The Smartest Women You Should be Following on Twitter

Fast Company came up with their list of the 25 smartest women on Twitter, and no one can deny that there are intelligent women on the list. The problem with the list is the same problem that often comes whenever a single organization or person compiles a list: it lacks diversity. It lacks diversity in colour, ideology, follower numbers. Their list is exactly the people you've come to expect to find on a "smart women" list and lacks the brilliant women YOU follow on Twitter: the ones that blow your mind with the way they can sum up enormous thoughts in 140 characters. ...more
Martha Plimpton, Michelle Obama, Tammy Baldwin, June Thomas, Stefania Pomponi, Judy Blume, Isa ...more

14 Things They Don't Tell You About Making Babies

If you got pregnant on your honeymoon or totally by accident, this post is not for you. The acts required to make babies in a heterosexual relationship are supposed to be fun. They are awesome. They are supremely enjoyable. If you are specifically doing the sex to make-a the babies, some of the recreation gets sucked out of it. ...more
Nobody told me that it would be really easy to get pregnant. Then when we'd be ready to do it ...more

Why We Love Our Elf on the Shelf

Well here we are, not a day into the month of December and already I've seen more bitterness about what some moms do over others in terms of the Christmas season. I've already read an ugly handful of articles that mock moms just like me, with dozens of people patting them on the back. And you know what? I'm already sick of it. Sick of the idea that if someone decides something is right for THEIR family, that it must be how it should be done across the board, that somehow certain moms were granted with a supernatural knowledge that the rest of us poor souls were left without. I'm sick of it being OK to mock any mother that goes above and beyond what "you" are choosing (or willing) to do....more
Thanks for the perspective!more

20 Things This Mother Will Probably Never Tell Her Son

[Editor's Note: This week, BlogHer learned an important internet lesson: Memes are people, too. BlogHer stumbled across the post below, written by Joella at Fine and Fair, in a Facebook link, and we were intrigued by the core idea of it—20 Things To Say Or Not To Say To Our Sons—and by the fact that the meme/post had been shared what looked like millions of times, and that hundreds of people had been responding and making their own lists in response. So we decided to syndicate Fine and Fair's post, as we knew it would kick off an interesting and passionate conversation. But in these days of hyperconnectivity and the all-seeing Google, even anonymous memes eventually link back to their creator. When Joella was alerted in comments that there was an actual author of the post, she responded by revising her post, naming WerdyAb as the author and linking to the original post within the BlogHer.com post, thinking she was righting a wrong. Of course! All of us in the blogosphere believe that crediting people for their work is of utmost importance. But the simple act of attaching a real live author -- a person -- to formerly faceless meme utterly changed the tone of the post, and made its humor seem sharp, its jabs more cruel, than how they'd appeared in the original version. And truth is, it took all of us a BlogHer a few days to understand and even SEE what had happened to tip the apple cart on the post as the comments were mounting. So we want to publicly apologize to Werdyab for the hurt she felt and all the attention, much of it negative, that was focused on her. We deeply regret that series of events. At BlogHer, community, respect and a sense of safety in expressing our opinions are traits we treasure, and we don't want to do anything to threaten that. We want to thank the many who spoke out on Twitter or sent us emails, which helped us focus on the unfortunate and unintended series of events. And we'd like to acknowledge Joella's honorable responses and efforts to make this right, as well. She is not to blame for how this played out.We work hard to be sure that everyone feels welcome; we value this above everything -- especially above page views. And that is why we are making this public explanation today. --Stacy Morrison, Editor-in-Chief]Last night, after a lovely and heartwarming evening at an annual fundraiser for my place of employment, I settled in with a cup of tea and my laptop to wind down before bed. Several friends had shared a list entitled "20 Things A Mother Should Tell Her Son." I thought to myself, "I am a mother! And I am going to have a son! I should read this!" I took a sip of tea as I clicked and prepared for even more loveliness and heart warmth to round out my night, but found my heart filled with...something other than warmth....more
@ltorres78 On her own blog, she did write a post of 25 things she would tell her son (and daughter).more

Give Yourself the Gift of Not Caring About Your Social Media Stats

"I am so happy for you!" Sometimes we say these words honestly, our entire being buzzing with excitement for the other person, and sometimes we say these words while quietly thinking in our head: why them and not me? Why do they have an average of 89 comments on any given post when I only have 10? Why did they make that best of blogs list and I didn't? How do they collect so many Twitter followers when my numbers stay exactly the same day-to-day? ...more
I'm glad to read this. I love my stats and check them often. They don't get me down, but seeing ...more

Our Preoccupation with the Perfect Pregnant Body

Rumors swirled this week about the suspected, but likely soon-to-be-officially-confirmed, second pregnancy of pop star Jessica Simpson. ABC News blogger Luchina Fisher encapsulates the skewed cultural mindset when it comes to women and body image when she writes: “Jessica Simpson could be gaining back some of the 60-plus pounds she lost after giving birth to daughter Maxwell Drew in May.”...more
What gets me is less the issue of wanting to see or show off a pregnant body. My issue is with ...more

Why I Hate The Elf On The Shelf

I'm not happy about this post. I love mocking ridiculous things, but I feel most comfortable poking fun at stuff I like. Things like my college football team, my kids' quirks, my brother's ability to get free stuff from anyone he meets, and how my mom identifies herself by name when she leaves me a message. "Oh, hi Amy. This is your mom. Susan." My favorite target is myself. But today I turn my disdain outward, to a society that complains about consumerism and too many commitments, but spends $30 dollars for the privilege of managing the "magic" of a cheaply made stuffed elf during the busiest month of the year....more
@lauriewrites Yes! I'm way over all the elf pictures!more

Why I Hate The Elf On The Shelf

I'm not happy about this post. I love mocking ridiculous things, but I feel most comfortable poking fun at stuff I like. Things like my college football team, my kids' quirks, my brother's ability to get free stuff from anyone he meets, and how my mom identifies herself by name when she leaves me a message. "Oh, hi Amy. This is your mom. Susan." My favorite target is myself. But today I turn my disdain outward, to a society that complains about consumerism and too many commitments, but spends $30 dollars for the privilege of managing the "magic" of a cheaply made stuffed elf during the busiest month of the year....more
We've had an elf on the shelf for two years, but I didn't know it was anything more than a ...more