Not Fainthearted

Happy 2013! It's true what they say: update your profile every year. Boy, have things changed since I signed on here at Blogher.

So who am I these days and what am I doing in the blogosphere?

I've been blogging since November 2004 and have basically chronicled my journey through divorce, graduate school, corporate work and finding a call as a deaconess. 

I quit my corporate job in December 2011 and am making a go of it as a part-time choir director (the call part) and as an independent leadership consultant. I am bringing the relevant leadership lessons learned in corporate America to the non-profit/religious organizations.

I'm married again - to G. Through him I am a step-mom/MIL to 2 boys aged 31 and 29 and their wives and one grandson. I have two boys aged 21 (DS1) and 18 (DS2). Both in college.

And yes, that means I'm basically surrounded by testosterone. Thanks for asking.

So this year, I'm working from home and trying to stay on a budget that is a little more than a third of what we brought in when I had the corporate paycheck. That way, I can take time to build the business the way it should be and not just take contract jobs that get me right back into the mess I was in before.

We live right in Minneapolis in a 100 year old house with Libby the Wonder Poodle, a yard that is almost all garden.

I write to try to make sense of it all.

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Chicken Soup with Rice

NFH’s Chicken & Rice Soup 3 cloves garlic coarsely chopped 1 T olive oil 1 orange pepper 1/4 ” dice 3 C leftover brown rice (frozen) 2 chicken breasts 4C chicken stock 3-4 T dried parsley 1-2 T herbs de Provence Salt Pepper Oven roast chicken breasts at 350 degrees for 45 minutes. Cut into bite size pieces. Set aside. ...more

Grateful: Almost the end of February edition

An incomplete list of things for which I’m grateful these days: ...more

Faith is waiting

“Faith is different from theology because theology is reasoned, systematic, and orderly, whereas faith is disorderly, intermittent, and full of surprises…. Faith is homesickness. Faith is a lump in the throat. Faith is less a position on than a movement toward, less a sure thing than a hunch. Faith is waiting.” Frederick Buechner ...more


The NaBloPoMo prompts for yesterday and today revolve around being a Superhero. This is such an easy question for me…. for years I’ve known what kind of superpower I would have: The ability to be in two places at the same time – or, the ability to time travel as Hermione Granger did using a Time Turner ....more

Musical Meditation Monday #2

I know you should probably set the pattern securely before breaking it, but this video cam across my desk this week and I have to share it with you now! It’s musical, yes, in the sense that there’s a combo of musicians playing underneath the masterful storytelling of Noah St. John – the winner of the storytelling contest of NPR ....more

Grateful: Baptism of Jesus edition

Today is the day the church remembers (and celebrates in various ways) the Baptism of Jesus. This morning was the first Sunday for me as interim music director and it was a busy one. As is my pattern on Sunday, I’ll a list few of the things for which I’m grateful this week ....more

Saturday Photo 2013-2

The Garden Sentinel Dreams of Spring during the January Thaw ...more

Friday Five – where is home?

Mary Beth at RevGalBlogPals writes: One of the best ways I have found to do this is to give everything that comes into my house a HOME. And I can easily tell that I have too many things when there are not enough homes for them all! I gleaned the idea of items having homes from my younger sister who used to say to her toddlers, “See that book on the floor there? Is that its home? No? Please put ...more

Thursday – mostly drama free

I got a contract letter. There needs to be some discussion about the details. While I’m a bit shocked at the starting point I know my case is strong. I have confidence that this isn’t a malicious or concerted effort to take advantage of me. It was just done quickly and sloppily without considering all the facts. I was able to focus on the actual work that needs doing – although I didn’t get very far. But I did get ...more

Is there a 12-step program for this?

“Hi. I’m NFH and I over-function. Probably so that people will like me and I gain their approval.” The other standard result is that the organization under-functions and I am put in awkward positions and made to be the bad-guy.  Here we are again at another example of me stepping forward in trust, moving forward on a handshake and the organization not following up with the formal agreement ....more