dreamtime and gather wisdom from its messages,as the Shamans do.May you roar your fullest Power into being, guided by blessed challenge,as the Warriors do.May you open courageously to the earthbound surge of inexorable manifestation,as the wolves, whales, and bears do.  Read more >

A lovely client of mine recently made an important observation about the tone of many natural, holistic books on pregnancy and birth. She said, "The statement 'You're pregnant! Congratulations! You are now a sacred vessel of life.' makes me angry. Why is it that the act of carrying a baby is what makes me sacred? Am I not already sacred without the need of a pregnancy to create or justify my sacredness?" Indeed.I believe the intent of the sacred vessel statement is to help women embrace how great it is to be gestating a kid, affirming that they are special, worthy of extra self-nurturing. It's not malicious. However, this belief that pregnancy renders us sacred vessels puts an awful lot of pressure on women to match this projected beatific state with beatific behavior...even when they're just not feeling it.  Read more >