I'm a geeky working mom living in Austin, TX. 

C-Section Remorse: "I Was Robbed of My Birth Experience"

Throughout my pregnancy, I never considered the possibility that I would have a C-section. Who knows where I got this idea, but I just figured a C-section was what “other people had,” people with complications during pregnancy which I didn’t have. I only skimmed the chapters on C-section in my pregnancy books and we paid little to no attention to the C-section video in our prepared childbirth class. Needless to say, I had a C-section....more
I don't feel robbed of the birth experience so much as I worry about the long-term health ...more

Why HRC's Equality Sign Made Me See Red

Last week, in support of gay marriage being argued before the Supreme Court (California's Prop. 8 and DOMA, specifically), a few million folks changed their Facebook profile photo to the red equal sign created by the Human Rights Campaign....more
@leahmsilverman Maybe because it's a symbol that many associate with disenfranchisment and ...more

Does Breastfeeding Cause Divorce?

Admittedly, most talk of the health care bill and the state of medical care in our country causes my eyes to glaze over. (Apologies to my many friends who are talented, valuable doctors.) But this spring, new research was released with quite a splash, catching my attention. ...more
If breastfeeding causes a rift in your marriage and your husband doesn't step up to be a ...more

Parenting Decisions, Feminism and the Stay-at-Home Mom

I have a few memories of being a little girl. In one, I am clinging to my mother's leg as she tries to leave me at daycare. I'm hysterical, and all I want is her softness, the smell of her hair in my hands. ...more
I knew before my daughter was born that I wanted to work while being a mother. My mother worked ...more

"Real Women Have Curves" and Other Ways You're Not Helping

Posting a picture of Sophia Loren or Christina Hendricks on your Facebook as if it were some sort of radical, daring alternative to opressive patriarchal beauty standards is foolish at best, and harmful at worst. Seeing these kinds of images doesn't make me feel good, it makes me feel like being a womanly, curvaceous Venus is the only alternative I have to being super-skinny. The reality is that I, like many women, am neither very skinny nor lush and voluptuous. I have fat on my thighs and small boobs. I am imperfect. Where do I fit into this dichotomy? ...more
I just wish we'd learn to stop basing our self-worth on our appearance. Who cares if you have ...more

Why I Agree With Mitt Romney About "The Very Poor"

Editor's note: In a CNN interview last Wednesday, Mitt Romney told Soledad O'Brien, "I'm not concerned about the very poor." The soundbite, as the New York Times put it, quickly "richocheted" through the media, and was used in an ad made by th ...more
I think if you were in the 15% of Americans truly struggling, who are in desperate need of help, ...more

What Happened at Komen: Weak Leadership Makes A Weak Retreat

Apparently bowing to lefty pressure, the Susan G. ...more
My feelings on this are that while, yes, some people within the Komen Foundation are pro-life ...more

Do You Respond to Comments?

To respond to comments or not; in the comment thread or directly through email; to use your time to read more blog posts or to hold more conversations... these are the dilemmas many bloggers grapple with, including Sophisticated Dorkiness who asks what people tend to do with their comments. ...more
I try to respond to comments most of the time. For one, it's just polite, and for another, it's ...more

Stop Asking How I'm Feeling -- or Give Me a Nickel

If I had a nickel for every time someone has asked me, since I announced my pregnancy, "How are you feeling?" my unborn child would have a pretty sizable start to her college fund already. Unfortunately, you don't get nickels when people ask you uncomfortable questions. You just get a whole lot of awkward....more
@LucindaA I do understand, and that's why I try hard (usually) to be polite in my response. I ...more

This Whole Working Mothers Are Happier Thing

Last week, one of my favorite bloggers wrote a post for babble, basically kicking anderson cooper in the teeth for reopening a debate it seems that women have worked tirelessly to get beyond ... Who works harder? Working mothers or stay at home mothers? and Dr. Drew (who i usually have a lot of love for) also had a show that also addressed the question of stay at home vs working mothering. ...more
Thanks! I actually wonder how this study would apply to fathers as well. I think there is ...more