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is enjoying watching the number of "reads" increase on my posts since ex found my blog. Wonder how many people he sent it out to...

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Same situation, different interpretations, and an added helping of guilt trips

8/8/10 5:39am by RedPhoenix
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For the last two months, I have been gently trying to get my ex to agree to changing his access for the (Canadian) Thanksgiving weekend...and today, he finally agreed to do it the way I've been suggesting (insert Happy Dance here!). May I repeat though...I have been working on this for TWO MONTHS...and Canadian Thanksgiving isn't for another two months!  Read more >

Best Revenge After Leaving an Abusive Marriage

8/1/10 4:47pm by RedPhoenix
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One might think that the best revenge after leaving an abusive marriage includes candles, incense, sacrificing a small animal, bumping into the ex with a VERY handsome man on your arm, or, um well, something illegal...but it's NOT.  The best revenge is getting your life back in order, as fast as you can, to show that he no longer has any power over you and your decisions.  As part of the "month from hell", he forced me to resign from a fulltime, permanent position I held at a university...who on  Read more >

Example of an "escalation"

7/21/10 9:51am by RedPhoenix
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My best friend and I were chatting yesterday, musing about how my ex is starting to escalate, and wondering if he is going to escalate in the same pattern as he did after I had him removed from our home by police.  Last night, he proved our pondering to be correct.  In my experience though, predictability is good... Without going into too many details, my ex decided to report a "safety concern" at my apartment for one of our kids to the authorities.  As my mother put it this morning, any "normal person" would offer to help fix this concern, rather than  Read more >

People's reactions are all over the spectrum

7/20/10 9:45am by RedPhoenix
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After my husband and I split, it took me a few weeks to feel stable enough to start reconnecting with friends.  As I told my story, I received many reactions, some supportive and some were astonished, but I usually knew which reaction I was going to receive, depending on who I was speaking with.  Some examples: "But you two are the perfect couple."  - Thank you but I knew how to act to seem like we were. "Can't you two work it out?" - Umm...no...and I have the police reports to show why we shouldn't try to work it out. "  Read more >

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Full Name
Meghan
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April 2010
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Canada, Ontario

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Mom, Single mom, funny, sarcasm, happy, separation, kids, twins, soul-searching

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