Joy F

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Stop Inviting My Kid to Church: Religion Is Not for Children

Recently, a few of Miss N's friends have been sincerely inviting her to church. This part will be touchy for people who do not believe the same as we do and I respect that; I'll raise my kids and you can raise yours. I do not think religion is for children. I think that they should be exposed to the beliefs of all people, and while I will tell my children "this is what Mommy and Daddy believe," I do not expect her to believe the same thing. I'll ask Miss N what she thinks -- and she has some really amazing thoughts on the matter -- but I will not tell her she is wrong if she disagrees with me about the big beliefs....more
All Children Are Born Atheists. They Have No god Until Their parents Force Their Own God upon ...more

dressing the pregnant belly

Pregnancy is such a fun time. Bloating and increasing middle area girth means that all those cute clothes that are neatly folded in your dresser or going to remain neatly folded in that same drawer for some time to come. After my first child I was devastated to discover that no matter how hard I tried, my old pants would not fit me. My (still rather) narrow hips had widened just enough that I had to pack all those jeans, skirts and dress pants in a big black garbage bag and haul them off to Goodwill....more

Everyone Yells: It's What You Do After That Counts

Have you ever met one of those people who will swear up and down that they have never yelled at their kids? It probably made you second-guess your own interactions with your kids as you try to slide the dust bunnies back under the couch because along with their "I never yell at my kids" admission is also the heartfelt assurance that their house is spotless. Here's a secret, they are lying to you. It's not to make you feel bad (it might be). Rather, they want to believe and erase the memory of being the one to cause the kind of pain that comes from being a jerk that makes a child cry. And, everyone wants a clean house. But we can all be jerks. It's part of being human. It's what we do afterwards that counts....more
I used to feel horrible for yelling.  Through a lot of personal work, I realize that moms, ...more

{cross post} breastfeeding in public...

... Is not a terrifying thing. In fact, if you've ever had the opportunity to be breast to the wind you'll know that they are not really that revealed. Babe's face is mooshed in there and you can gently pull the top of your shirt down for coverage. Or, you don't have to. Because you are a feeding a human and that's not terribly offensive, but do you know what is offensive? Chewing with your mouth open and babies don't actually do that....more